7. Life is cumulative.
Any and everything you do in life will always be in your file. You can’t use excuses like, “I was young” or “It was college” and think that people will excuse your actions. They won’t. In fact, they’ll bring it up at the most inopportune times. For that very reason, I want you to always exercise good judgment in everything you do.
8. There’s a big difference between independent and self-sufficient.
When you hear women talk about being “independent,” ignore that crap. Men don’t want independent women, women want independent women. Men want self-sufficient women. Men have to feel like their needed and wanted, when you’re independent you push away others because you don’t need them. Self-sufficient women need less but if they need to be relied on to do something, a man can trust that it will get done.
9. Learn to let stuff go.
I have this list of women called, “That’s that ish I don’t like.” It’s filled with women I can’t stand, I may tolerate their presence a little, but I don’t fancy it. The #1 leading cause of women who end up on this list is they don’t know how to let things go. They carry baggage around for years, they hold grudges, they always “I’m gonna remember that”, or they always bring up things from the past that really don’t matter all that much anymore. Don’t be one of those women, learn to let things go and move on with your life. It will make you happier and leave you holding onto a lot less stress.
10. Nobody cares about your story.
You’re going to have this undying desire to always tell people reasons for your actions or why you are the way you are. No one is going to care about that. They are only focused on what you actually do, not why you do it. No one will accept an excuse for failure because of horrible circumstance. Use your circumstance as motivation, not a crutch.
Above all else, I’ve always told people that my plan is to be a great father. That was one of my goals in life that I had at an early age, I just wanted to be a great father. It didn’t have anything to do with my father not always being around, because he was. It didn’t have anything to do with wanting to represent for my race, because I don’t feel any pressure or responsibility to do that. It actually came from a place of vanity. I just want creatures on this planet in the image of myself. With that said, I need to make sure that they are the coolest creatures on the planet because their dad will be the coolest dad on the planet.
Whoever you hate will end up in your family. You don’t like gays? You’re gonna have a gay son. You don’t like Puerto Ricans? Your daughter’s gonna come home with Livin’ La Vida Loca!
With that said, I always hated the cool kids table at lunch.
– Dr. J
35. There’s things that men can do, that you can’t do because they probably shouldn’t be doing it either.
4. I trust your judgment, but it is my duty as your father to not like any man you bring to this house until he’s my son-in-law.
If you don’t bring him to the house, I will find him. Don’t make me go looking for him. I will always want to know, even if I’m not close to him, who is involved with matters of your heart.
There will be plenty of feminists who try and tell you that women and men can all do the same things, that’s not true. Just because men sleep around and are rewarded does not mean you can do that too. It’s not just sex, but it’s any of those things on the long list of gender norms that make absolutely no sense. If a man’s behavior detests you because you feel that there’s a double standard at play, make sure you even agree with the actions before jumping at the opportunity to play copycat.
If it’s not WorldStar, it’s Youtube, or any other platform that allows you to post videos. If you make a video expect that it will find it’s way to the Internet unless you are the only person who has a copy and you never ever lose your phone or allow someone use of your computer. The point is… if I find out you’re on WorldStar, that’s your ass.