Older women who date younger men, affectionately known as “cougars” in most social circles, are awesome. There are a number of reasons not limited to the fact that many studies have shown they actually have higher sex drives than their younger counterparts. You don’t believe me? Here’s a quote from a TIME article on the subject:
Women ages 27 through 45 report not only having more sexual fantasies (and more intense sexual fantasies) than women ages 18 through 26 but also having more sex, period. And they are more willing than younger women to have casual sex, even one-night stands. In other words, despite the girls-gone-wild image of promiscuous college women, it is women in their middle years who are America’s most sexually industrious. – Source: TIME
The more you know! Having been fortunate enough to experience grappling with a cougar in my youth, I was asked to provide my take on the subject for BadOnlineDates.com’s Male Point of View. An excerpt:
The definition for describing a ‘cougar’ is quite fluid. For example, a popular Urban Dictionary definition labels her as, “An ‘older,’ experienced woman who happens to find herself in a sexual relationship (committed or not) with a younger man. She is not necessarily a slut, nor is she desperate. She offers sexual expertise and is open to new experiences.She simply wants to have fun.” An ABC News story exploring the emerging phenomenon in the early 2000s is a bit more specific, “women usually in their 30s and 40s, who are financially stable and mentally independent and looking for a younger man to have fun with.” Last but not least, Dictionary.com:
Cougar [koo-ger] noun, Informal. An older woman who seeks sexual relationships with much younger men: He’s in his twenties, but he prefers cougars in their forties and fifties to young women his own age.
Combining these definitions for today’s purposes, I’ll liberally define a cougar as: an older woman, at least 30 years or older, who purposely dates younger men, at least 6 years or more her junior, who is usually more financially stable and mentally independent than the younger men she dates. I grappled in fierce hand-to-hand combat with a few wild cougars in my younger years. I’ve earned my scars. My oldest encounter involved a woman 15 years my senior – I’ll respectfully refuse to provide her age.
For many men, dating older women is a strange transition period. Honestly, for most men, it’s strange when women your own age hit on you. You see, women dominate decades of a man’s life by mostly informing him he’s not what they’re looking for. When you’re in High School, girls want college-men, when you’re in college, women want working-men. It isn’t until around the quarter-century mark before most women, older or younger, will pay the average man any significant amount of attention.
That is why I’d like to use my in-depth knowledge with cougar encounters of the close kind to share five tips on how to survive a cougar attack for the next generation of would be prey.
1. She’s older not handicap. Young gents, just because she’s older doesn’t mean she has a disability. Pretending as if you’re doing her a favor by entertaining her company will do nothing more than lead to ignored text messages and phone calls. By the way, if she’s over 25, make sure she’s ok with text messages over phone calls and don’t assume. This woman might require a bit more effort than the dyed-blonde-haired-red-cup-holding women you’re typically used to engaging. In other words, you’re likely not going to text your way to the promise land with a cougar, bro.
2. Don’t worry about money. Most cougars recognize your status in life. You’re younger and you won’t be as financially established as her or men her age. She knows this; she probably doesn’t care. Don’t let what’s lacking in your wallet intimidate you from showing off what you are capable of providing, which, at minimum, should be showing her a very good time…read more.
Fellas, have you had any cougar experiences you’d like to share – positive or negative? Any tips for the younger generation you’d like to pay forward? Ladies, as you’ve gotten older has your willingness to entertain the advances of younger men grown? What are the pros/cons of dealing with a younger man? Have any tips for the young men in the audience in improving their approach or odds of success?