Men Don’t Like Pretty Women

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Just waking up in the morning, gotta thank God, I don’t know but today seems kinda odd…and it probably felt odd because the first headline I came across today read, “Your Gross Face Shape is Probably Ruining Your Chances of Finding Love.” Ready your helmets, because your mind is about to be blown! An excerpt from the article:

Is the shape of your face ruining your chances of finding life-long love and therefore happiness and a satisfactory life? Some British scientists found that the shapes of women’s heads are correlated to whether men consider them desirable for short or long-term relationships.

According to the study’s authors, men “may actually prefer less attractive/feminine women” as long-term partners, because they say this might boost confidence regarding fidelity. People have also made this argument about women.

In conclusion, science just proved that when it comes to long-term relationships, men don’t like attractive/pretty women after all (and apparently, some women prefer ugly less than top-tier handsome men, which SBM wrote about here). As an added bonus, this might finally end the debate on why handsome men continuously sleep with ugly less than physically desirable women and seem rather content to have children with aesthetically-challenged women.

On a serious note, I’m not particularly surprised by these findings. As anyone knows, I like starring at pretty women as much as the next man (see my Instagram follows for an expansive list of #SuperficialFollow recommendations, fellas), but there are some women I wouldn’t approach or marry based off their physical appearance alone. I usually attributed this to the fact that they look like more trouble than they’re worth. I don’t need those kind of problems in my life. Frankly, I make romantic judgments based on women’s physical appearance – looks, clothes, and other – and based on my admittedly biased, pre-conceived, uninformed assumptions, I draw conclusions – sometimes without ever talking to the woman I’m making judgments about. The only difference between yesterday and today is now I have science on my side. Put it this way, if I see two women of relative equal attraction standing side-by-side and one looks like she enjoys only the finer things in life and one looks like she simply enjoys living life,  guess which one I’m going to approach? Before placing your bets remember, “but I’m not a rapper.”

Enough about me! Share your thoughts on this study in the comments below.

Fellas, have you ever found a woman “too pretty” to marry? Has a woman’s physical attractiveness, clothes she wears, or accessories she does or doesn’t have on ever counted against her?

Ladies, do you think this study is accurate? Do you believe your looks or the looks of some extremely attractive friend you know have actually caused men not to see her as a potential long-term partner?

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  • Chris

    Let me be the first to say… "HEEELLLLLLLLLLLLL NO" lol

  • SMilez_920

    LMAO… I think we forget that there is a middle group of people between “A dime and a mud duck”. Average looking (6’s – 8’s) marry each other. Also good men don’t marry for pretty they marry for substance/peace/love. Not saying a man will marry a woman he has no attraction to because she’s cool but if it’s between a 10 that’s a headache and a 7 that meets all his needs, he taking the 7. I think people confuse men’s lust for 10’s with them liking/loving every ten that walks in the room. Which leads to my next point

    I think some “pretty” or very attractive woman (9’s and 10’s) confuse a lot of men lusting over them with a lot of men actually liking them. So if you’re dating a guy who just lusting over you of course he probably doesn’t see you as long term.

    • WIM

      I think some “pretty” or very attractive woman (9’s and 10’s) confuse a lot of men lusting over them with a lot of men actually liking them.

      Ya know, I was watching a debate on Twitter that reminded me how prominent this phenomenon is. You see, there's a device – a friend told me this by the way – that is basically a fake lady part shoved into a flashlight. It's the TOP SELLING DEVICE of all time. Next, I think we all know men masturbate. So, the fact that a woman – any woman – would base her value on how many men are lusting after her or willing to sleep with her given the two facts mentioned before is amazing. That's basically saying "I equate myself to an inanimate object, and men who lust after me – who have the same lust for an inanimate object – are demonstrating my value and thus I will determine myself worth based on that."

      But…WIM is sleep.

    • cynicaloptmst81

      LMBO! This "mud duck" description will not die anytime soon, will it?????

      Thanks, Dark Girls Documentary…

      • Adonis

        @Cyn81

        War Pig is a term dem white folk use.

        And, we have just cruel names for the fat & unshapely women.

    • Bree

      Amen & Hallelujah Smilez.

  • http://whatyouallow.com/ Wildflower

    I would assume it rare but it does happen. Pretty girls are stuck with the stigma that they are stuck up and high maintenance. So I can see why men would go in the opposite.. but this is hardly the truth.
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  • jdoubleu

    Hmm. I'm gonna have to agree w/ Smilez. Extremely attractive women cause so many headaches. Their constant need for attention and affirmation of their fineness can get old after awhile. And even a solid 8 or 9 is likely a high 6 or 7 without the makeup and extra stuff.

    So yeah I'd rather take a naturally pretty 7-8 with a dope personality than a made up high 8 or 9 who is nothing more than an armpiece. As far the clothing/accessories thing, as long as she's trendy, she'll get caught by me. If you don't live on South Beach, don't dress like it year-round
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    • SMilez_920

      lol not all extremely attractive women are headaches, but for the ones that are a solid 8 can get a annoying 10's man with ease. Remember he's attracted physically to both the 8 and the 10 so the tie breaker is other qualities (personality, smarts, whose less crazy), sometimes that will have the tables turn in favor of the less attractive woman.

    • Jenna

      wait today's society is women who disguise there features with makeup is a 9 or 10 and women who are naturally pretty without makeup is a 6 or 7??

  • Streetz

    Insert "Light skinned" before "Pretty" and you got it.

    Im kidding. *ducks*

    seriously, i can see the logic, but theres more to a ideal mate than a pretty face! It doesnt hurt, tho!

    • Beautiful N/Out

      not funny. I’ve been recognized as pretty with good personality by guys of every race and every age, and am proudly dark skinned.. you wouldn’t have said it if there wasn’t anything there. (said by a former psychology major).

      • Beautiful N/Out

        Oh, and I’m not a duck, that term has nothing to do with dark skin.

  • Calicker

    That is kind of funny but I definitely can see the correlation. Always was taught growing up with older male figures (good or bad influences)…you kick it or hook up with the 9 and 10's of the world but, ultimately, settle down with 6.8-8. I never understood why until I got first hand experience dating both. A trophy on your arm is always a fan favorite, especially, in public but as you are looking for that one to start a family, build your business, or spend the rest of your days with; you start to search for the one that is ok not being in the limelight or "center of attention" as much.

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  • http://www.greaterunderstanding.net Anthony Brian Logan

    the physical appearance of a beautiful woman is not a deterrent but the personality and the internal workings that create the beautiful woman are. narcissism & materialism are the cornerstones of outward beauty. those qualities make for someone great to look at but not so great to live with.
    My recent post BLACK KIDS – YOU CAN DO IT TOO!

  • http://www.greaterunderstanding.net Anthony Brian Logan

    having said all that … men still love beautiful women and will chase them to the ends of the earth until the end of time.
    My recent post BLACK KIDS – YOU CAN DO IT TOO!

    • Bree

      "men still love beautiful women and will chase them to the ends of the earth until the end of time."
      Truth.Org Anthony.

    • Beautiful N/Out

      it is appreciated- all smiles.

  • chi9ja

    i am only responding to this post to tell people that i wont be responding to this post as it's just too dumb & annoying.

  • http://twelvepointbuck.tumblr.com/ 12 Point Buck

    Being pretty and not being annoying aren't mutually exclusive. I keep hearing the sentiment that pretty girls are trouble.

    Some girls are trouble, period. Even 6s, 7s, and 8s can be annoying. In fact, in my experience, pretty chicks have always been WAY nicer to be around than average looking chicks.

    • Bibi

      Well said

  • cynicaloptmst81

    This is where generalizing becomes dangerous. There are pretty cool girls, pretty lame girls, attractive cool girls, attractive lame girls, unattractive cool girl, and unattractive lame girls. Woman come in all shapes and sizes…color and flavors. If you see one that floats your fancy, chat her up a bit to find out which category she falls in…don't assume. The same is true for men (if you're down with approaching them which I am not, lol).

    Based on the idea of not wanting to get rejected though, it makes logical sense that a man/woman will approach the person who, while being attractive, seems least likely to shoot them down. I don't know that that equates to a rounder face or a square jaw line or what, lol. Stats, shmats, LOL…

    • WIM

      If you see one that floats your fancy, chat her up a bit to find out which category she falls in…don't assume. I gotta disagree, although I've had this debate quite often.

      Most of the fellas in my circle don't operate with the mindset of "miss one, missed out." For us, this has never made sense nor is it how I personally view the world. Put simply, "I can't miss what I never met/had." If I choose not to approach a particular woman, I just assume I'll approach another woman around the way. (Some) women seem to feel some type of way that I (or other men) would have admittedly superficial ways of judging women I don't know and haven't met. But the inverse of that is to…approach every woman? That seems equally pointless. Yes, some of my discernment is based on superficial qualities – usually preferences that have been informed by experience and bias gained over 30 years and counting. In fairness, women are equally if not more superficial than men. The only difference is (most) men approach and (most) women wait to be approached.

      We've revisited this a 1,000 times but there is literally nothing stopping women from getting off their ass, coming up with their own superficial list of qualities, and approaching men. Until that happens, honestly men will continue to dictate whom, how, and with what frequency they approach women.

      Based on the idea of not wanting to get rejected though, it makes logical sense that a man/woman will approach the person who, while being attractive, seems least likely to shoot them down.

      +1,000. I hope women don't think men liked to get turned down, because we do not. It's simply a necessary evil.

      • cynicaloptmst81

        Yeah, I'm not saying every woman. And, I done told you I'm #TeamSuperficial too (in different ways though, I'm sure), lol…so I get that discernment will be based on superficial qualities. But, whenever you come to a point when you are going back in forth in your mind about approaching a woman…should I or shouldn't I, I say, go for it. But, of course I would cause I have nothing to lose, LMBO! *shrugs*

        I done also told y'all that I have deep, 24 yr old scars that prevent me from approaching men. So, I accept those terms. I sit…and I wait, LMBO. I have no issues with this. Works for me…

    • SMilez_920

      True. You can’t generalize. What’s a 10 to one person is just alright to another. There are plenty of women who fall into the groups stated above.

      I always wonder what the men who took these surveys/ always have something to say about were a woman falls on the number scale look like.

      • cynicaloptmst81

        I admit that generalizing is just what we humans do. But, we def run the risk of being wrong from time to time. If that's ok, cool. If we wanna be sure, gotta do the legwork to see what's up.

        I'd tell a story here. But…let's just say (regarding judging personalities from looks) that I've assumed and later found out my initial assumption was right…and I've assumed and been sooooooo wrong that I'm now thanking God that He intervened so that I can experience what it actually is. Not knowing what you're missing is cool…until you find out what you missed.

      • WIM

        I'm trying to get the fellas to make an official "1 – 10" scale but they aint listening to me. They don't want to make the streets hot.

        It's summer tho, TURN DOWN FO WHAT?!?

        • cynicaloptmst81

          Lawd, LOL…

          …just asking for an uprising! LOL…

          I personally think scales are subjective and specific to individuals…based on preferences.

        • Uncle Hugh, BP

          I'd do it.

    • Beautiful N/Out

      tell it girl. You know, funny enough, it makes sense that if a girl wonders things about guys and the way they act or what they do, the girl should ask a guy. Welp, with all the male friends I’ve had, they’ve never asked me.. but mayb if they did, they would know that many pretty girls are really nice, just generally don’t get approached. So in all, a guy could be missing out on someone they’re attracted to from the inside out. –All cuz of this assumption. ..its ashamed. (dragged sarcastic voice).lol.

  • Rich

    If i'm settling down with her, she may not be A 10, but she'd be MY 10….. #JustSayin

  • Truth Be Told

    All the extremely attractive (and sometimes crazy) women I know are married and/or in serious relationships. Halle Berry, from all indications, is likely crazy but she stays with a ring on her finger. Who else? Elizabeth Taylor was married how many times again? So yeah, men DO like pretty women. And saying a man would choose a 6-8 with a great personality over a 10 with no personality is hardly a fair comparison, is it? How about they both have great personalities but one is a 10 and one is a 6? Exactly….. Finally, don't believe the hype. Despite all you hear to the contrary, there's always a long line of men waiting to talk to that one pretty girl at the bar, stank attitude or not. And they patiently wait their turn too. This study is garbage but then again, lately, which study isn't?

    • Smilez_920

      Lol having multiple bad relationships is a whole lot different than having one solid healthy relationship. Quality over quantity.

      Trust we all know men love be pretty women, and lots of beautiful women are married just like lots of women who someone one might seem less attractive are married. Basically all these studies just prove that looks don’t guarantee anything when it comes to a relationship.

      • Paul B.

        The only thing looking good solves is wanting to look good. Nothing else. Looking good will get you in the door, but you still have to deliver the goods.

  • langwichartz

    Reality is a lot of people today both overestimate and underestimates themselves in relation to the 1-10 scale. *shrugs*

  • WellEnuff

    Settling down with a 10 is always tougher because she knows, as well as you do, that she always has other options. If a better option comes along, she could hop on that in a second. A 6 or 7 is less likely to take that chance because they'll be happy with what they can get… That sounded horrible, but I meant it in a nicer way.

    • 7sins

      But a 10 has to stay a 10 if she lets herself go to a 8 or 9 then he could leave her for the next 10.
      Some girls could be a 10 and see themselves as a 7 and be with a guy who she thinks is 10. Just cause she Looks like a 10 to You…she may not see herself as a 10. Or what about those 3's who think there 10's and are with 9's and 10's? the number scale varies to ever single person.

    • JustAGirl

      This is one of the most honest posts I have read….THIS ^^^ is the long and short of why guys marry 6's & 7's. Truth.com.org.biz

  • mstoogood4yall

    i think some men go for attractive women regardless how crazy or spoiled they are just watch bridezillas lol smh. Some men are wiser and don't date those kind of women because they aren't worth the debt, headache and heartache. I think when men are young they go after beautiful women, then when those women act crazy and materialistic they go for the less attractive woman. I think it all boils down to them gettin with a less attractive woman because they've dated more attractive women and it not work out, so they mature and change up what they are doing. But i think if a man had a choice between 2 women that could cook, clean, were smart, and was a freak, they'd choose the more attractive woman, but if the less attractive woman can do those things and the more attractive one can't then i think they would go for the less attractive woman.

    • Jenna

      I too have seen bridezillas and there were ugly girls who were expensive, gold diggers, and couldn't cook either. but I'm not sure that make sense to me. I'm from Florida and there's plenty of attracting women who can cook, clean, and are smart. We have many ethnic races who are models and live regular lives. I could be wrong but this seem as a stereotype that ugly = easy and more domestic and pretty = high maintenance and difficult. I feel like men or boys are going to date who ever they want and when things get tough they lower their standards on beauty and go for a less attractive female same goes for a women. But beauty and ratings very in everyone's eyes.

      • JustAGirl

        I 100% agree with you Jenna. Some of those Bridezillas are butt-ugly, horrible attitudes AND gold diggers and their men STILL spoil them :-/

  • Jenna

    As interesting as this post is? Has anyone ever seen a couple and seen one spouse as prettier than the other. I noticed a few of the males saying they would settle with a 6-8 but is it possible that others might see you as a 5-7 and the female in a higher rank. Not to deflate anyone's ego lol. Isn't it possible that what you settle for might be equivalent to your own rating. Such as settling for a 7-8 and you could possibly a 7-8 also. But I guess this has to do with beauty being in the eye of the beholder.

  • 12 Point Buck

    This is further complicated by the fact that men and women both overestimate their attractiveness.

    If she thinks she's an 8, she's probably a 6. If he thinks he's a 7, he's probably a 4. Here's a stat:
    On a survey of men and women under the age of 30… 28 percent of women and 30 percent of men rated themselves between an 8 and a 10.

    So we essentially have bunch of average-looking people walking around feeling and acting like they look pretty good. I'm all for having self confidence, but self knowledge is just as important. Acting like you're a 9 or a 10 is just gonna backfire– I've witnessed it with my own eyes. Let's not fake the funk, y'all.

    • cynicaloptmst81

      + Infinity!!!!!!!!!

    • WIM

      Wait….so you're saying I'm a 4?

    • http://www.OpinionatedMale.com Mr SoBo

      I totally cosign this comment. In this day and age of narcissism, attention mungers and dehydrated folks running around gassing people up in real life and on social media, the resulting effect is a distorted perception of one's own level of attractiveness.

      Case and point, there are many thirsty men who will hollar at anything. And I mean anything with a vajajay with the most absurd of compliments. And those on the receiving end will eat it up.

      Additionally, with the assortment of social media outlets like FB, twitter and Instagram where photos are uploaded of mediocre people who probably took 500 pictures to finally get the best one to upload. And let the gassing begin. The "likes" and the comically thirsty commentary will pour like rain. And again, this mediocre person has now attained a distorted sense of attraction aided by their own narcissism and fueled by the thirst hounds.

      Thirst is a two way street.

      Mr. SoBo
      OpinionatedMale.com

      My recent post Dear Hip Hop, We Hardly Knew Ye

  • Jennifer

    Great article WIM. I genuinely enjoy all your pieces. I am curious to know if you are following the Zimmerman trial. Do you have any write-ups about it in store?

  • http://www.OpinionatedMale.com Mr SoBo

    Looks are overrated. Substance is the key and offers more promise of a long lasting successful relationship.
    There are many men who place looks over substance 7 days of the week and will wife a chick on her physicality alone. 'Trophy wives' they call it. But anyone with sense typically knows those situations seldom last long, and don't fair very well.
    In any event, it is very true that some women appear to be more trouble than their worth.That is real talk right there. Too much @ss and too much pretty features can mean too much blatant disrespect her man has to endure anytime they set foot out in public. Not to mention depending on how said woman carries herself because of all the attention she garners, she may in fact be encouraging it.

    Mo booty, mo problems.

    Mr. SoBo
    OpinionatedMale.com

    My recent post Dear Hip Hop, We Hardly Knew Ye

    • CanILive

      Co-sign on both your comments sir. Well done.

      The other day i was riding the bus on my home when a physically attactive lady walks in. Every guy on that bus couldn’t help but lay eyes on said lady, while i look at her to acknowledge that there isa new person on the bus. She grabs the seat across from me and i begin to sense that im being watched; it might have been my “mind playin tricks on me”, so i look up to check anyway; she was looking at me in a “why isn’t this guy staring at me like all the others?” fashion.

      Moral of the story? During that 1-3 second glance i gave her to acknowledge her getting on the bus was me being aware of my surroundings. Not only that, but i had already seen right through her…

      • CanILive

        Apologies for my spelling (small phone keyboard dilemma).

    • JustAGirl

      Ok, why is it that a pretty woman has to be one of zero substance??? I know plenty, including myself, who are women of IMMENSE substance, intelligence, style, grace, warmth, charm and kindness who are pretty and plenty of unattractive to average women who are loud, brash, un-ladylike, ignorant, and drama filled who have waaaay too much attitude. YOU CANNOT GENERALIZE.

      There are women with STANK attitudes who are pretty and women with STANK attitudes who are ugly, same with men. This is the ACTUAL reality.

      • Paul B.

        This says it all for me.

      • Beautiful N/Out

        Check please!

  • The Guy

    this some bullshit lol

  • http://www.beautyandthestreetmag.blogspot.com Amber Nefertari

    The title says it all.
    Majority of the men I meet love to look at/smash beautiful girls but end up falling in love with sub-par looking females. A guy I met recently told me that he is the jealous type and he doesn't like men gawking at a gorgeous female by his side. I guess.

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  • Jazzarella

    My suggestion…. Make your pretty self look as pain as possible when you go out. Pretend to be a plainjane stay-in-the-house-most-of-the-time chick. Die your hair blonde, no matter what your skin color is. Never give away your age. As black women, "black don't crack" and so many of us will look younger than we actually are so if you are in your twenties, guys will treat you like a kid and think you may bea teen pretending to be older with some fake ID and not take you seriously or if you are in your thirties and forties, they will assume you are in your twenties and eventually make excuses for not being able to court you properly.

  • 1ofakindNT

    I would like to respond to the post about pretty women…..
    I am a beautiful women whom does not fit into this so-called
    “pretty label” that is being spoken of……I’m not high
    maintenance, stuck up, out for gain, nor etc…..this label has been
    placed on beauty b/c people are imitated by the looks of
    pretty women which results in men creating self-doubt in their minds
    & this leads to negative self-talk in their minds, finally the man
    tells himself he’s not good enough, handsome enough to get a
    pretty women when they see one….Therefore, men cover the
    insecurity up by blaming the pretty women… I believe many
    men have encountered pretty women who do fit this label, but
    that does not mean ALL pretty women fit this label!!!!! When I was
    dating my husband who I’ve been married to for 13yrs, he put me
    into this same category….here’s what he said one day during a phone
    conversation; “Hey you know what, you are cool after all.” On the
    other end of the phone I was silent b/c I was confused as to why
    he was saying this to me. I asked him “what he meant by saying this?
    He answered me by saying; I thought you were stuck up when we met b/c you were
    pretty……..I said, why would you say that about me when you
    didn’t even know me? He said b/c your pretty & single & all guys think
    this way. He also said, he believed I wasn’t faithful due to my
    beauty….My response was this: so let me get this straight b/c
    I’m pretty men think I’m stuck up,a hoe,& a player? He replied
    “Yes”, After I picked my mouth up off the ground and closed it,
    I expressed my disappointment from his prejudice remark….
    instead of “LABELING” pretty women, MEN you should give every
    individual a fair chance before discarding them b/c you may label
    a women who could be your wife!!!!!! Let me add this, even
    if you encountered a person whom fits this label don’t make
    everyone else pay for that persons mistake’s…..
    The overall point I’m making is that men & women
    have learned how to use their beauty & bodies for evil purposes
    such as, getting $$$, jewelry, clothes, etc…& in the process
    hurt innocent people, but never hold on to the hurt & pain
    caused by others then use it as a weapon to hurt others…..
    Let go of the hurt so you can begin to heal then you will
    No longer think this way….The lesson: Beauty is a hidden
    jewel that only comes from within, so don’t stop
    on surface go deeper or you will be very disappointed!!!!!

  • 1ofakindNT

    I would like to respond to the post about pretty women…..I am a beautiful women whom does not fit into this so-called “pretty label” that is being spoken of……I’m not high maintenance, stuck up, out for gain, nor etc…..this label has been placed on beauty b/c people are imitated by the looks of pretty women which results in men creating self-doubt in their minds & this leads to negative self-talk in their minds, finally the man tells himself he’s not good enough, handsome enough to get a pretty women when they see one….Therefore, men cover the insecurity up by blaming the pretty women… I believe many men have encountered pretty women who do fit this label, but that does not mean ALL pretty women fit this label!!!!! When I was dating my husband who I’ve been married to for 13yrs, he put me into this same category….here’s what he said one day during a phone conversation; “Hey you know what, you are cool after all.” On the other end of the phone I was silent b/c I was confused as to why he was saying this to me. I asked him “what he meant by saying this? He answered me by saying; I thought you were stuck up when we met b/c you were pretty……..I said, why would you say that about me when you didn’t even know me? He said b/c your pretty & single & all guys think this way. He also said, he believed I wasn’t faithful due to my beauty….My response was this: so let me get this straight b/c I’m pretty men think I’m stuck up,a hoe,& a player? He replied “Yes”, After I picked my mouth up off the ground and closed it, I expressed my disappointment from his prejudice remark….instead of “LABELING” pretty women, MEN you should give every individual a fair chance before discarding them b/c you may label a women who could be your wife!!!!!! Let me add this, even if you encountered a person whom fits this label don’t make everyone else pay for that persons mistake’s…..The overall point I’m making is that men & women have learned how to use their beauty & bodies for evil purposes such as, getting $$$, jewelry, clothes, etc…& in the process hurt innocent people, but never hold on to the hurt & pain caused by others then use it as a weapon to hurt others….. Let go of the hurt so you can begin to heal then you willNo longer think this way….The lesson: Beauty is a hidden jewel that only comes from within, so don’t stop on surface go deeper or you will be very disappointed!!!!!

  • JustAGirl

    Ok I MUST add a comment to this post. Pretty women are not always stuck up or high-maintenance, to be quite honest I think that label should rightly be distributed to all women who are 6's and above. I PERSONALLY know some very difficult 6's, and 7's who are constantly giving their men the flux and bossing them around (their husbands), and I know some very sweet 8's, 9's and 10's whose men are constantly "trying to keep their women's ego's in check" by withholding complements, trying not to "gas them up" too much (basically so the girl won't leave them). I see this ALL THE TIME. If you are pretty-beautiful, lots of times guys don't want to approach you, or may have the attitude of "she thinks she's all that, so I'm going to see if she likes me first" (insecurity) when they would NEVER treat a 6 or 7 this way. It's pretty sad.

    Here's another thing. Men say they like confident women, I would like to offer that this statement comes with a caveat; men like AVERAGE women who are confident. Why? Let me offer a little math equation:

    How some Men think-
    Pretty Woman + Confidence = Stuck Up or Arrogant
    Average Woman + Confidence = "Comfortable in her own skill" "sexy" "she knows her worth" (womp, womp, womp)

    Another equation (of how "some" men think)-
    Pretty Woman + Good sense of humor = She wants to me the center of attention
    Average Woman + Good sense of humor = "she's a chill girl", "she knows how to have fun"

    TRUTH. Fellas, these things may be hard to face, but it is the truth. Now I'm not saying that there aren't some pretty women who are stuck-up, but don't just automatically judge a book by its cover. IJS

    • JustAGirl

      I was typing too fast! LOL meant to type "Comfortable in her own skin*"

  • Jenna

    This discussion will never have any truth to it…because no one can rate a person..Rating a person is not like math where there is just one simple answer. Be happy with whoever your with even if they don't fit this "invisible rating"…Cause your going to spend the rest of your life with 1 person (if you practice monogamy).

  • Rae

    Hi! New here. I’m subscribing……although this article made me kinda sad because I know it’s true.
    Let me explain…. I remember a conversation I had with a male friend years ago on why I had trouble meeting men. He told me flat out that based on my appearance alone he figured I was “trouble” and “beautiful but stuck up valley girl from the suburbs”. This wasn’t the first time a guy had gotten this impression based soley on how I looked.
    *
    This is an assumption I’ve run into many times- even though:
    I grew up poor.
    I’ve never gotten my hair done at a salon. I do my own hair.
    I don’t get my nails done every weekend. Who has money for that? I do my own.
    I don’t wear expensive clothes or tote around name brand handbags and rock expensive jewelry. I’ve gotta retire one day.
    When I was younger I used to try and dress down. Hide my figure. Rock glasses. No makeup- but it doesn’t matter. As I got older I realized, I won’t look like this forever so- to heck with it. I dress for me now. If a guy thinks I’m so attractive I can’t possibly be worth approaching- I don’t need him anyway. I need an Alpha male whose as secure in who he is- as I am. If I never meet him….cest la vie (so is life).
    Question: Doesnt this contradict the other article regarding intimidation? I mean, your basically saying your more intimidated by the chick who seems like she would expect more from you and a relationship. Right?

  • So Much True

    High Maintenance Women are usually very nasty, and they think that there God's gift to men.

  • Sass

    Whatever helps you sleep at night…

    Truth is average guys generally can’t get a 9 or 10 and when they do those 9s & 10s are usually the ones with the stank attitudes or messed up in the head, lacking self esteem, etc. i.e. the ones no above average man wants for the long haul. So of course the average guys experiences with those women are going to be negative, hence the “beautiful women are always crazy, drama queens, high maintenance, etc.” Sounds a lot better to say you’re the one doing the rejecting rather than being rejected, right?

    Women do it too, don’t get me wrong. “He’s threatened by my success, my job, my degrees” Sound familiar?

    But then why do we expect anything different in a culture that thrives on people not being honest with themselves?

  • wondering

    im tired of pretty woman or ones in the socalled pop crowd.
    non feminine, hard selfish. sneaky.
    all they want is to talk garbage and then act off with thier dumb freinds.
    small towns are full of ones that are twice married or have kids from two other guy's.and feel used.

  • Really True

    And it is usually that the prettiest women are with the creepiest looking guys that i have ever seen. Go Figure.

  • Karen

    This is so funny, how is it then that all my pretty friends are married by the time they are 30, but the not so attractive remain single, not by choice?

  • Jenn

    Have to agree. I’m a 10. Dd gorgeous genuine sweet monogamous loyal. NOT high m not controlling. Getting a bf? Impossible. Men hate me instantly because I’m beautiful. Never seen as a gf but I see men with their fat ugly wives gawking at them then cringing at me. It’s like a parallel universe ?

    Men are jealous of me. CraZy as it is it’s true. I’m always single but told I’m the most beautiful woman ever. I’m super sweet and well it’s true men prefer ugly pigs to hot women no matter how nice the hot woman is. What guy wouldn’t want a fantasy gorgeous woman who is loyal only to them? Apparently none. Most men hurl insults at me and run off. Want to fight me or put me down. I’m treated like a criminal for being beautiful. Fu– men

  • emma

    i'm sorry but to say that a beautiful woman is more "annoying" than an average looking woman is complete crap! I actually find that beautiful women are less annoying and a lot more friendly and less jealous then those who are less attractive. it is unfair that beautiful women are used and mistreated by men who wont even give them a chance because of this ridiculous misconception that they are less interesting and, more high maintenance than the rest.