Every guy has a female friend that comes to him for dating or relationship advice. One of the most common topics we hear about is her finding the perfect guy that she should be into…but isn’t. Writer, Jessica Eggert, recently penned a piece offering her perspective on the topic:
Why are we always searching for someone who fits certain criteria of what we think we want? I can’t tell you how many times a friend has said to me, “this guy is perfect on paper, why don’t I like him?” It’s because “perfect on paper” means sh*t regarding how you feel about someone.
We’re so focused on finding someone who dresses and acts a certain way, was raised with values that are ideal for us and looks like what we describe as our “type.” Then, someone comes along who fits none of the above, and you’re like sh*t, why am I so attracted to this person? It’s because the rules of attraction/like/love have nothing to do with the laundry list that you’ve spent your whole life creating thus far.
One of my favorite quotes is, “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” I’ve seen so many people say and do things that they think will impress someone they’re interested in. The truth is that you can have the same interests as someone, come from the same background and still have no chemistry. In fact, those factors usually mean nothing when it comes to chemistry.
Click here to read the full article over at Elite Daily.
Have you ever tried to force yourself to like someone because they meet all the “requirements” or learned this lesson the hard way? Share your thoughts in the comments