The Thing About Break Up Sex

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Break up sex is probably some of the best sex you can ever have in your lifetime. For the most part break up sex usually isn’t the last time you really have sex with that person- it’s all bullsh*t. It’s what we see in the movies, that romantic hoopla that makes women glee with moisture, and the play-by-play that some men use on those gleeful women. Real break up sex doesn’t happen after the ‘this isn’t working’ conversation- it happens before. See the thing about break up sex is…

It happens when you see the person you love and furiously take off their clothes. Whether you took them off because of attraction or comfortability or even routine. Break up sex starts with soft kisses and synchronized groping. Forceful grabs and insatiable willingness- everything feels so good. You’re hard and she’s gleeful. Her nipples are erect and you’re engorged. You slide inside of her and you let him inside of you- it’s wonderful. It’s just like how you remember, just what you needed, it’s what you fantasized about.

You switch positions and this one is even better. You catch each other’s eyes and someone says something sexy like ” You feel so good. I love you” and that’s when it happens. It’s the moment when you don’t respond as swiftly as you used to. When it stops being a reflex to profess your love or you lack the same amount of emotion to echo the thought. Not because you’re not physically attracted to them anymore, but because you start thinking about the things they do that bothers the f*ck out of you. Things that have absolutely nothing to do with sex; like how she argues about sh*t you’re indifferent to or how you think he doesn’t care about you like you wish he did or whatever the f*ck you guys argue about. The differences you deem irreconcilable are present and haunting you in that moment. But you still respond with “I love you too” and it’s true you do indeed still love them, but you know it’s over.

She moans in solidarity. So you let out a few aggressive strokes, which are confused as passion.
Her body seems nearer to that small death or ‘la petite mor’ and she moans louder.
If she keeps moaning like this… you’re going to… if she keeps…
You c*m.
And it’s over.

Whatever ensues after this time is the collateral damage period, where you guys tiptoe around reality or try to spare the feelings of one other. But it’s no need to spare feelings, you don’t owe each other anything. Love isn’t a book of checks and balances, because the scales will always be uneven. Because no one will ever feel like they got what they deserved. You all only owe yourselves peace.

The last time you have sex with someone you love instead of breaking up with them, you really break up with the hope you had in them, you break up with the hope you had in the future. There isn’t a beacon of light, only darkness ahead. The only semblance of light or hope lies lifeless behind you…

That’s the thing about break up sex.

How would you describe break-up sex? When did you know it was over with an ex? Is it ever worth trying to salvage what you had?

TheSUNK(the Sh*t U Need 2 Know)

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  • Tdavid

    OK … I'll Start": "When did you know it was over with an ex?"

    -I knew it was over one day when she was giving me the "Daily Briefing" on the 'Adventures at Work' and all I could do was Stare Blindly while thinking: " I Wouldn't Get Out of the Electric Chair to Hear This If It Would Save My Life! " I just couldn't see myself sitting thru this Everyday for the Next 20 years. I Didn't Even Know These People. Why do I have to listen to this Everyday for 30 minutes? Can we talk about … (I Don't Know … Maybe) … My DAY?? I knew the moment I thought to myself: "You Would Think a Woman Whose Mouth Moves 100 Miles per Minute Would Have a Better 'Head Game' " … It Was Over. Somewhere along the way something went wrong. It was time for me to Move Out.

    PS: Someone really needs to do a post on: "Why a Man Should NEVER Move Into HER Place". That is unless it's 2-weeks before the Wedding Day and His Name is on the Lease/Mortgage. Even Then I Think Both Should Move into a NEW Place Altogether; But I Digressed.

    • http://thesunk.com theSUNK

      Yeah, when you start getting disinterested in things that are important to your partner, both people need to do each other a favor and end it.

      We'll look into that post idea. Thanks for kicking off the discussion.
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  • Jenae

    "How would you describe break-up sex?"
    For me, it always feel right in the moment. Feels good. Feels comfortable. It's different, but still good. Then, like you said, we spill the I Love You's, and when it's over I regret doing and saying those words, because we start talking about "Us" again, when we know it is over. It's been over.
    "When did you know it was over with an ex?"
    I knew it was over when the way he chewed his food and the way he said my name and the scent off his cologne annoyed the hell out of me. Kissing him felt like something I HAD to do. I stopped looking forward to our date nights and even started cancelling just to sit on my couch and watch tv. That's when I knew. I don't think either of us did anything wrong. The effort and passion died, and we didn't care to fix it.

    • http://thesunk.com theSUNK

      Damn the way he chewed his food and said your name p*ssed you off that much, sheesh. When we don't care to fix it is definitely the end. Thanks for sharing.
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  • http://opinionatedmale.com cortonio

    break up sex to me is pointless, if you're going to break up with someone it means one of two things,
    1) you no longer have feelings for the person so why would you illicit any false sense of emotion from her or him by having sex

    2)This person did something so messed up you had to part ways with that person, so once again why have sex.

    Most women view sex as more emotional than physical so as a man why even go there? Unless she is your woman or a simple bust down/casual sex partner no need to dive into that water when you're not sure how to swim in it.
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  • tiffanyalwaysright

    I can honestly say, this is indeed true.