Nitpick- adj. Overly critical, esp. on trivial matters; focused on only trivial aspects
Patient- adj. Quietly and steadily persevering or diligent, especially in detail or exactness
Throughout the period of time that we date, we turn down many. Some people in our eyes are completely out of the question. Others might really be on the fence. Regardless, many face the result of rejection. For the time being, we remain single. Now if you’re like me, then some days you self-reflect. That’s what today’s post is about. You see, there’s times where I simply wonder if I’m being too picky.
I consider myself a patient guy.
My thought process is that I’ll know who I want once I get that click with someone. If I don’t get it, then I won’t pursue things on such a serious level. As I examine this dichotomy of patience and nitpicking, I come to one conclusion: it’s damn hard to gauge what is deemed trivial qualities to someone and what isn’t.
It sort of feels like when you haven’t found “the one” that you’re damned if you do or damned if you don’t. If you’re patient maybe you’re being too picky.
If you’re not as patient then maybe you end up settling.
I’m sure settling is a concern that we all have. I’m sure being patient has yielded positive results for many. Maybe the person you’re meant to be with will somehow find you. There’s a whole bevy of scenarios really.
Of course this post has sparked many questions I have for you, my SBM community. Are there some qualities that you would deem universally trivial to look for? Can we define what is trivial for someone else? What would you define as settling? Is there a time limit to being patient? Can we draw a line between being picky and waiting for the right one?
I’m extremely interested to hear your thoughts. Now what would really make my week is if it really felt like spring in New York.
These are my words and I make no apologies.
DamnPops is a writer on the staff at SBM: “I’m not a biter, I’m a writer for myself and others. ” Brooklyn born dude trying to figure out this life just like you. Come on this journey with me. Follow me on Twitter @DamnPOPS – Damn He Got A Point” (My Column) on Viral Status