Ladies, This Can Be Why “Round 2″ Doesn’t Happen

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Today’s post is dedicated to the discussion of sexual chemistry. To put it plainly, it’s an important attribute to any kind of sexual relationship. Through my discussions with friends and my own experience I’ve learned  few things. One of which is that a woman can take somethings personally. In this case, it’s where a guy isn’t sexually responsive to her after let’s say, round one. I say after round one because when you’re hot in the pants the wind can blow and you’d be ready. I always measure my sexual attraction to someone truly by round two. In my opinion, it’s the true barometer. But why?!

Sexual chemistry goes beyond looks.

Your attraction can be a huge part of the chemistry. But attraction isn’t the only part of the chemistry. I’ll give you what I consider a proverbial example. I can talk to a friend of mine about a woman. He could tell me that this woman is gorgeous. At the same token maybe that woman is too conservative for him. He might want a more forward lady in the sheets. Something like that could throw off chemistry. If a guy enjoys oral but never gets it, that too can throw things off. If a woman isn’t ever comfortable making the first move… you get the picture.

There’s a toy chest full of causes that can throw off sexual chemistry.

For some reason though, many women take it straight to the heart if a guy isn’t aroused for them. Now it’s understandable. I would only suggest that if you ladies ever experience such a thing that you should ask questions. It’s very likely that a guy does like you. It’s very likely that a guy does think you’re attractive. You just need to find out what your man/boo is into.

Ladies,you don’t need to be too hard on yourselves.

How would your man like you to operate in bed? Where are the both of you willing to compromise? Those are questions I hope that has answers for you all.  We’re not as candid as we should be when it comes to what we do in bed. If you’re comfortable enough to be naked with someone then you should be more than comfortable talking about being naked. It’s not always because you’re “ugly’ that your man can’t get it up. Maybe he’s expecting something that he just didn’t get.

Have any of you ladies experienced a guy who couldn’t give you the rounds you deserve? Did you just get mad and assume it was because you were unattractive? If you have, just don’t be so quick to the trigger. Today’s word is communicate. I’m hoping that more communication on matters of sex leads to more clarity and higher self esteem for the ladies. Don’t be stingy and share your thoughts y’all

These are my words and I make no apologies.

DamnPops is a writer on the staff at SBM: “I’m not a biter, I’m a writer for myself and others. ” Brooklyn born dude trying to figure out this life just like you. Come on this journey with me. Follow me on Twitter @DamnPOPS  – Damn He Got A Point” (My Column) on Viral Status

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  • paynewell

    I always took it as a compliment if there isn't a round two. Specifically if he fell asleep. #shegetsthejobdone
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    • Soulflower

      Yeah, me too!! :)

  • mememoi

    I'm only disappointed internally if Round 2 didn't happen and Round 1 was just "pump, pump, ahhh".

    It's like not only did I not climax (because sometimes as a woman, the sex can feel amazing, but that extra cherry on top is as elusive as ever), but I barely feel anything if he's a one minute man and then rolls over and goes to sleep.

    I had one guy that was offended when I pulled out my vibrator 20 minutes later… Not sure how he thought I was supposed to get off in 45 seconds.

    But I love the guys who climax quickly the first round, and then round 2 is super satisfying.

    • Damnpops

      45 secs lol sheesh, but there’s a line that says the first n** has a mind of it’s own lol. Round 2 should be better, I agree

  • Bree

    Have any of you ladies experienced a guy who couldn’t give you the rounds you deserve? Yes. Most all of them.
    Did you just get mad and assume it was because you were unattractive? No because I knew the reasons. A few ex's in my early 20's drank too much and that was the problem. Practically everyone else just couldn't keep up. Sex gives me energy like Red Bulls :)

  • Kwazigirl

    I agree Bree, I had a convo w/ a few gfs of mine and noticed there is an epidemic of erectile dysfunction going around and these men are far young to have these issues. We all agreed the issues are bad living, too much liquor, weed, no exercise etc. My God Bro told me he stopped smoking (thankfully) bc he was far more concerned about his passion-pump game then getting high.

    • troy

      MJ has NEVER given those issues quite the opposite and I thought I was pufing loud.

  • sincereluv4life

    The best thing to do to find out what will get a man to round 2, 3, 4, 5 & 6 etc. is to simply ask him what he likes. listen & then execute.

  • jerseryvixen

    young men out here drinking too much, and coming up short. smh. it's heartbreaking.

  • Chris

    After a very good…. relief, sometimes it takes time to get back up. Nothing we can control. Just gotta recharge lol be patient!

    • http://twitter.com/DamnPOPS @DamnPOPS

      That's very valid reasoning too. All I was trying to do was bring another perspective. I think bad diet,abuse of alcohol and lack of exercise can affect a man in bed. But it doesn't mean those are the only reasons lol. I don't think they wanna hear it. The majority it seems at least.

  • Gray

    Have any of you ladies experienced a guy who couldn’t give you the rounds you deserve? Yes. Did you just get mad and assume it was because you were unattractive? Never.

    I don’t think it’s common to believe it’s due to being unattractive. We’ll first put it on his poor skills; selfishness and inability to control. If it’s a constant thing then I’d definitely feel he’s not for me.

  • Gray

    Erectile dysfunction in young men? I don’t believe that is a true issue for young men. Young men typically have issues with control… they are typically selfish without an emotional connection. Diet and lack of exercise could definitely make their ability to control much worse or at best their stomach just gets in the way. Still not the most common reason for young men…

  • http://thesexysinglemommy.net Ty Knighten

    I guess it all depends on how well I put it down during Round 1. LMAO! If he *ucks like a jack rabbit and comes in 2.2. seconds we have a problem and I'm cool on Round 2, anyway.
    There are many times we don't want a round 2 and the main reason is because he sucked!
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  • langwichartz

    Sex for me is just as much mental than physical. If I get those bad conservative vibes, then you not getting round 2 period. I like a woman who is comfortable and confident in her sexuality and the fact that it shows in her sexual actions both physical and verbal. Gimme that and you can get multiple rounds.

    • http://twitter.com/DamnPOPS @DamnPOPS

      Yeah man that's my sentiment in a nutshell really.

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  • Es Sully

    I really enjoyed this…why? because it brings light to the fact that sexual attraction is not only about the physical. ALL men aren’t seeking a video vixen-like physique. They are not ALL looking for someone to twerk and do stripper/booty tricks. In all honesty, all men are NOT the same. So they can’t be looking for the same thing. Being intuitive to his particular desires and needs, is what works. Don’t do something that ‘men like,’ because they don’t all like the same thing. So instead of trying to perk up your sexual goodies, find out what turns him on. It may be something as simple as a good meal or a back-rub.