Should You Drink On The First Date?

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For the most part, having a drink or two is not a big issue. If it helps you feel more comfortable and it adds to the ambiance of your first encounter, why not?

Drinking Can Become a Problem

A couple of beverages are no big deal, but drinking can become a problem when you:

  1. Look Sloppy: Overindulging causes you to appear, well, sloppy. Since you only get one chance to make a first impression, getting tipsy can prevent you getting that second date you were hoping for.
  2. Act Out of Character: Indulging in one too many causes you to say and to do things you wouldn’t normally. Lowering your inhibitions can be helpful if you’re very nervous, but it can also lead to doing things that you will regret.
  3. Impaired Judgment: Drinking can impair your judgment and make you overlook red flags because you’re having such a good time. Heeding red flags about your date is essential when it comes to finding a lasting, healthy relationship because it keeps you from getting involved with inappropriate matches.
  4. Safety Risk: Being off your game puts you at risk if something seems strange about your date.  Keeping your wits about you is a smart dating precaution. While I’ve been a dating coach for 12 years and have never had a client tell me a bad story, you never know. Better to be safe than sorry.

5 Ways to Handle Your First Date Drinking
So, next time you venture out for that all-important first date, what can you do? Here are four simple suggestions to follow. Find out which ones work for you and help you to stay relaxed but sober to improve your chances for a second date.

  1. Give yourself a limit. Many experts agree that what can work best is to give yourself a two drink maximum.
  2. Short first date. My dating advice for clients is to keep the first date short — about 60 to 90-minutes tops. Spending less time on a first date gives you something to look forward to the next time. And less time together means you have less time to drink.
  3. Sip your drink. Make that drink last a while by sipping slowly. Take your time. Don’t always keep your hand on the glass.
  4. Ask for water. If you feel thirsty, order a glass of water as well as your drink. This way you won’t slug back your drink just to quench your thirst. You can also switch back and forth, making your drink last that much longer.
  5. Switch to a Different Beverage. After you have one or two drinks, order a non-alcoholic beverage. Go for coffee, iced tea, soda or even juice. Whatever you choose, stick to the limit you set for yourself.

Get more second dates by being your best self. Minimize your alcohol intake, smile, be friendly and warm, and make the most of this social opportunity to find the right man for you and the love you dream of.

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  • http://stanoffewwords.wordpress.com/ Tristan

    I typically don’t, or drink at all around women period. If I take you out, my responsibility is to show you a good time and get you home safely, drinking puts that at risk.

  • j-kay-elle

    Knowing your limit goes without saying!! No one wants to take care of a drunken fool especially on a first date, I wouldn’t even bother with a guy who was a complete jackass and had one too many.The whole point is to impress not disgust! I’d call him a cab and leave him right there!!

  • JT

    Que the old 80′s movie BLIND DATE with Bruce Willis and Kim Basinger…hilarious. I know my limits and when I drive I limit my drinking. Period. Date or otherwise.

  • Bree

    omg…I read this and saw no reference to the original article and author and I thought. WTH….Dr. J has been a dating coach for 12 years and never mentioned this??? lol. I had to keep reading to see that this was from an article on Tango and go to the article to see the referenced dating coach..lol. I was shocked, bewildered and amused all at the same time..lol.
    My suggestion is simply to know yourself and know how much you can and cannot handle. Some can handle their liquor. If you can, go for what you know. Yes people will judge you by what you drink and how much you drink. However I feel it’s best to reveal as much of your true self as possible so your date can determine if your a good match for them. I know a several men who do not drink. Some are vegans some are not. They don’t mind dating a woman who drinks. However, they don’t want to be in a serious relationship with a woman who drinks all the time, practically every nite. Even if it’s just one or two glass of wine or whatever. Nor do they want to be with a woman who enjoys going to wine tasting and most all of the social activities that she enjoys involve drinking. It can become quite uncomfortable for people who do not drink to always be in social situations where there is always drinking and drunk and/or tipsy people. Even my girlfriends who don’t drink are do not enjoy going to happy hours every single Thursday or Friday nite. Typically people who don’t drink don’t particularly enjoy being around people who are tipsy and/or drunk. Not fun when your the only sober one. So that’s something to be mindful of.
    I am a featherweight when it comes to drinking. I cannot hold my liquor. I will pass out and fall asleep. So I typically only drink around family and close friends.

  • http://www.greaterunderstanding.net/ Anthony Brian Logan

    Nah. Not unless it’s a sponsored date if you catch my drift.

  • Stacey

    I would say a one drink minimum if at all. As a woman you have to be careful and don’t want to get sloppy. Downing drinks on a first meeting isn’t a good time to me, it’s more like a set up.