You’re About to Ruin This: After Sex Do’s and Dont’s

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It has come to my attention that after getting that happy ending many people don’t know what to do with themselves, so due to such infractions I must educate. What you do after sex is just as important as what you did during? There is still a mood to set after getting the cheeks and knocking boots. Here’s what […]

How To Get Off The Dating Rollercoaster 101

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You’ve reached a point where you’re tired of exerting energy into the wrong guys so you take time to re-evaluate yourself and your approach to dating. Then, finally, one day you wake up and say “Okay, I’m ready to get back out there and try again” only to find yourself in the same cycle, repeating […]

Why Everyone Doesn’t Have A Right To Know Your Personal Business

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We’ve reached the end of a tumultuous week that saw yet again gender relations in society pushed to the brink of an all-out war. Stephen A. Smith put his foot in his mouth and then spent much of the rest of the week trying to put two fingers in his mouth to vomit his foot […]

Three Relationship-Starting Tips from a Family Therapist

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Sometimes I envy the preacher: when couples come to him, they’re in LOVE. When people come to me, it’s not because they’re in love. It’s because they’re in trouble. I’m a family therapist, and when you’re knocking on my door, it’s because the two of you need to work something out. I love my work, […]

How Does a Man Approach a Newly Single Woman?

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I don’t know! How about we start off with that and let it be known. I am not perfect in the world of dating. Although I’ve experienced great successes, i sure have some weak points. One of my biggest weak points is my timing. With women I have the shittiest timing this side of the […]

Five Pieces of Advice I Wish I Could Give the Younger Me

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I’m 31 now. Ancient, past my prime, and “should be starting a family” come to mind.  I still have a lot of goals now that I wish I had undertaken earlier in my life, a lot of things I’ve yet to do and all the while that clock is ticking. Seems like only yesterday I […]

Should A Woman’s Past Ever Have An Expiration Date?

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  Twitter at times  can be one of the most useful tools ever for a writer. For me, it seems to give me random inspirations. It was last week that I came across a tweet from a young lady. It wasn’t directed at me, it was just her thinking out loud. I won’t disclose her […]

To Breakup Or Not – That is the question

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I was once in a relationship where it was nearly impossible to continue, but still I couldn’t get myself to leave.  We had broken up a couple of times before, but it was never final. Whenever we broke up, we would eventually get back together. I still felt like I loved this girl and still […]

My Expectations Of Marriage

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  Happy holidays to all you good readers of SBM. I hope your season is filled with joy, health, safety…and gifts! I have a fascination with marriage. My curiosity goes from why do things fall apart to what makes things stay together? Were some marriages doomed from the start? There are a whole litany of […]

"Just because someone desires you does not mean they value you"

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“Just because someone desires you does not mean they value you.”  – @SlimDarskin I saw this tweet on my timeline a couple of weeks ago and it caught my eye. I had a few thoughts I wanted to express on it, so I figured what better place than SBM. I know a whole heap of […]