To Breakup Or Not – That is the question

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 Share on Tumblr I was once in a relationship where it was nearly impossible to continue, but still I couldn’t get myself to leave.  We had broken up a couple of times before, but it was never final. Whenever we broke up, we would eventually get back together. I still felt like I loved this […]

My Expectations Of Marriage

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 Share on Tumblr   Happy holidays to all you good readers of SBM. I hope your season is filled with joy, health, safety…and gifts! I have a fascination with marriage. My curiosity goes from why do things fall apart to what makes things stay together? Were some marriages doomed from the start? There are a […]

"Just because someone desires you does not mean they value you"

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 Share on Tumblr “Just because someone desires you does not mean they value you.”  – @SlimDarskin I saw this tweet on my timeline a couple of weeks ago and it caught my eye. I had a few thoughts I wanted to express on it, so I figured what better place than SBM. I know a […]

Is It Easier For Men To Say No Than It Is For Women?

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 Share on Tumblr SBM Contributor RealGoesRight takes a stab at answer why it is that men find it easier to say no than women. It’s difficult to say either way in my book. I know that it took me a long time to get to the point of being able to say, “No.” Probably longer […]

Why Telling Your Ex ‘I Just Want You To Be Happy” Is A Lie

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 Share on Tumblr There’s one conversation we hate having with that one ex who always could make us feel that way.   Especially if they know their former bf/gf has a new #him or #her.  I’m not talking about a specifically sexual way, even though they probably were top shelf with that as well.  I’m talking about the feeling where the two of […]

Why Being Selfish About Your New Year’s Resolutions Works

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 Share on Tumblr The beginning of the New Year always bring out a few things in people: things they want to leave behind in the past year, things they want to change in the New Year and things they want to start in the New Year. They are also known as, New Year’s Resolutions. Personally, […]

Tis The Season: Time to Define Your Relationship

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 Share on TumblrTraditionally, the holidays are filled with presents, joy, good food, family, and harmony and good will among your fellow man and woman. It’s a time of year when the welcoming warmth of a bed heated by the body of a significant other is a welcome break from the seasonal chill from outside. Yes, for many […]

You, Him and Her: How To Handle The Pre-Exclusive Zone

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 Share on Tumblr From MadameNoire: You’ve been on a few dates with a guy you’ve recently met and you’re excited about the possibilities. Over drinks you find yourself telling your closest friends just how great this guy is and how he would be perfect for you. As you and your friends drink wine and nibble […]

How to Meet Women While Avoiding Girls and the Friend Zone

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 Share on TumblrThe other day I was having a conversation with my friend. Not surprisingly, we got to talking about women. Ok, who am I kidding? All we talked about was women. As a man, you talk about women a lot but as you get older, you talk about women differently. Being a (decent or […]

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When Should a Man Move for the Relationship?

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 Share on Tumblr From MadameNoire: For those of us crazy enough to even engage in a long distance relationship, there is one unavoidable question that will come if you stay together long enough: who is going to move? This week I was asked if the man or the woman should move or does it matter? […]