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Founder & Creator of SingleBlackMale.org. My healthy obsession with dating, relationships, and trying to identify and address the problems of dating in Black America. I also happen to be a mean sumb*tch who likes to hear himself talk ... but I'm funny though.

The Butterfly Fallacy: How stomach butterflies will get you caught up

We all know the feeling. At the start, you can’t quit identify it. Maybe you can’t stop laughing off their joke. Maybe it’s a connection over Botswanian folk music, which NO ONE else listens to. Maybe it was how they flicked their head and the light hit their hair in the right way. You know something feels different […]

Fear, the Police, and me

Hi … I’m a black man. In case you haven’t heard, there is some interesting news relating to my kind and the police. Seemed like a fitting time for me to talk about my story. I was born in the 80’s and grew up in the 90’s, with my formative years spent in the DC […]

The New & Improved SingleBlackMale

  Welcome to the New and Improved SingleBlackMale! Rome wasn’t built in a day, and neither was our redesign. At some point, thought it would never get finished. But, we felt that our original look and feel was old and outdated and we wanted something that looked better and allowed you to navigate the site […]

Valentine’s Day Gift for Him: New Game Console

No matter what you may think, your man is working hard to get you something great for Valentine’s day, and you need to make sure you get something good for him too. Since finding the perfect gift in things you don’t know (sports, video games, etc), we are here to help. You have two choices, […]

Married Man Talk: What I Hate About Being Married

Before you read the title and get confused, I love being married. I mean I really really love being married. I could easily spend the rest of the post talking about how nice it is to always have someone to go to the movies with, how I still look forward to coming home and seeing […]

10 Secrets To Showing Him You Love Him

Over the past few days I have been asking for someone to indicate to me the types of things that women must do in order to make a relationship work and keep their man happy. While the initial person never responded, Young Belizean Lady helped give me a little insight over at her blog. I decided I would take […]

Male Entitlement: A Man’s RIGHT to Holla

Men have a large and difficult burden placed upon us. We are the ones given the responsibility of “starting the mating process” aka … the holla. The fact is, most s*xual encounters, marriages, and relationships all started when a guy decided to make a move and let his intentions be known. There are some forward-thinking […]

The Booty Text: Because Who Needs to Talk Anymore?

SBM hasn’t been single for a very long time, but I have my memories. Back in the day, I called women. I would get their number, eventually set some time aside, and finally I would call them (usually multiple times). Generally at night, up to an hour for the first call. If things went well, […]

The Problem of the Inflated Black Male Ego

Becoming A Good Black Man is a Great Accomplishment. As one, I think about it every once in a while. My public schools were all below average; I was more likely to turn to a life of crime; I was more likely to acquire less education (even compared to my female counterparts); I was less likely […]

5 Things I Love About Being Married – From a Man

Ask a woman about being married, the response will be the same 90% of the time. “It’s wonderful” or “My Husband is my best friend” or even “I hate that cheating lying sumb*tch … but it’s better than being single”.  For the most part, it’s understood that married women love being married. Ask a man […]