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When you have spent years talking, thinking, and doing relationships … you get asked a lot of questions. A LOT! Very soon you realize something … most people have the same problems. Today, we re-visit one of the classics … Dear SBM, I recently discovered your website and became an instant fan, I am so [...]
For those of you who have grown with me and the site, you remember “simping” and my hatred of all simps, living and dead. I wait for the day where I can freely throw around “simp” and have it understood by all, but until then … you get the definition. Simp: A man that puts himself [...]
Today, yet another edition of Single Black Mail. Looking for advice, write in. Sure, we might have something cute to say … but the gold is in the comments. Hi my name is Jamie and I am in a very difficult situation. My boyfriend is incredibly jealous of my male bff. I’ve told him over [...]
Today, we have another edition of Single Black Mail, where we attempt to bestow a little bit of relationship advice (we’re not experts) from a group of guys who spend way too much time thinking about the subject. But, as always, the best advice comes from you, the family. This letter today is extra special. [...]
*** Admin Note *** For those who have been around long enough, you might remember a writer that actually went by the name SBM, aka Sean Blackman, aka “The engaged guy.” Well, I’ve been behind the scenes for the last few months as I finished business school, got married, moved to California, and finally started [...]
We get questions from you, our readers. A LOT of questions. “Single Black Mail” is where we respond and let the family put in some thoughts too in the comments section. If you have a burning question, hit the “Contact Us” link at the top of the page. SBM cares. I have recently started dating [...]
Today’s Post is a part of the Engaged Black Male Series. Now that I’m engaged (yeah … no more Single in the name) life is different. This series takes you into the mind of a Black Man preparing for Marriage and all that it entails. First and foremost, please recognize that SBM (the entity & [...]
Honesty is the best policy! Right? WRONG! While last time I talked about the importance of being able to lie as necessary for a happy relationship, the truth is I love telling the truth, and it should be done as much as possible. I’m more than happy to drop my 2 cents when needed (probably [...]
I Worry. If I don’t grind hard enough, I won’t be rich. If I don’t set at least 2 alarms, I’ll miss my flight. Sh*t happens and I try hard to make sure it doesn’t happen to me. Now I find myself about to get married. I am about to commit the rest of my [...]
I always knew I would get married. But Jay lied to you. I didn’t see her across a room and think “I’m going to marry that”. I did not envision our kids before I knew her name. Marriage was the furthest thing from my mind … 90% of men are slowly drug into marriage, usually [...]
