Dating Diaries DMV: Junkie Love & JAILBAIT!


This is a testimonial submitted anonymously on Dating Diaries DMV. I recently did an event in DC with Nicole and we linked up to do some collaborating and add a little paint where it ain’t here at SBM. Dear Diary, I went on a date with this chick who was cool and towards the end […]

14 Crucial Things Black Women Look For In A Husband


In response to the 10 things black men look for in a wife. A couple weeks ago, created a list of Ten Things Black Men Look for in a Wife. And then they followed it up with a part two, adding 10 more attributes and opening the challenge for women to chime in with their […]

Why You Shouldn’t Believe In Happy Endings


“Dear Karen, I’ve been thinking about Us, the story of us. How the fuck do I sum it up? Has it been perfect? Hardly. Any story with me at the center of it will never be anything less than a big smiling mess. But here’s what I know for sure—our time in the sun has […]

Enough Already: If You Can’t Afford To Date Then Just Don’t Date


Y’all really intending on this never ending debate about $200 dates and plane tickets, aren’t you? That’s my reaction each time I see the Twitter timeline begin a discussion about if there is actually a preferred or correct range that one should spend on a date. I must say it is very difficult to have […]

Why You Feel The Need To Label Women


I wish I could tell you that Amber fought the good fight, and the Sisters let her be. I wish I could tell you that – but the entertainment business is no fairy-tale world. Let’s recap what happened over the last few days: Tyga is dating a Kylie Jenner. Amber says that Tyga is a […]

Admit it, You Hate Iggy Azalea


Now that the Grammys are over and she didn’t win everyone can now breathe a sigh of relief. We can all go back to our regularly scheduled lives because there’s a good chance that by this time next year Iggy Azalea will be as relevant as Macklemore is right now. Let the cheering begin. However, […]

Do You Post Your Relationship Status on Facebook?


It’s a controversial topic. Do you have the desire for public affirmation in your relationship? I think deep down that the need to publicly announce your relationship is rooted in insecurity. I’ve been in very public relationships and very private ones too. What I can say is that keeping your private life private is probably […]

The Reason You Should Love Less Than More About Them


I recently read an article that spoke to the amount of things you can love about a person. I can’t remember the exact wording but it came to mind when I readied myself to pen this post. In this article the exercise was to write down everything you love about the person you’re with. You […]

Are Non-Threatening Women More Attractive to Women?


Before you read this post it’s important that you understand that I find everything that Lil’ Duval says to be ridiculous. I haven’t heard everything he’s said but he made some jokes once about domestic violence and I placed him a box from which he will never return. The name of that box is called, […]

Is The Goal Of A Relationship Marriage?


Over the last few weeks I’ve been asked a lot about marriage and my responses have caught a few people off guard. I thought that would make for interesting conversation on SBM and many other outlets. Simply put, is there really a reason why we should all set our relationship goals on marriage? My answer […]