With Age Comes Clarity in Relationships

I asked a room full of women to take out a sheet of paper and fold it in half. On one side of the paper, write down the reason why you stopped talking to, dating, or even being married to every man you’ve ever been with. On the other side of the paper, write down […]

Dating Diaries DMV: Junkie Love & JAILBAIT!

This is a testimonial submitted anonymously on Dating Diaries DMV. I recently did an event in DC with Nicole and we linked up to do some collaborating and add a little paint where it ain’t here at SBM. Dear Diary, I went on a date with this chick who was cool and towards the end […]

14 Crucial Things Black Women Look For In A Husband

In response to the 10 things black men look for in a wife. A couple weeks ago, singleblackmale.org created a list of Ten Things Black Men Look for in a Wife. And then they followed it up with a part two, adding 10 more attributes and opening the challenge for women to chime in with their […]

Why You Shouldn’t Believe In Happy Endings

“Dear Karen, I’ve been thinking about Us, the story of us. How the fuck do I sum it up? Has it been perfect? Hardly. Any story with me at the center of it will never be anything less than a big smiling mess. But here’s what I know for sure—our time in the sun has […]

Enough Already: If You Can’t Afford To Date Then Just Don’t Date

Y’all really intending on this never ending debate about $200 dates and plane tickets, aren’t you? That’s my reaction each time I see the Twitter timeline begin a discussion about if there is actually a preferred or correct range that one should spend on a date. I must say it is very difficult to have […]

Why You Feel The Need To Label Women

I wish I could tell you that Amber fought the good fight, and the Sisters let her be. I wish I could tell you that – but the entertainment business is no fairy-tale world. Let’s recap what happened over the last few days: Tyga is dating a Kylie Jenner. Amber says that Tyga is a […]

Admit it, You Hate Iggy Azalea

Now that the Grammys are over and she didn’t win everyone can now breathe a sigh of relief. We can all go back to our regularly scheduled lives because there’s a good chance that by this time next year Iggy Azalea will be as relevant as Macklemore is right now. Let the cheering begin. However, […]

Do You Post Your Relationship Status on Facebook?

It’s a controversial topic. Do you have the desire for public affirmation in your relationship? I think deep down that the need to publicly announce your relationship is rooted in insecurity. I’ve been in very public relationships and very private ones too. What I can say is that keeping your private life private is probably […]

The Reason You Should Love Less Than More About Them

I recently read an article that spoke to the amount of things you can love about a person. I can’t remember the exact wording but it came to mind when I readied myself to pen this post. In this article the exercise was to write down everything you love about the person you’re with. You […]

Are Non-Threatening Women More Attractive to Women?

Before you read this post it’s important that you understand that I find everything that Lil’ Duval says to be ridiculous. I haven’t heard everything he’s said but he made some jokes once about domestic violence and I placed him a box from which he will never return. The name of that box is called, […]