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As children, we were taught about not talking to strangers and inappropriate touching from adults; not about rape and sexual assault. Despite that, I can’t ever remember growing up in an environment that encouraged or condoned rape. Not once, not never, not even for a few moments do I remember being in an environment that [...]
I’m not going to lie, I’ve heard some crazy stories about the things that men do when they want to have sex. I’ve heard everything from “JPYDO” to “after the club, ask them if they trying to smoke weed.” I laugh at some of it and I get completely frustrated at the rest. What I [...]
If you’ve been reading my writing on the internet for any amount of time you know that I try and stay away from topics around Interracial Dating. I have never really seen a productive conversation about the topic take place and it all depends on where you are how the conversation will play itself out. [...]
I was recently giving thought to past failures and things that go on in dating when I observed that a lot of men are put in positions where they’re constantly dealing with responding or reacting to a woman’s needs. I don’t think I ever looked at it this way until recently. Most men’s standards usually [...]
In the past few months, i’ve been frequently asked to speak on how technology is affecting dating and relationships. I am no expert but I have thoughts. I’m actually a huge fan of online dating and believe that while new technology poses threats to traditional views, it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Tomorrow, (Wednesday, March [...]
I always have mixed feelings about teen pregnancies. I’m not going to throw my foot all the way to the back of my mouth but I will speak on a few things as carefully as I can with respect to how I feel about the topic. I believe that children should be given the best [...]
I often joke that the biggest hindrance to me finding women to date is how intimidating my female friends can be. I always imagine a game of taboo where I’m the keyword and my girlfriend probably wouldn’t be able to describe me to a room full of people, but if I let one of my [...]
At times, women begin to fear that as they get older men will become less attracted to them and favor their younger counterparts. As a man who has dated younger and older, I’ve noticed some differences but I couldn’t conclusively tell you that one way or the other always holds to be better or easier. I do [...]
Pretty rough day for The Onion. I don’t want to give the story too much more play because I think it was actually a publicity stunt that they knew would incite this reaction and drive a ton of traffic their way. I’ve always said, the best way to treat situations like these is to completely [...]
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