Interview with Iyanla Vanzant


 Share on Tumblr On a particularly uneventful Thursday morning, I was invited to one of those fancy media phone conversations with Iyanla Vanzant: motivational speaker, author, and host of Iyanla, Fix My Life. I’m still not sure how or why I was mistaken for a respectable journalist, but if you know me from my other […]

An Open Letter to Newly Natural Women

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 Share on Tumblr An Open Letter to Newly Natural Women, I regret to inform you that I don’t have any hair-care tips. I’m not a natural hair blogger, and I rarely wash my curls. I’m actually a shitty naturalista. I don’t espouse the virtues of big chops and twist outs. I don’t look down on […]

6 Reasons No One Cares That You’re an Introvert


 Share on Tumblr I was walking toward the Q train with one of my best friends. It was pouring rain, my contacts were stinging my eyes and my makeup was….well, I was wearing makeup which is always irritating if I’m not in the mood. I was just about to complain about how I wanted to […]

He Thought I Was Dating a White Man


 Share on Tumblr I am leaving the movie theater with one of my friends. He’s a tall man from Middle America with stark blue eyes and brown hair. He wears skinny jeans, plays the drums, and longs to flee The States (again). We’re writing partners, grad school comrades, oyster-addicts, and Brooklyn neighbors. We’re different, but […]

What’s a Mom Friend and Why Should Every Single Woman Have One?


 Share on Tumblr Until today who knew the importance of a “mom friend” or exactly what a “mom friend” was anyway? Over at Men, Myself, and God, Patia Braithwaite tells us about this woman’s importance and the great experiences you could potentially be missing out on, if you don’t have one. Here are a Few of the Reasons […]

Someone Is Going to Love This Blogger: What’s It Like To Date a Blogger?


 Share on Tumblr I told him. I told my oldest male friend about my break up with The Besticle. I told him about how we broke up, how I blogged about it, and how that mother fu my ex called me up to complain about my blogging. Then I cringed. And waited. On some level […]

28 Rules For Living Dangerously


 Share on Tumblr I wrote this list last year when I turned 28. They are prayers, well-wishes and spiritual directives. I’m sharing this with you because it’s my birthday week and I’m all about literally writing your own rules. Write your own rules, fulfill your own wishes…give birth to yourself every single day. If I […]

A Reflection on Kevin Hart's Latest Movie


 Share on Tumblr My best friend and I saw Kevin Hart’s new movie, Let Me Explain last weekend. When it was over, we kept the party alive as made our way to the bathroom still cracking up and openly admitting our insanity. Oh my God, I totally do that thing where I get hype and […]

SH*T HAPPENS (A Story of Gratitude)


 Share on Tumblr This a happy little story about gratitude. And poop. But mostly gratitude. I woke up the other day in wonderful spirits. Realizing my life resembles a Taylor Swift song, I played some of her greatest hits while singing (loudly) in the shower. I am grateful for Taylor Swift’s train-wreck of a love life. I […]

Break Ups and The Fear of Not-Enough-Ness


 Share on Tumblr One of my biggest fears in life is that people are better off without me. I worry that the room becomes more awesome when I leave it; the air becomes lighter when I’m not breathing it; Things magically become better because I’m not there. When I was little, I was always sent […]