Take Away: An Invaluable Lesson

There is no all-encompassing formula for relationships. The diversity of individuals in this world ensures no possible algorithm for success, so consider yourself fortunate if you get it right and find someone whose values and perspectives beat to the rhythm of your own life. Truthfully speaking – my first relationship failed miserably. But on the […]

Writing My Wrongs (Part Two)

So, I’ve been in a relationship for over four years. And I’m a guy. Trust me, I know how to apologize. It’s an art form, really. And you could call me the modern-day James Porter of the sorry. Real men know what I speak. If you saw me, you’d give me the stranger’s “head nod” […]

Writing My Wrongs (Part One)

I’ve always been passionate about black males – no, not in the Tyson Beckford way – I’m in a different zone like Mos Def. Nothing makes me happier to see us succeed; nothing irks me further when we go bad, like the 2% in the back of the fridge. And when we kill each other, […]

Stop Breastfeeding: How to be an Attractive Man

source: http://heritagehealthmagazine.com/ Fellas, it’s crucial that you understand these two things: Seeking the approval of women actually repels them How to stop breastfeeding There’s always going to be some woman, somewhere, who’s annoyed or upset with you. If you spend your life trying to please the women around you, (1) you’re going to miserable, and  (2) […]

Is Celibate The New Single?

Have you ever had one of those intimate conversations that just could go on forever? You don’t even realize the hours that have flown by, but your cheeks hurt from smiling and you can’t stop blushing? You share parts of yourself in ways you hadn’t expected, or maybe even experienced. You feel truly known, and you truly know the person across from you: dreams, goals, loves, everything. You are known intimately – not known physically just yet – and even though you’re ready, you’re not in a rush. Imagine if this were the core of your relationship; this love you always express, and this lust you haven’t tapped into. Imagine being intimately and truly seduced, before having sex.

How to keep your sanity dealing with frustrating (but irresistible) men

Men can make us angry. From being inconsiderate to making us feel a bit unappreciated. He would be darn near perfect if he just did not get you into that state of frustration. And often. It seems like they don’t realize what they’re doing until you’re mad and then they’re looking at you like you […]

Can Bernie Sanders Win The Black Vote?

Bernie Sanders’ victory in the New Hampshire primary and his close second place finish in the Iowa caucuses prove only one thing: he can win in states that are overwhelming white. In Nevada, he came in behind Hillary Clinton; but in the polling, Sanders did better than expected among the state’s Latinos and its rather […]

The Reality List (10 Truths Every Brother Should Know)

Dear Brother, Last night, I saw your wife. Nah, you know it was nothing like that. I just got off work; just left the building. I must say, you did well. I saw her walking down the street, sparkling like a princess cut, shining like a black star. Her outfit seamlessly complemented her classy characteristics. […]

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Hollywood’s Invisible Men

“I am an invisible man…I am invisible, understand, simply because people refuse to see me.” So begins Ralph Ellison’s extraordinary novel about being black in mid-twentieth century America. And like the great intellectual hero of Invisible Man, the talents and abilities of today’s black film artists (both men and women) go unrecognized and ignored. The […]

The Black Man Chronicles, Part 1: Living Up to The Stereotypes

We’re shiftless, lazy, irresponsible people. I’m certain that there are at least a hundred other adjectives and adnouns used to describe the black man. You can find us see us out in the street hustling drugs, t-shirts, or even bottled water. We’ve also achieved the incomparable feat of occupying the most space in national jail and prison systems. It is said that we’ve fathered numerous children out of wedlock and that we have no intention of being committed to a monogamous relationship. Surely, that is what most of you think; and I’m certain that you have mounds of evidence to support your belief.