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I recently read an article on (the sarcastically titled) BlackGirlsAreEasy.com called How to Talk to Women – a post offering advice to men on how to approach and talk to women – that contained a one-liner that caught my attention. Any dude who says he doesn’t know what he wants from a girl he’s known [...]
I’d known her for years, but our relationship didn’t get serious until college. I was just a freshman when her highlights caught my attention. I never noticed the accents of her curves before. Was she built like that in High School? She’d always looked good to me, but I distinctly remembered her being thinner. Now [...]
The other day, I realized that I’ve learned some of my best relationship lessons from my worst relationships. Sometimes, good relationships end simply because you’re not meant to be, the timing isn’t right, or some other arbitrary factor completely out of your control triumphs. Other times, you become a better partner because of the relationships [...]
The moment we’ve all been dreading is upon us. Brandy’s Brother, Ray J, has followed-up his High School themed anthem, ‘I Hit It First,’ which SBM (with much regret) addressed here, with an equally wack video of the same name. The video, complete with Kim Kardashian and Raz B look-a-likes is somehow even worse than [...]
The other day, someone told me, “I don’t think you like kids.” I’m not gonna lie, this kind of hurt my feelings. Normally, I could care less what people think about me but being labeled a “baby hater” kind of stung. I thought long and hard about this statement, and I decided it’s not completely true. [...]
First and foremost, SBM’s thoughts and prayers are with those directly and indirectly affected by the recent Boston Marathon Bombing. Like many others, SBM is happy to know that at least one of the alleged fugitive brothers was taken into custody. However, while the pursuit and eventual apprehension of one of the suspects dominated headlines since the [...]
Let’s crunch some numbers. According to the most recent Census data, the median paycheck for Americans is $26,364, which means half of Americans made more and half made less. If most women can’t see themselves dating a man who makes $26,000 or less, then we have our answer: No, the average man cannot afford a girlfriend. [...]
Many will personally experience or know someone that has or will experience the role of step-parent or having a step parent. Like many things in life, there is no cut and dry, right or wrong way to parents. However, there are certain rules we can follow (or not follow) to make the experience better or worse for [...]
I was introduced to a new web series last week by @lincolnablades called How Men Become Dogs. The series is an Issa Rae (@IssaRae) production. Some of us are familiar with Issa Rae from her work with the Awkward Black Girl series. You can also read more about her and her various projects on her website IssaRae.com. Her [...]
You might be familiar with the fact that Obama recently had to apologize for calling a woman attractive, but in case you don’t know the full story, during a Democratic National Committee fundraising lunch in Atherton, California, President Barack Obama called California Attorney General Kamala Harris the “best-looking” attorney general in the country. His exact quote: [...]
