The Children of Divorce: How Divorce Influences Our Relationships

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A while back, I asked my Twitter followers a simple question: @WisdomIsMisery: if your significant other is a product of divorced parents, do you take this into consideration when dating them? Now before I get into the general theme of the responses, I’ll share my motivation for asking the question. I take into consideration whether my [...]

Right vs Wrong: Black, White, and How We Poorly Assess Our Failed Relationships

Men are simple creatures.

Admin Notes: HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY!!! If you’re in the New York area this Valentine’s Day you should come out to The Bachelor Party, a Valentine’s Day mixer at Gild Hall in Manhattan. If you came here expecting a Valentine’s Day post, I suggest you check out Streetz Valentine’s Day Advice or you can read my post over [...]

Chris Brown Can Beat Me

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This was the sentiment expressed by, at minimum, 25 Chris Brown fans during the Grammys last night. I’m sure they didn’t expect their Tweets to be shared around the world on sites like the Huffington Post, but such is the nature of the Internet. Some apologized, but most acted defensively. They preferred to rely on [...]

SBM Video Series: Why Is It So Difficult for Black Men to Commit

I’ve been writing for a number of years and in my professional and personal experiences a number of women have asked me why is it so difficult for men to commit, especially black men. I honestly have no idea but I have my theories. I’m sure it has something to do with rap music. In [...]

Career Pathways in Love: Girlfriends versus Wives

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Let me begin by saying it is it my belief that after a certain age, let’s say 25 for context, most men aren’t out to purposefully hurt women. With that said, there are still only two career pathways to love, the job path of the girlfriend and the career path of the wife. Arguably, at any [...]

SBM Video Series: Approaching Women and The Three Foot Rule

Honestly, when it comes to the courting process I’m not the most ambitious man on the planet. Some might even call me lazy. Don’t get me wrong, I have no problem approaching women. I do that all the time. I’m just saying I’m not going to go out of my way to do it. However, [...]

The Curious Case of Amber Cole and How I’d Respond Were I a Father

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I know what you’re thinking, “Amber Cole, again?!?” or you might be thinking “Who the hell is Amber Cole?” If you’re in the latter group, you can read a brief summary of the story over on Global Grind. If you’re in the former group, whether you like it or not there are thousands of Amber [...]

We Made Love at Midnight: My 10 Favorite Artists from BET’s Midnight Love

The face of a man who knows she is coming over watch Midnight Love later.

For the youngsters among us, in a time long long ago MTV and BET use to play music videos. They had whole shows dedicated to playing videos free of interruption and annoying hosts. This might not seem like much to you ungrateful bastards because you’ve been spoiled by the likes of the YouTube. One show [...]

SBM Video Series: Let Sleeping Men Lie

I don’t know how many of you know this but I love sleep. It’s awesome. What’s not to like? I can escape to a dreamlike world loosely based on the concept behind the movie Inception. Most days I only have 8 hours to enjoy this nocturnal state of euphoria and I don’t take kindly to [...]

How to Know He Loves You: Stress Him Out

This is not what a committed relationship should feel like.

I’ve had a number of female friends over the years ask, How can I tell he loves me? I’ve answered this question a lot of different ways but when it boils down to it, the best way to tell if a man loves you is to STRESS. HIM. OUT. I’m serious. You’re probably thinking to [...]