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A SBM reader asks the following (submit your own questions here): I’ve been friends with this man for 1 year and we have a friends with benefits relationship. We only saw each other like once a month in the beginning, but lately in the past 3 months we’ve been seeing each other every week and [...]
Recently, someone asked me if “men enjoy being the sideman?” For those of you who are unfamiliar, the “sideman” refers to a man who plays the side-role to a woman he knows is in a committed relationship. His equal of the opposite sex is usually referred to as the “sidechick.” My answer: yes and no. [...]
The popular theory is that women value sex more than men. This past weekend I was debating this topic with the misses. Eventually, I jokingly quoted from a Dave Chappelle routine, “if men could have sex in a box, they wouldn’t buy a house.” If you’re unfamiliar, this routine is shown in the YouTube video [...]
With all the focus on bedroom skills, sometimes it seems like men forget the fact that the majority of the time they spend with a woman will occur outside of the bedroom. As the saying goes, “It’s not about who you want to spend your Friday night with but who you want to spend all day Saturday [...]
Not a week goes by where I don’t read about a woman, usually multiple women, talking about heartbreak in the blogosphere – not that there’s anything wrong with that. As a writer/blogger, I am familiar with the cathartic process of sharing your inner most thoughts with complete strangers who even if they judge you have [...]
Last week, Dr. J wrote a post on the New NYC Teen Pregnancy Prevention Ads. At some point during the day, a debate on the role of child support erupted in the comment section. In reading these comments, I realized very quickly that men and women have very different views on the role of child support, [...]
Last week, Dr. J wrote a post on the New NYC Teen Pregnancy Prevention Ads. At some point during the day, a debate on the role of child support erupted in the comment section. In reading these comments, I realized very quickly that men and women have very different views on the role of child [...]
We come to you today with sad news, SBM family. Yesterday, Los Angeles Clippers basketball player DeAndre Jordan attempted and successfully completed an assassination attempt on the Detroit Pistons’ Brandon Knight. Later that evening, security footage of the crime and resulting aftermath were released. Parental discretion is advised. Soon after, dismayed witnesses to the event took to the Internet to update [...]
Last week, MensHealth.com dropped a list of 13 items all 30-year-old “men,” term used loosely, should get rid of by age 30. I thought I’d share my favorite top five from the list, in no particular order, and see what others think a man should retire as he enters his 30th year of life. 1. [...]
Awhile back a reader asked the following question of the SBM staff via email (By the way, contact us here if you want to send your own inquiries). I’ve read that for men long and lengthy, extended foreplay is not very important and necessary for most men. They like to “get right down to it.” [...]
