The Source For Black Male Perspective
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference. When I first started being a source of advice for friends and family, I would sit and think about things for a few days and then come up with some [...]
I’ve got tons of friends, but contrary to the way others might approach their friends, I manage my friends with expectations. Some people use categories such as; associates, acquaintances, homies, friends, or whatever other terms they develop to explain their relationship with a person, but I use expectations. For this very reason, there are many [...]
This weekend, Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter and Beyonce Knowles welcomed to the world their first child, reportedly named Blue Ivy Carter. Considering the couple’s standing in the lexicon of American celebrity, this is as about a momentous an occasion as ever occurs as far as celeb child births are concerned. I am a Jay-Z fan, have [...]
It’s a week before the beginning of winter and the fall is ending. And while choosing the right coat can be perplexing when it’s 30 degrees in the morning, 65 at lunch and 45 during your commute home, it’s important that we begin to bundle up. Three months ago we spent some time looking at [...]
In my former life, you could have expected a post called, “5 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Listen to Women.” They way I’m feeling these days, eh… you may see that post one day, but it doesn’t really interest me, probably would have only written it for your entertainment. (This is an example of seeing the [...]
Last week I started a firestorm on Twitter when I Tweeted the following in rapid succession: @WisdomIsMisery: I’m thinking there is no reason to date a man over the age of 25 longer than 12 months if you want a ring from him. There, I said it. @WisdomIsMisery: If you’re still “seeing where things go” [...]
We’ve all been there. We’ve all had relationships that felt great, that met our needs at the time, that made us feel fulfilled and happy, but also ended so horribly that the idea of post-breakup communication was out of the question. Then, months, or years later, something happens. It’s almost inevitable. Because we men [...]
One of the more interesting things I’ve noticed over the past few years has been the particular set of struggles and tribulations experienced by women whose moral code is the most influencing factor in their love life. These are women who desire romantic connections as deeply as anyone else but who also have a strict [...]
Knowing how to go on an effective date is a bit of an art form. The first thing you have to understand when going on a date is that the whole point is for the two of you to get to know each other while having fun. Many folks have no idea how to extract [...]
Don’t you even THINK about it!! LEAVE YOUR HAIR ALONE!!! You’ll usually hear me screaming this at any of my women friends when they talk of drastic changes to their hairstyle. As a friend, I feel it is my right and my duty to let people I care about know when they are about [...]
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