The Source For Black Male Perspective
I was chatting with a friend of mine — we’ll call her Tameka — about her dating adventures in New York City. She’s a good person that takes care of her appearance and knows how to converse. But she regularly runs into an issue that my other female friends in NYC run into: Men that [...]
I’ll be honest, if I begin to genuinely like a woman and want more from her than to be some guy she is dating, I am going to ask myself: “Is this the best I can do?” It’s not a simple yes or no question. Like most people, when it comes to choosing one person [...]
We’d met three years prior on a day trip organized by a mutual friend. On that day we left behind whatever was going on in our real lives and let ourselves be baptismically immersed in the innocent flirtations our attraction forced us to face. An hour or so into the ride home, I put my [...]
Loved by a woman you have but moderate feelings for is one of the more frustratingly difficult places a man can find himself. It is even more frustrating when you’ve specifically told this person not to fall and when you’ve given them ample opportunity to avoid falling. I was reminded of what it feels [...]
If you believe this; I’ve got a bridge in Brooklyn, I would love to sell you. “Because if you gonna do something egregious, you might as well go balls to the wall. If not, just be the hot ass mess that you are.” That’s one of my favorite quotes. There are those situations that we find ourselves in that cause us a [...]
Sometime around 11th or 12th grade, as all of my male classmate’s growth began spurting and they became taller than our female compatriots, I came to one of my life’s more important realizations: Height Matters. I’d always known that height mattered if you wanted to be a professional basketball player or a model or something [...]
Around this time last week, Drake dropped a new track that may end up on his upcoming LP Take Care called Marvin’s Room. The song is Mixtape Drizzy at his finest, depicting a classic situation in which many dudes have found themselves – drunk dialing an ex to express repressed feelings of regret and defiance. [...]
Knowing how to go on an effective date is a bit of an art form. The first thing you have to understand when going on a date is that the whole point is for the two of you to get to know each other while having fun. Many folks have no idea how to extract [...]
My boy hit me up last week, excited that he spent the day chilling with two 20 year old girls who blew his mind. “Yo, they were mad fun, and it was just so easy to talk to them, they weren’t on some fake LA ish”. I asked if he got her number, he replied, [...]
**Phone rings** Slim: F*ck. Who is this calling me? 516 area code? I don’t even know this number. Eh, I’ll answer it. Jennifer: Hey Slim. It’s Jenn. Long time no talk. Slim: Oh sh*t. Hey Jenn. What’s good? Long time no talk indeed. How are you? Jenn: I’m doing well. **Proceeds to make small talk [...]
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