Take Away: An Invaluable Lesson

There is no all-encompassing formula for relationships. The diversity of individuals in this world ensures no possible algorithm for success, so consider yourself fortunate if you get it right and find someone whose values and perspectives beat to the rhythm of your own life. Truthfully speaking – my first relationship failed miserably. But on the […]

So That’s Why I’m Still Single?!

“I can see why you’re still looking for a man,” he said. Let me set the scene of the crime, because you know the brother’s life was at stake as soon as the words left his mouth. It was a Sunday afternoon, right after church. The pastor had just preached on, “Supernatural Confidence.” At least […]

How to keep your sanity dealing with frustrating (but irresistible) men

Men can make us angry. From being inconsiderate to making us feel a bit unappreciated. He would be darn near perfect if he just did not get you into that state of frustration. And often. It seems like they don’t realize what they’re doing until you’re mad and then they’re looking at you like you […]

Single, Married, and Separated, Oh My!

“Are you going out there to dance?” he asked. It was a Friday night and I was in the mood to shake my groove thang! Yep, I might be a little old and corny, but hey, it’d been that kind of week. Not a bad week, just long and I needed to let loose and […]

Can Bernie Sanders Win The Black Vote?

Bernie Sanders’ victory in the New Hampshire primary and his close second place finish in the Iowa caucuses prove only one thing: he can win in states that are overwhelming white. In Nevada, he came in behind Hillary Clinton; but in the polling, Sanders did better than expected among the state’s Latinos and its rather […]

Hollywood’s Invisible Men

“I am an invisible man…I am invisible, understand, simply because people refuse to see me.” So begins Ralph Ellison’s extraordinary novel about being black in mid-twentieth century America. And like the great intellectual hero of Invisible Man, the talents and abilities of today’s black film artists (both men and women) go unrecognized and ignored. The […]

The Black Man Chronicles, Part 1: Living Up to The Stereotypes

We’re shiftless, lazy, irresponsible people. I’m certain that there are at least a hundred other adjectives and adnouns used to describe the black man. You can find us see us out in the street hustling drugs, t-shirts, or even bottled water. We’ve also achieved the incomparable feat of occupying the most space in national jail and prison systems. It is said that we’ve fathered numerous children out of wedlock and that we have no intention of being committed to a monogamous relationship. Surely, that is what most of you think; and I’m certain that you have mounds of evidence to support your belief.

Jesus Is My Homeboy, But I Hate His House

My affair with the Southern black church began at age four when I sang my first solo. “I Know the Lord Will Fix It” was the song’s name. I was so tiny that I had to stand in a chair just to be seen over the large pulpit in front of the choir area. The […]

He Will or He Won’t: 5 Reasons Why He Didn’t Call

“This is my friend Kristin,” she said. My girls and I went out last month for our Secret Santa exchange. Yes, my friends are cool and we do gift exchanges! We had an awesome time and I got a great gift! After dinner, we decided to head up to the bar to “mingle” A.K.A. sit […]

Why Is Halle Berry Crazy, But Steve Harvey Is A Relationship Guru

A few months ago, famous actress, Halle Berry announced that she was ending her third marriage to Oliver Martinez. It didn’t take long for the bitter, misogynistic men brigade to chime in with how crazy Halle is, which is why she can’t keep a man. It didn’t take long for the women to offer some […]