Why Being In Love Shouldn’t Feel The Same Every Time

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“I Think I fall in love a little bit with anyone who shows me their soul. This world is so guarded and fearful. I appreciate rawness so much.” The above quote was “screenshotted” by me from instagram. It speaks almost directly to what I’d like to get into today. I have become an avid listener […]

Stephen A. Smith: Men Shouldn’t Hit Women and Women Shouldn’t Provoke Men

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My father once told me, “You should never put your hands on a woman. If you are dating a woman that makes you feel angry enough to hit her, than she isn’t the woman for you.” Basically he meant, it’s up to you to be a man and never blow your cool. He also meant […]

Trouble With The Swirl: My Boyfriend Was Ashamed Of Me Because I’m Black

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I learned that love isn’t blind the hard way. “I didn’t think you’d want to know.” This was how my boyfriend of three years told me that he was leaving me for a different girl. A white girl. As I watched him struggle with what to say, I remembered that I had seen them together around campus […]

Does Someone Deserve To Be Cheated On?

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“Maybe this might sound rude. I’m Taken but I want you.”  Trey Songz – “Cake” This is certainly a predicament many have been in. The above quote references Trey simply being greedy. That’s why the track is coined “Cake.” Today’s post isn’t about cheating for cheating sake. Today’s post is about my thoughts on our […]

4 Signs He’s Finished Playing Games

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I found myself watching Boomerang over this past holiday weekend. It’s one of my favorite flicks. This time around the experience was a bit different. Something tells me the Taylor Port had something to do with that, but I digress.  I noticed something towards the end of the movie. Angela (Halle Berry) was hurt. She […]

Why Men Don’t Put in Work in Dating

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“Why don’t men want to put in any work?” I guess this is an age old question. Hell, I might get get a question like this at least once a week. It’s well documented that dating if nothing else can be tricky. So many nuances are involved. You’re always thinking so defensively. What should you […]

A Wife’s Love : What I Learned From “Legend’s House”

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Like a few writers here at SBM, I’m a pro wrestling fan. As early as I can remember  I was watching it. It entertained me like other mediums didn’t. Now, at 25 I still watch. I might not watch as frequently, but it’s still a pastime. Over the last few weeks I was caught up […]

Why Being Bitter Leaves You with a Shallow Dating Pool

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Complaining seldomly leads to success. That’s a principle that is accurate in all facets of life. So naturally that makes our dating lives no different. Some people are lucky to find the right one rather quickly. For the majority of us… it’s the opposite. For most of us, dating is an experience. It lasts for […]

Are These Women* Loyal? Some Men Sure Aren’t.

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  We’re a couple weeks from summer y’all!! It’s around this time where there’s a whole slew of new music. We’re all listening and looking to see reactions. We’re trying to figure out what will be the summer anthem. I love summer anthems. I frequent  many outings throughout the summer months (like the UA BBQ […]

What Happens To The Scorned?

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Everybody goes through things in their life and there’s no telling how they’ll come out of it. The pain that comes from heartbreak or disappointment cannot be captured in words. We have power though. We have the power to find peace and heal ourselves. And when we don’t find that we end up scorned. This […]