Who Decides What “Making Love” Is?

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 Share on Tumblr It’s Monday night, and we are in the midst of a big time snow day here in the northeast. That’s right, if you reside in a city in this vicinity then your city will be cuff city for a couple days. What better time to have a little fun with this topic. […]

The Death Of Cheap Dates: Why We Should Appreciate Dates In 2015

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 Share on Tumblr   This post today is partially inspired by Dr. J. About a week ago he let off a series of tweets about dating. I won’t quote them all but the gist of the tweets are that none of us should be caught complaining about someone being cheap. His stance was that if […]

Can Great Chemistry Not Be Enough?

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 Share on Tumblr You’ve heard most of us writers who give our ideas on relationships speak ad nauseam about having requirements. “What do you look for in someone?” It’s all too common in conversation. I’m of the thought that seeking good chemistry should be at the top of most people’s lists. If anything, it should […]

Is The Goal Of A Relationship Marriage?

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 Share on Tumblr Over the last few weeks I’ve been asked a lot about marriage and my responses have caught a few people off guard. I thought that would make for interesting conversation on SBM and many other outlets. Simply put, is there really a reason why we should all set our relationship goals on […]

Why Men Should Enjoy The Holiday Offseason

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 Share on Tumblr Happy new year to everyone, and one time for Stuart Scott! I hope everyone had an enjoyable break or semi-break. I happened to thoroughly enjoy mine minus a couple of nonsensical events. But what’s a holiday season without those right? So now we’re in January and the dust is settled. For the […]

Views From The 6: A Retrospective On Women As My 26th Birthday Approaches

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 Share on Tumblr At this point I am less than a week from my 26th birthday. 25 was a fun year, a progress year. I expect 26 to be more of the same just with some bigger moves to be made. It was my own bright idea to share with my SBM family some thoughts […]

Why You Never Really Moved On From Your Ex

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 Share on Tumblr The other day I had a conversation with a close friend and the topic of conversation came up of whether you ever move on from your ex. Not the ex that was a dirtbag but the exes that you have that you really cared about. I told her in summary that you […]

A Guide To First Date Conversations For Men

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 Share on Tumblr This past weekend I had a date night and went to go see “Top Five.” I t was a good time, and the movie fascinated me for a few reasons. None of those reasons really correlate with this post. So maybe another time we’ll get into that. More importantly I’m here to […]

Still Single? Blame Your Friends.

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 Share on Tumblr Let’s think about it. We all have some friends and while we love them dearly we know that they’re kind of messed up. The secret is we’re not telling them. We don’t want to hurt their feelings because we love them. What happens next is that our friends keep going through life […]

You Are Appreciated: A Letter to Black Women

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 Share on Tumblr Dear Ladies: I depend a lot on current events and hot topics to help put together the pieces that I write. A lot of inspiration I have comes from conversations with people. The second source of inspiration is probably from things going on in social media.  At the core of all of […]