Why Sloppy Public Drunkenness Isn’t The Business

It’s been a while since I’ve written. I briefly want to express my sympathies to the nine families who were affected by the church shooting in South Carolina. I share my thoughts on this in the next episode of the Negro Please Podcast. We still have a ways to go. To the gay and lesbian […]

Why Being Fiscally Responsible Is Sexy

It’s amazing how many layers to dating there are. The more time flies by, the more different things begin to matter more to me. These things aren’t usually things that you can see. They’re really ideas, attitudes, and philosophies I look for a potential prospect to have. In conversing with different people, I try to […]

Is God Responsible For Sexual Chemistry?

I think one of the greatest beauties in life is the fact that there is so much to debate. There is so much to discuss and so much room to gain more understanding. Once in a while I am lucky to be inspired to write about something that I think would make a great debate […]

How Can Your New Lover Measure Up To Your Ex In Bed?

This past weekend I was able to watch Chris Rock’s “Kill The Messenger” stand up special again. If you’ve followed my writing you know that I gain a lot of inspiration from stand up acts. We laugh at most jokes because we relate. Kill The Messenger is one joint that grew on me over time. […]

With Age Comes Clarity in Relationships

I asked a room full of women to take out a sheet of paper and fold it in half. On one side of the paper, write down the reason why you stopped talking to, dating, or even being married to every man you’ve ever been with. On the other side of the paper, write down […]

Ask A Black Man: The Experience

  We are in full swing of the second season of Ask A Black Man on Madame Noire. I had the opportunity to participate and was glad to. I was a fan of the first season and appreciated what the series was striving for. There’s nothing like seeing guys come together and speak candidly on […]

Are You Worthy Of Being Committed To?

There’s a funny irony when you’re a writer who enjoys writing about relationships and dating. How could someone with all these wide perspectives still be a “single black male?” I’ve always thought that if you’re in the business of sharing perspective then it’s all good. Like Charles Barkley says, “There are no experts, only God […]

She Got Body Part 3: Is There A Line Between Thick And “Fat?”

So about two months ago I was heavily into a reality show on Lifetime called “Big Women, Big Love.” I was fascinated by it and many of you who follow my work know my interest in alternative reality shows. This show examined the plight of plus sized women which the world would label “fat.”  The […]

She Got Body Part 2: You With All Those “Curves”…

This is part two of the “She Got Body” series here on SBM. Part one was last week and covered the topic of women who were late bloomers and became “finer” as they got older. Give that a look here. This week I wanted to speak on a different aspect of body image that is […]

Another Dysfunctional Dating Story

I will be the first to say that dating is difficult. It’s stressful. As the woman, you have to make sure your hair is on point, nails done, and that what you wear is flattering. You have to worry about what to talk about, how much to disclose, and depending on what city you’re in, […]