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Growing up they always told us that older men preferred younger women. We came up with answers for why this may happen; maybe it was because they kept their looks or maybe it was because younger women didn’t have all the baggage of older women. Being a young gunner in the game, I dated older [...]
I’d known her for years, but our relationship didn’t get serious until college. I was just a freshman when her highlights caught my attention. I never noticed the accents of her curves before. Was she built like that in High School? She’d always looked good to me, but I distinctly remembered her being thinner. Now [...]
There’s nothing worse than the feeling you get on the way home when you know it’s time to break up with your significant other. Many men see it this way, (1) I’m going to try and make her break up with me; that way she doesn’t tell everyone I’m grimy or bad in bed, or [...]
When you have spent years talking, thinking, and doing relationships … you get asked a lot of questions. A LOT! Very soon you realize something … most people have the same problems. Today, we re-visit one of the classics … Dear SBM, I recently discovered your website and became an instant fan, I am so [...]
Over the years, i’ve penned a few pieces on Texting etiquette as it pertains to dating. I’ve always been of the school of thought that the person who pays the bill, makes the rules. I am not oblivious to the challenges that texting causes in relationships or dating. It can be the cause of serious [...]
The other day, I realized that I’ve learned some of my best relationship lessons from my worst relationships. Sometimes, good relationships end simply because you’re not meant to be, the timing isn’t right, or some other arbitrary factor completely out of your control triumphs. Other times, you become a better partner because of the relationships [...]
Yesterday, Jason Collins decided to come forward with an announcement that he was gay. I was real happy for him and I made sure to let him finish but when you hear an announcement like that, you always have to stop and think for a second. I reviewed my timeline on Twitter and my newsfeed [...]
The other day, someone told me, “I don’t think you like kids.” I’m not gonna lie, this kind of hurt my feelings. Normally, I could care less what people think about me but being labeled a “baby hater” kind of stung. I thought long and hard about this statement, and I decided it’s not completely true. [...]
It’s been just over a week since I moved from my small Harlem abode to my brolick Brooklyn apartment. And I couldn’t be happier. What I’m not happy about is the process of unpacking. It sucks. A lot. And as much as I hate to admit it, I’m prone to mini bouts of hoarding. I’ve [...]
On April 23, 2013 France passed their “Marriage For All” law that extends marriage and adoption rights to gay couples. France is the 14th country in the world to pass such a law. I couldn’t be happier for France because rights such as this shouldn’t be limited to certain parts of a country but should [...]
