How To Get Off The Dating Rollercoaster 101

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You’ve reached a point where you’re tired of exerting energy into the wrong guys so you take time to re-evaluate yourself and your approach to dating. Then, finally, one day you wake up and say “Okay, I’m ready to get back out there and try again” only to find yourself in the same cycle, repeating […]

Are You Really Ready for a Relationship?

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How do you know you’re ready for a new relationship?  Is it a feeling?  Is it perfect timing?  Do you just know? Honestly, feelings, time and the inexplicable are not reliable indicators that you’re ready for a new relationship. Sure, you may have made decisions in the past based on one or all of them, […]

You Want a Ring? Play Your Position.

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At one time or another dating was easy. It was about going out with someone and having fun. There was no pressure when it came to dating. But nowadays, it seems as if women are really putting the pressure on these men and expecting some type of committed relationship after a couple of months of […]

How to Date Successfully: The 30 Day Return Policy

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Break-ups suck. Everyone knows this. It’s a time when most people like to point fingers instead of looking within themselves and seeing what they could have done differently. You may ask yourself such questions as: Was I good enough? Were they good enough? Was I to moody/pushy? Should I have called more instead of texting? […]

I Was The Side Chick & Didn’t Even Know It

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I met him at a community event where his company was one of the vendors. I was walking around, networking like I usually do when he and I started a conversation about the event. We somehow got on the subject of relationships (totally random, I know). I started talking about how good Black men were […]

Why We Need to Change the Conversation About Engagement Rings

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In the wake of Dwayne Wade proposing to Gabrielle Union, I am sure you all have taken a look at the engagement ring at some point. The rock is huge.  I am happy for Gabrielle and Dwayne. They have great chemistry, but I hope that gentlemen and ladies are not measuring their own commitment by […]

SBM Sports: 83 Reasons Julius Randle is Overrated

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Fabian McNally stops in this week to offer his insight on highly touted college basketball player Julius Randle. Follow him at @FabianMcNally for his insights into sports, or to roast him…whatever. Julius Randle came into the college basketball season ranked, by many, as the 3rd best collegiate prospect behind Andrew Wiggins and Jabari Parker. Three […]

Someone Is Going to Love This Blogger: What’s It Like To Date a Blogger?

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I told him. I told my oldest male friend about my break up with The Besticle. I told him about how we broke up, how I blogged about it, and how that mother fu my ex called me up to complain about my blogging. Then I cringed. And waited. On some level I knew my […]

Tipping in the United States vs. the United Kingdom: Who Gets It Right?

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A Cornell professor has written a lot of papers about tipping, with some interesting results for the urban male. Now I know living in the United Kingdom we don’t tip, anywhere as much as Americans. Not only that, the percentage we tip is far below the scale of the U.S. But I’ve spent a lot […]

Based on a True Story: Pay Attention to Her Red Flags

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If you’re on Twitter, you might be familiar with a post that was well-circulated last week written by Nova Giovanni about his experience with a woman he met on-line. We’re all aware of the Catfishes that exist on-line, and while this woman wasn’t fake, the experience was definitely interesting. But, don’t take my word for […]