Why You Always Hating? – Congrats to @Lira_Galore!

  I know the grammar is horrid in that title. However, this is a blog and as I’ve said before if I wanted everything on this site to be literary masterpieces I’d write for the NY Times. Anyway… today I got to thinking about two things; everybody thinks my blogs are about them and everybody […]

The Decision to Marry Is Not About You

Recently, I’ve been having a lot of conversations with women who are ready for marriage and family. As crazy as it is that people make the decision about marriage by themselves instead of as a couple is weird to me but I’ll set that aside for now. Later in the conversation I always ask these […]

Is God Responsible For Sexual Chemistry?

I think one of the greatest beauties in life is the fact that there is so much to debate. There is so much to discuss and so much room to gain more understanding. Once in a while I am lucky to be inspired to write about something that I think would make a great debate […]

Happy Wife, Happy Life?

If I had a dollar for every time I heard this phrase, I still wouldn’t be rich, but I could go on one hell of an Amazon shopping spree. But my first stop would probably be the liquor store, because whenever I hear it, that’s the only thing preventing me from strangling the offending party. […]

With Age Comes Clarity in Relationships

I asked a room full of women to take out a sheet of paper and fold it in half. On one side of the paper, write down the reason why you stopped talking to, dating, or even being married to every man you’ve ever been with. On the other side of the paper, write down […]

14 Crucial Things Black Women Look For In A Husband

In response to the 10 things black men look for in a wife. A couple weeks ago, singleblackmale.org created a list of Ten Things Black Men Look for in a Wife. And then they followed it up with a part two, adding 10 more attributes and opening the challenge for women to chime in with their […]

The Reason You Should Love Less Than More About Them

I recently read an article that spoke to the amount of things you can love about a person. I can’t remember the exact wording but it came to mind when I readied myself to pen this post. In this article the exercise was to write down everything you love about the person you’re with. You […]

Is The Goal Of A Relationship Marriage?

Over the last few weeks I’ve been asked a lot about marriage and my responses have caught a few people off guard. I thought that would make for interesting conversation on SBM and many other outlets. Simply put, is there really a reason why we should all set our relationship goals on marriage? My answer […]

Still Single? Blame Your Friends.

Let’s think about it. We all have some friends and while we love them dearly we know that they’re kind of messed up. The secret is we’re not telling them. We don’t want to hurt their feelings because we love them. What happens next is that our friends keep going through life in and out […]

The Last of a Dying Breed: The Fall of Generation Y and the Rise of the Millennial

We all have to get used to the fact that our time as Gen Y and our prime is in its sunset. Moreover, that the Millennial’s time has come; it’s their time to lead now. I realize that my mindset about loyalty to traditional roles of employment and being focused on making as much wealth […]