15 Ways to Keep the Romance Alive in a Relationship

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Ever wondered what keeps many couples together, and what causes others to split up? Some people enter into relationships for the wrong reasons. As new age guru Deepak Chopra noted, most people seek security in a relationship; we may hook up with a person who makes us feel safe. Finding ‘the one’ can create wondrous […]

#300Sandwiches Lady Gets Engaged 256 Sandwiches Later

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Remember the 300 sandwiches lady? The one who had to make her boyfriend 300 sandwiches in order for him to propose? They just got engaged — 256 sandwiches later. In June 2012, Stephanie Smith started a blog to document the sandwiches she needed to make in exchange for a ring. If you aren’t familiar with […]

Can Cheating Make Your Relationship Stronger?

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I’ve always thought that people should find ways to make their relationships work even if it might strike others as odd or unnatural. In the end there are only two people in your relationship, you and your significant other. I’ve sat on panels and had private conversations with so many people who tell me what […]

Relationship Rules in 2014? Yeah, right – Here’s Why You Can Ditch Relationship Rules

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A few weeks back Gee Hooks penned a good piece on why people are subscribing to relationship guidelines that don’t work for them. I commented on that post saying, “I think it’s a certain type of person who thinks that they have to subscribe to the popular thought about relationships, marriages and good/bad significant others… […]

Is a Title Necessary for a Healthy Relationship?

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A title is not necessary for a healthy relationship, but on the other hand it is necessary for a healthy relationship. The unhealthy circumstances come to play when one person is holding back their true feelings and intentions. We call that settling. When a woman wants to have a title, but meets a man who […]

Are You Following These Relationship Rules in 2014?

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I will not rush things… I will make exceptions, but no compromises… I will not make it about me… I will make a list of what a want to change about me…. I will make a list of what I want in a mate…. I will celebrate small wins in my relationships… I will ask questions […]

What's the Rush: Why You Should Wait to Get Married

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Now that the drinks have been poured, the black-eyed peas and cabbage have been eaten, the midnight prayers sent to heaven, and the hangovers are fully nursed, 2014 has officially begun along with a new set of challenges to tackle. The most pressing one being to stop writing 2013 when it should be ’14; that […]

Why We Need to Change the Conversation About Engagement Rings

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In the wake of Dwayne Wade proposing to Gabrielle Union, I am sure you all have taken a look at the engagement ring at some point. The rock is huge.  I am happy for Gabrielle and Dwayne. They have great chemistry, but I hope that gentlemen and ladies are not measuring their own commitment by […]

Married Man Talk: What I Hate About Being Married

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Before you read the title and get confused, I love being married. I mean I really really love being married. I could easily spend the rest of the post talking about how nice it is to always have someone to go to the movies with, how I still look forward to coming home and seeing […]

My Expectations Of Marriage

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  Happy holidays to all you good readers of SBM. I hope your season is filled with joy, health, safety…and gifts! I have a fascination with marriage. My curiosity goes from why do things fall apart to what makes things stay together? Were some marriages doomed from the start? There are a whole litany of […]