Relationship Rules in 2014? Yeah, right – Here’s Why You Can Ditch Relationship Rules

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A few weeks back Gee Hooks penned a good piece on why people are subscribing to relationship guidelines that don’t work for them. I commented on that post saying, “I think it’s a certain type of person who thinks that they have to subscribe to the popular thought about relationships, marriages and good/bad significant others… […]

Is a Title Necessary for a Healthy Relationship?

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A title is not necessary for a healthy relationship, but on the other hand it is necessary for a healthy relationship. The unhealthy circumstances come to play when one person is holding back their true feelings and intentions. We call that settling. When a woman wants to have a title, but meets a man who […]

Are You Following These Relationship Rules in 2014?

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I will not rush things… I will make exceptions, but no compromises… I will not make it about me… I will make a list of what a want to change about me…. I will make a list of what I want in a mate…. I will celebrate small wins in my relationships… I will ask questions […]

What's the Rush: Why You Should Wait to Get Married

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Now that the drinks have been poured, the black-eyed peas and cabbage have been eaten, the midnight prayers sent to heaven, and the hangovers are fully nursed, 2014 has officially begun along with a new set of challenges to tackle. The most pressing one being to stop writing 2013 when it should be ’14; that […]

Why We Need to Change the Conversation About Engagement Rings

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In the wake of Dwayne Wade proposing to Gabrielle Union, I am sure you all have taken a look at the engagement ring at some point. The rock is huge.  I am happy for Gabrielle and Dwayne. They have great chemistry, but I hope that gentlemen and ladies are not measuring their own commitment by […]

Married Man Talk: What I Hate About Being Married

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Before you read the title and get confused, I love being married. I mean I really really love being married. I could easily spend the rest of the post talking about how nice it is to always have someone to go to the movies with, how I still look forward to coming home and seeing […]

My Expectations Of Marriage

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  Happy holidays to all you good readers of SBM. I hope your season is filled with joy, health, safety…and gifts! I have a fascination with marriage. My curiosity goes from why do things fall apart to what makes things stay together? Were some marriages doomed from the start? There are a whole litany of […]

Is It Easier For Pretty Women To Get Married?

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I catch the Metro everyday to work.  There are a few things that I typically spend my time doing; reading everyone’s new blog on my phone, listening to hype music to get me through the day, and people watching.  For some reason, I always notice the pretty women on the train.  Why?  Because there’s typically […]

Why Love Isn’t the Ultimate Requirement for Marriage

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By Miriam of 30 Thoughts My friend and I were discussing what’s always on everyone’s mind these days: love and relationships. We were updating each other on our potential plus ones when I asked, “Why do I have to be in love with the person I marry? Why can’t I marry a man because I […]

5 Things I Love About Being Married – From a Man

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Ask a woman about being married, the response will be the same 90% of the time. “It’s wonderful” or “My Husband is my best friend” or even “I hate that cheating lying sumb*tch … but it’s better than being single”.  For the most part, it’s understood that married women love being married. Ask a man […]