5 Men You Need to Meet (But Not Marry)


Some guys may teach you something, says the author of the riveting novel The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P. That doesn’t mean you need to spend the rest of your life with them. 1. The One Who Never Wanted to Commit—Until He Met You This sounds like the dream, right? The guy who proclaimed to […]

Infidelity Rates May be as High as 70 percent

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Anyone who has been unfaithful and then gone to couples therapy to “work on the marriage” — assuming he or she hasn’t already been given the boot — knows that the therapist probably isn’t going to take his or her side. You cheated, you’re bad, end of discussion. Yet it’s clear that with infidelity rates […]

20 Tips for Divorce-Proofing Your Marriage

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Recently, a well-known motivational speaker separated from his wife of 16 years. Despite claiming he is not a relationship expert, Gerald Rogers decided to share 20 tips on “Marriage advice I wish I would have had…” This post went viral, eventually resulting in him being featured on numerous national media outlets. Most of his advice […]

How Friendships with Married Men Become Affairs


Most women agree that they would never have an affair with a married man and even vehemently oppose any accusation that they would. But if that’s the case, “Why are there married men still out here having affairs? and “Who are they having them with?” Someone must not be telling the truth. From the beginning, […]

One Man’s Case For Relationship Contracts


I believe that in the dark corners of the circles that only include men talking truthfully about life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness all men reach a level of certainty. They realize that the current system of marriage in America is dysfunctional and that at the point that the marriage license is signed and […]

Her Husband Is Bisexual: Could You Date a Bisexual Man?


In private, my husband, Paul*, has started referring to his sexual orientation as “Results-Oriented.” As in, he doesn’t care what gender his sexual partners are if they can get the job done, so to speak. He’s being glib when he says that — no, he wouldn’t go to bed with just anyone — but there’s […]

Americans In Bed: A Lesson In Love On HBO


HBO has outdone themselves with the summer series Documentary called “Americans In Bed.” Americans In Bed chronicles ten couples and their stories of love and how they arrived at that place. The beauty of this documentary is not so much in the content covered, but in the variety of the couples. Just to name a […]

Husbands…and The Friendzone

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*Let’s get this out the way now.  There is a subset of married men who thinks it’s possible for them to be friendzoned.  Where this thinking comes from?  I have no idea.  By it’s very essence, the concept is almost impossible.  And yet, some men hold this particular pseudo-truth to be self-evident.* No doubt you’re […]

Shacking Up: Soul mates or Roommates


Most couples view moving in together as the next step; while it may be the best step that doesn’t mean it’s the next step. Cohabitation is on the rise. Years ago, it wasn’t acceptable for a couple to start shacking up before marriage. Now, many people believe that if you don’t live together before marriage, […]

Why Aren’t Black Women Getting Married


Right now the current state of marriage in Black America is not all that bad. It’s not great, but it’s not time to start reading last rites. I’ve told people that I rarely share my opinions on marriage because it’s a real depressing outlook that bothers a lot of people. When I tell people that […]