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The other day, I came across an article entitled Stop Calling Sh*t Fatherless. The majority of the points made in the article I actually agreed with. The term itself is derogatory at best and inflammatory at worst. People toss it around flippantly on social media (I’m looking at you Twitter), and it has found its way [...]
Click here for part 1 and here for part 2. Fast forward to the end of the summer. Classes are done and I’d gotten to the point where I didn’t fall apart when I saw my Stacey eating lunch during class with Steve. Not only did it hurt, it was embarrassing because everyone knew [...]
Some men are afraid of women. I don’t mean physically – although some men are physically afraid of women. I mean mentally. Mentally speaking, most boys are terrified of women. This is why boys tell so many ignorant bold-faced lies that they could in no way shape or form ever get away with. There are [...]
While taking a break at the plantation, I came across a great read in the archives of BrownSista.com. It’s a woman’s perspective on the games men play, with some insider info on why men are so quick to label women as “crazy.” I’m sure both men and women can relate to this article. Take a few [...]
Each year I watch the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show and it gets me to thinking… are men predisposed to think all women should resemble these models? Let me be the first to say, “Hell No!” But let’s really sit down and examine the disconnect that men have between the women they see in the media [...]
For Part 1, click here. A couple weeks before I asked Stacey to be my girlfriend, we had an unfortunate incident involving Steve. Turns out the burglar that took all of Stacey’s stuff hit the entire neighborhood and Stacey didn’t have renter’s insurance. Guess who did though? Yep, Steve, who lived in the same neighborhood [...]
The other day, I was engaged in a discussion about relationships with @fromraewithlove and @MadameMonarch. I did more listening (reading) than participating, but I put forth one point that led me to this article: Men who play Cap’n Save ‘Em need to better evaluate which women may actually need to be saved. At some point [...]
(Names have been changed to protect the not so innocent) It’s general knowledge that women show their love and affection more than men; but when men fall, they fall hard. In the same breath when a man’s heart is broken, he takes it a lot harder than a woman would. Have you ever been around [...]
I can’t be mad at Black women when they say that Black men don’t have a clue what they want. It’s hard even getting a straight answer out of a Black man on what he really wants out of a woman. It’s different for each of us. But at a very basic level, what’s on [...]
This week Ashley, a SBM reader, shared a non-traditional bucket list from her friend, Zuri F., through our Facebook page. At first, we thought the list was pretty hilarious. Then we realized the list made a lot of sense and it was our duty to share it here with the full SBM Family. Tabernacle! Below are 30 [...]
