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Growing up they always told us that older men preferred younger women. We came up with answers for why this may happen; maybe it was because they kept their looks or maybe it was because younger women didn’t have all the baggage of older women. Being a young gunner in the game, I dated older [...]
There’s nothing worse than the feeling you get on the way home when you know it’s time to break up with your significant other. Many men see it this way, (1) I’m going to try and make her break up with me; that way she doesn’t tell everyone I’m grimy or bad in bed, or [...]
Over the years, i’ve penned a few pieces on Texting etiquette as it pertains to dating. I’ve always been of the school of thought that the person who pays the bill, makes the rules. I am not oblivious to the challenges that texting causes in relationships or dating. It can be the cause of serious [...]
The other day, I realized that I’ve learned some of my best relationship lessons from my worst relationships. Sometimes, good relationships end simply because you’re not meant to be, the timing isn’t right, or some other arbitrary factor completely out of your control triumphs. Other times, you become a better partner because of the relationships [...]
Yesterday, Jason Collins decided to come forward with an announcement that he was gay. I was real happy for him and I made sure to let him finish but when you hear an announcement like that, you always have to stop and think for a second. I reviewed my timeline on Twitter and my newsfeed [...]
It’s been just over a week since I moved from my small Harlem abode to my brolick Brooklyn apartment. And I couldn’t be happier. What I’m not happy about is the process of unpacking. It sucks. A lot. And as much as I hate to admit it, I’m prone to mini bouts of hoarding. I’ve [...]
It’s so easy for us to give up faith in relationships. Many of us have thought about quitting several times. People will tell you, “When you fall off a horse, you have to get back on.” That’s provided you haven’t concluded that you don’t even want to be on that damn horse. Relationships can be [...]
All along it was a fever A cold sweat hot-headed believer I threw my hands in the air and said, “Show me something,” He said, “If you dare come a little closer.” There are some lucky people who meet the person of their dreams and go on to lead a normal life. Normal lives aren’t [...]
There’s one conversation we hate having with that one ex who always could make us feel that way. Especially if they know their former bf/gf has a new #him or #her. I’m not talking about a specifically sexual way, even though they probably were top shelf with that as well. I’m talking about the feeling where the two of us felt like Darius [...]
Dear SBM, I have been talking to this guy for about 4 months now. We hit it off at the beginning. There wasn’t a day that didn’t go by that I didn’t hear from him. From the moment I met him, I knew he was a good person.I was attracted to him because he was [...]
