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There’s one conversation we hate having with that one ex who always could make us feel that way. Especially if they know their former bf/gf has a new #him or #her. I’m not talking about a specifically sexual way, even though they probably were top shelf with that as well. I’m talking about the feeling where the two of us felt like Darius [...]
Dear SBM, I have been talking to this guy for about 4 months now. We hit it off at the beginning. There wasn’t a day that didn’t go by that I didn’t hear from him. From the moment I met him, I knew he was a good person.I was attracted to him because he was [...]
Recently, someone asked me if “men enjoy being the sideman?” For those of you who are unfamiliar, the “sideman” refers to a man who plays the side-role to a woman he knows is in a committed relationship. His equal of the opposite sex is usually referred to as the “sidechick.” My answer: yes and no. [...]
My mother has been one of the most important blessings that God has bestowed upon me. Her maternal instincts, to her wisdom, humor, guidance, and tough love have aided in shaping the man you read before you today. Whether leading by example or speaking her mind (which she never has any issue offering opinions), she [...]
Not a week goes by where I don’t read about a woman, usually multiple women, talking about heartbreak in the blogosphere – not that there’s anything wrong with that. As a writer/blogger, I am familiar with the cathartic process of sharing your inner most thoughts with complete strangers who even if they judge you have [...]
Last week, Dr. J wrote a post on the New NYC Teen Pregnancy Prevention Ads. At some point during the day, a debate on the role of child support erupted in the comment section. In reading these comments, I realized very quickly that men and women have very different views on the role of child support, [...]
Last week, Dr. J wrote a post on the New NYC Teen Pregnancy Prevention Ads. At some point during the day, a debate on the role of child support erupted in the comment section. In reading these comments, I realized very quickly that men and women have very different views on the role of child [...]
A few weeks ago, I found myself on the couch with a glass of wine and my laptop. My cell phone was cradled in my neck as my friend begged me to send her a recent picture. “C’mon! I’m gonna send out a mass text and hopefully find you a man,” she said. “This is [...]
While catching up on current events in NYC, I came across an equally funny and disturbing article. A Brooklyn man went AWOL for 2 weeks. When faced with the proposition of explaining his 2 week hiatus to his girlfriend, he decided against telling the truth and opted to go this route instead: Rahmell Pettway, 36, [...]
I often joke that the biggest hindrance to me finding women to date is how intimidating my female friends can be. I always imagine a game of taboo where I’m the keyword and my girlfriend probably wouldn’t be able to describe me to a room full of people, but if I let one of my [...]
