Three Relationship-Starting Tips from a Family Therapist

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Sometimes I envy the preacher: when couples come to him, they’re in LOVE. When people come to me, it’s not because they’re in love. It’s because they’re in trouble. I’m a family therapist, and when you’re knocking on my door, it’s because the two of you need to work something out. I love my work, […]

Are These Women* Loyal? Some Men Sure Aren’t.

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  We’re a couple weeks from summer y’all!! It’s around this time where there’s a whole slew of new music. We’re all listening and looking to see reactions. We’re trying to figure out what will be the summer anthem. I love summer anthems. I frequent  many outings throughout the summer months (like the UA BBQ […]

Is Honesty Really the Best Policy?

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We all want honesty. Nobody wants to be with someone who’s walking around with a bunch of secrets. Usually when you think of someone you’re with being dishonest, it means they’re keeping things from you that may affect your relationship like they’re married and have 2 kids for example. But how often do you think […]

Is It Wrong for a Man to Suggest A Woman Lose Weight?

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You know, once in a blue there are some great articles I come across on Facebook. Recently I came across an article called “Why I Dated A Guy Who Hated My Body.” For better reference, feel free to read it here. In this post, the young lady recalls a bad experience with a guy she […]

What Do You Do When Your Ex Won’t Stop Talking about You?

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For one reason or another, exes tend to be a touchy subject in relationships. Whether it’s the potential for exes to show up again, an inkling a person can be swayed by their sex, or someone who seemingly hasn’t gotten over the hurt caused by an ex, people in relationships generally don’t want to hear […]

Why I Chose My Own Path to Finding Happiness

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One day I was thinking to myself about all the relationships that went wrong in my past and I decided to give up trying to do it the “right” way. You see, the right way is the reason why I had found myself struggling my whole life. I found the need to do things the […]

Seven Ways To Prove You Chose An Excellent Mate

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When you commit to someone, whether as a monogamous relationship or eventual marriage, there can be a sense of apprehension. You feel you are a good judge of character, but you’ve made mistakes before. There is no manual that can dictate a fool proof way to know if a mate is right for you, so you […]

8 Things Black Women Hate Being Called

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We have learned our lessons with what to call Black women, but we have never discussed it. Let’s have a conversation about what we can and cannot call women; I think we are remissed in what we call them. I also hope we can find middle ground, and stop calling women names. These are a list […]

Messing With The Guy You Don’t “Like” Might Lower Your Stock

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It’s no secret that men and women are wired differently. These differences show themselves in a myriad of ways. We spend more time than we’d like to admit just scratching our heads at one another. It’s why I and other SBM writers write. We seek to bridge a gap with understanding.  We’re a melting pot […]

What Are The Dangers of Office Romance?

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From time to time our readers do us the pleasure of sending in articles worth sharing. Not all of them make it to the site but this one was a goodie. Some people can find love and romance anywhere: in college, at social gatherings, standing in line at the store, and even at their work […]