Confession of a “Church Girl”: Stereotype or Struggle

“So you’re a church girl,” he said. I laughed to myself. Here we go. “No, I’m Christian who happens to be a woman,” I said. I’m a preacher’s daughter and grew up in church all of my life. Now I’m fully aware of the stereotype and misconceptions that come with being the “church girl”. Let […]

Happy Wife, Happy Life?

If I had a dollar for every time I heard this phrase, I still wouldn’t be rich, but I could go on one hell of an Amazon shopping spree. But my first stop would probably be the liquor store, because whenever I hear it, that’s the only thing preventing me from strangling the offending party. […]

Why Are The Women At Fight Night?

I may have been 13 or 14 when I saw Girlfight. Something about that movie always made me attracted to Michelle Rodriguez. I kind of still am. It was something fascinating about a woman wanting to be in a boxing ring. It’s a sport that seemingly has nothing feminine about it. It’s a sport that […]

With Age Comes Clarity in Relationships

I asked a room full of women to take out a sheet of paper and fold it in half. On one side of the paper, write down the reason why you stopped talking to, dating, or even being married to every man you’ve ever been with. On the other side of the paper, write down […]

Ask A Black Man: The Experience

  We are in full swing of the second season of Ask A Black Man on Madame Noire. I had the opportunity to participate and was glad to. I was a fan of the first season and appreciated what the series was striving for. There’s nothing like seeing guys come together and speak candidly on […]

She Got Body Part 2: You With All Those “Curves”…

This is part two of the “She Got Body” series here on SBM. Part one was last week and covered the topic of women who were late bloomers and became “finer” as they got older. Give that a look here. This week I wanted to speak on a different aspect of body image that is […]

Another Dysfunctional Dating Story

I will be the first to say that dating is difficult. It’s stressful. As the woman, you have to make sure your hair is on point, nails done, and that what you wear is flattering. You have to worry about what to talk about, how much to disclose, and depending on what city you’re in, […]

She Got Body: Back Then They Didn’t Want Me…

“She Got Body” is a three part series I’m beginning today. In this series I’ll give one black man’s opinion on different topics concerning body image in today’s society. Throughout the series I’ll do my damnedest to be sensitive to most feelings. I can’t please everyone, but I think there are some conversations worth having. […]

In Bed with a BOSS: How to date a WERKing Woman

In the last few years, the number of female Entrepreneurs has grown tremendously. Women are no longer waiting in the wings for opportunity to find them, they’re out in the forefront of major corporations, building their own empires and taking the world by storm. So where does that leave their male counterparts? Sometimes, a little […]

The Best Gift Ideas For Him in 2015

How difficult can it be to come up with an interesting gift for a loved one? Unlike women, men are easier to please as far as gift giving is concerned. They’re not picky and they usually value things they can actually use. The best gifts for a guy are practical but of fine quality. It’s […]