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When you have spent years talking, thinking, and doing relationships … you get asked a lot of questions. A LOT! Very soon you realize something … most people have the same problems. Today, we re-visit one of the classics … Dear SBM, I recently discovered your website and became an instant fan, I am so [...]
Today, yet another edition of Single Black Mail. Looking for advice, write in. Sure, we might have something cute to say … but the gold is in the comments. Hi my name is Jamie and I am in a very difficult situation. My boyfriend is incredibly jealous of my male bff. I’ve told him over [...]
A SBM reader asks the following (submit your own questions here): I’ve been friends with this man for 1 year and we have a friends with benefits relationship. We only saw each other like once a month in the beginning, but lately in the past 3 months we’ve been seeing each other every week and [...]
Dear SBM, I have been talking to this guy for about 4 months now. We hit it off at the beginning. There wasn’t a day that didn’t go by that I didn’t hear from him. From the moment I met him, I knew he was a good person.I was attracted to him because he was [...]
Today, we have another edition of Single Black Mail, where we attempt to bestow a little bit of relationship advice (we’re not experts) from a group of guys who spend way too much time thinking about the subject. But, as always, the best advice comes from you, the family. This letter today is extra special. [...]
Awhile back a reader asked the following question of the SBM staff via email (By the way, contact us here if you want to send your own inquiries). I’ve read that for men long and lengthy, extended foreplay is not very important and necessary for most men. They like to “get right down to it.” [...]
Dear SBM, I am fairly recent college graduate that is living in NYC. When I first moved here, I got into a relationship with a young Harlem man who I essentially got in a “situationship” with. According to him, he was giving me all of the benefits of a boyfriend, yet was reluctant to [...]
*** Admin Note *** For those who have been around long enough, you might remember a writer that actually went by the name SBM, aka Sean Blackman, aka “The engaged guy.” Well, I’ve been behind the scenes for the last few months as I finished business school, got married, moved to California, and finally started [...]
Hey SBM. I need help with a situation here. I have been dating this dude the whole of last year. towards the end of the year, he had financial constraints that could not be explained ( he does not pay my bills and he is housed by his brother) so i could not understand why [...]
SBM always welcomes reader questions, comments, and feedback. Check out our SBM Mail series here for past submissions and you can submit your own questions using the Contact Us page. Today’s reader ask: Good evening, I’ve been an avid reader of your site for a while now. I have a question that has been discussed among my circle of friends [...]
