Show Me The Money: Why Men Use Women For Financial Support


 Share on Tumblr Dear SBM, I’m a SBF in my 30s no kids, sweet spirited, pretty face with an overweight but still shapely frame. I have never really had this problem until the past 5 years but it seems every man I meet has been brazen & bold enough to ask me for money, usually […]

SBMail: Why Did He Break Up with Me After Spending So Much Time Together?


 Share on Tumblr A reader writes: I was hoping you could offer some words of wisdom. 8 years ago I met this guy named John through mutual friends. We reconnect in January and hit it off. We go on a couple dates the connection is just amazing. Too bad he’s only here for a week […]

Excuse Me Miss: Why Men Cat-Call Women Aggressively In Big Cities

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 Share on Tumblr I need some advice.  I grew up in Oakland, California, which is technically a city but in most parts doesn’t feel like one. It’s just the hood. I recently moved to Philly for college, and while I love it here, I can’t deal with some of the men I encounter. Take note […]

How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Relationship?


 Share on Tumblr From the SBM mailbox: I met someone last September at a wedding. We live on opposite sides of the country and are both relatively busy. I’m currently a full-time student and he’s a young entrepreneur. After we met we kept in touch and via phone and video chat. We never discussed relationships […]

I Thought I Only Wanted a Physical Relationship


 Share on Tumblr A SBM reader asks for advice on the following situation (submit your own questions here): I’d gotten involved with a guy back in December of 2011 when I had just gotten out of a relationship. I had decided that he and I would share a “physical” relationship, but, I never made that […]

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The Re-Appearing Ex

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 Share on Tumblr Another reader looking for information and enlightenment. While I can get it started, we all know the truth will come out in the comments. Make sure to pitch in. Don’t forget to email your questions to [email protected] and check out our responses to all of our reader questions by clicking here. Hello Single […]

She Wants A Strong Black Man! Is That Weird?


 Share on Tumblr Keep the letters coming. Well written, relationship & dating focused, and in need of advice. Why wait? Send your question to [email protected] We’ll say something, but the SBM family will say more. Hey Single Black Male, How are you? I’m a 25 year old woman, who has a great job as an […]

Why can’t HE just be my Friend With Benefits?


 Share on Tumblr Don’t forget that you too can have your question answered by one of the SBM staff, in addition to several thousand readers by sending a short, well written and explanative question to [email protected] Hey Single Black Male, I am going to get straight to the point. I have known this guy since […]

Why do men just disappear?


 Share on Tumblr When you have spent years talking, thinking, and doing relationships … you get asked a lot of questions. A LOT!  Very soon you realize something … most people have the same problems.  Today, we re-visit one of the classics … Dear SBM, I recently discovered your website and became an instant fan, […]

My Boyfriend Hates My Best Friend … Why?


 Share on Tumblr Today, yet another edition of Single Black Mail.  Looking for advice, write in. Sure, we might have something cute to say … but the gold is in the comments. Hi my name is Jamie and I am in a very difficult situation. My boyfriend is incredibly jealous of my male bff. I’ve […]