Donald Sterling Has Destroyed The Integrity Of The Game


 Share on Tumblr By now we’ve heard the disparaging racist remarks by Donald Sterling. If you haven’t, then I’m sure you at least have a gist of the story. Just to bring you up to speed, check this out: Now the title of this post might come off as me painting with a broad brush. […]

The One Thing She Really Wanted

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 Share on Tumblr Duane’s nose nudged her hair to the side, exposing the back of her neck. He took a second to let the Acqua di Gioia he’d bought her a week ago serve as a reminder of his good decision-making. Before becoming intoxicated by the scent, he asked her a question he’d answered a […]

Interview: Just Been Tested talks STD awareness


 Share on Tumblr HIV and AIDS have become ever prevalent over the last 20 years, especially in minority communities. While science and awareness has matured, we still have a lot of ignorance on the subject. Whether it’s an aversion to doctors or lack of education on the subject, sexually transmitted diseases and their cases continue […]

How One Man Became Jaded: The Final Chapter

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 Share on TumblrClick here to check out the rest of the series.  When I started this series, I was worried that by writing it I would come off as an innocent bystander who had no fault in how things progressed and ultimately ended. I definitely shouldered my fair share of deceitfulness, stubbornness and spitefulness. I didn’t […]

How One Man Became Jaded: Part 5


 Share on Tumblr Click here to check out the rest of the series.  The next three months were a blur of fights and arguments. I became numb to a lot of the bullsh*t. I looked back at a lot of things I put up with and got progressively angrier. In hindsight, I should have just […]

How One Man Became Jaded: Part 4


 Share on Tumblr Click here for the other parts of the series.  After we got back together things were going strong for a good four months before we began to hit rough patches. I can’t remember exactly what caused this particular argument, but we were mad at each other for a couple days. The fact […]

Dream Crushing: Is It Ever For the Win? Let’s Discuss…


 Share on Tumblr  A few days ago, boobookins and I were sittin’ on the couch with laptops in laps. We don’t stare at each other’s screens, but it was obvious we were both on Facebook. I was checking up on a few folks I hadn’t heard from since the storm. She was lookin’ at pictures […]

Hurricane Sandy: Requiem


 Share on Tumblr On Saturday October 27th, I was gearing up for a normal weekend. I had a birthday coming up on that Sunday, along with a Nike Football Society flag football game. Halloween parties were the norm this weekend, and everyone looked forward to a weekend filled with costumes and debauchery. Embedded in the […]

Thank You for The Biggest Month in History


 Share on Tumblr  With it being November 1st, I wanted to take a moment — well, a post — to reflect on the month of October, which was the greatest month in SBM history. But before I get to that, we want to thank the SBM readers, both new and tenured, for helping make this […]

Why Didn’t It Work Out? Was it Him or Me?


 Share on Tumblr I can only describe this man as everything I ever wanted.  Most people say, “everything I wanted in a man” or “everything I wanted in my life” but that would not have captured exactly how I felt about him.  We met in my freshman year of college.  He would wait outside of […]