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As children, we were taught about not talking to strangers and inappropriate touching from adults; not about rape and sexual assault. Despite that, I can’t ever remember growing up in an environment that encouraged or condoned rape. Not once, not never, not even for a few moments do I remember being in an environment that [...]
I’m not going to lie, I’ve heard some crazy stories about the things that men do when they want to have sex. I’ve heard everything from “JPYDO” to “after the club, ask them if they trying to smoke weed.” I laugh at some of it and I get completely frustrated at the rest. What I [...]
Awhile back a reader asked the following question of the SBM staff via email (By the way, contact us here if you want to send your own inquiries). I’ve read that for men long and lengthy, extended foreplay is not very important and necessary for most men. They like to “get right down to it.” [...]
Whether you’re aware or not, it is very likely that male birth control will be made available within our lifetimes. Actually, with clinical trials in the US scheduled to begin last year, it may be available as early as 2015 if approved by the FDA. When you consider the fact that it’s already been successfully [...]
A faithful, well-respected SBM reader forwarded me a story sharing the findings of iVillage’s 2013 Married Sex Survey. Now in the interest of full-disclosure, I’ll admit I had no idea what an iVillage was or that they, apparently, do an annual Married Sex Survey each year until I received this link. Will wonders never cease?! [...]
Preface: You will never ever get a straight answer out of me on how many people I’ve slept with. I was going around the Internet the other day and I came across an article that talked about the different ways people keep track of who they’ve slept with in their past. It took me back [...]
I can’t remember where I saw it, whether it was on Twitter or one of the blogs that I follow, but the topic was what a woman should think about a guy if he hasn’t tried to have sex with her in 90 days. Women were lined up ready to assassinate this guy. If he [...]
Everybody’s talking about it, everybody’s reading it, and if you aren’t doing either of those then you know someone who is reading or talking about the book. It’s Fifty Shades of Grey! It’s probably the most popular piece of reading on the shelves right now. It’s on just about everybody’s summer reading radar. After hearing [...]
Text messages aint nuttin but the devil! There, I said it! As many of you know, especially those of you who know me personally, I aint got no game. I haven’t had game since like 2003. I don’t know what went wrong. One day I had game, then I tore my game-spitting-ACL or something and [...]
I was hoping you could offer me some tips about how to avoid being the “homegirl”. I have two older brothers and was a tomboy while growing up. I enjoyed playing with trucks more than I did dolls. I loved being “one of the boys” and bonding with my brothers while watching wrestling or playing [...]
