Honestly, when it comes to the courting process I’m not the most ambitious man on the planet. Some might even call me lazy. Don’t get me wrong, I have no problem approaching women. I do that all the time. I’m just saying I’m not going to go out of my way to do it. However, [...]
Five Unimportant But Important Things Men and Women Look For In Each Other
January 23, 2012 By 83 Comments
Let’s be honest, for most of us, a great deal of time and energy is spent trying to make ourselves attractive to the opposite sex. Sure, we are who we are, we like what we like and most times, attractiveness is born out of the chemistry created when two individual’s je nes se quoi gets [...]
A Few Ideas To Make Her Christmas Great
December 16, 2011 By 90 Comments
For those of you who are unaware, there are six writers for the site. You can read each’s contributions by clicking their names below: Site founder: @SingleBlackMale aka SBM aka EngagedBlackMale aka EBM @SlimJackson aka Mr. Slimuel L. Jackson Dr. J aka aka @DrJayJack aka Mr. FirstToThrowAChair Streetz aka @StreetzTalk aka Mr. ImNotAPlayer @MrSpradley aka TheMostInterestingManIntheWorld [...]
You Don’t Need Jordans, Bro
December 15, 2011 By 144 Comments
I wrote a post called I Can’t Date Women With Name Brand Purses but I didn’t expect it to receive the attention it did. I won’t rehash that discussion today. Instead, I want to focus on the fact that a number of women said the same could be said for men who buy name brand [...]
The Man’s Burden: 5 Ways Men Break Up With Women and Why
December 8, 2011 By 157 Comments
People have strange rules involving break-ups: You can’t break-up with someone within 72 hours of having sex, 7 days before or after their birthday, during the month of any major holiday, by text message, and never in the seasons of winter, spring, or summer. Given all these rules, you can technically only break-up with someone [...]
Four Lessons In Love We Always Learn The Hard Way
November 21, 2011 By 94 Comments
Everywhere we go there are people looking to tell us about relationships. There are the psuedo-self-help books by people like Steve Harvey. There are the preachy movies from people like Tyler Perry and T.D. Jakes. There are blogs like this one here. And then there are our closest friends always ready and willing to impart [...]
#ToughLove: 7 Questions Men Ask Women Without Asking Women
November 17, 2011 By 117 Comments
I was watching VH1′s Tough Love Miami the other day and the contestants had to tell potential mates about their deal breakers. It made me realize that a number of single men and women are failing relationship tests they don’t even realize they’re taking. In other words, men and women are constantly evaluating one another [...]
Relationships in Debt: My Money, Her Money, Our Money
November 10, 2011 By 119 Comments
Earlier this year TIME published a sinister titled article, The New STD. The article defines the newest STD plaguing relationships as “Sexually Transmitted Debt.” It states: *73% of those married say spending more than $100 without telling a spouse is unacceptable *79% of those married say they’re more likely to talk about financial infidelity with a [...]
Have Women Removed Men’s Need to Put A Ring on It?
November 3, 2011 By 355 Comments
I recently wrote a post on my personal site asking a simple question, Do Black Men Not Value Marriage? Ideally, successful posts generate conversations that extend far beyond the limits of the comments section, Twitter, Facebook and/or wherever people chose to socialize on-line. A well written, thought provoking post will continue to haunt me generate debate [...]
Tipping Points In Love: How To Know When It’s Time To Take The Next Step
October 31, 2011 By 110 Comments
Have you ever found yourself in a situation where a romantic endeavor you thought was going great suddenly, abruptly went south without a warning or an identifiable reason? Whether you’re in the early stages of courting and thought you were heading toward a commitment or whether you’ve been together for years and thought you were [...]
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