Are Men Responsible For Round 2 in the Bedroom?

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Most times when I begin to write, I listen to a song or two just to get my mind right. Today the ipod was on shuffle and “Tap Out” comes on. How fitting, right? Maybe it’s more ironic considering today’s discussion. Last week I wrote a post entitled “Ladies, This Can be Why Round 2 […]

If You Want the Ideal Partner, Be the Ideal Partner.

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I have a question for everyone and I want your opinion. Do you think most women feel that they are “wifey” material? I’m inclined to feel that most women feel that they are entitled to the wonderful world of monogamy, and that they may not play a part in the reasons as to why they […]

"Just because someone desires you does not mean they value you"

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“Just because someone desires you does not mean they value you.”  – @SlimDarskin I saw this tweet on my timeline a couple of weeks ago and it caught my eye. I had a few thoughts I wanted to express on it, so I figured what better place than SBM. I know a whole heap of […]

4 Reasons Why Being Comfortable Can Be A Horrible Thing For Your Relationship

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I read a tweet recently that said “too many people get being in love confused with being comfortable.” There are some times where I’ll scroll down my timeline and one liners will stop me in my tracks. That tweet was one of them. Everything I will say in this post I pretty much thought of […]

For Some Men Dating and Paying for Sex Are One In the Same

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Last week an old classmate of mine wanted to know something about us men. She really wanted to know why guy’s were so interested in going to strip clubs. This young lady is not a fan of that industry and saw those who participated in it as lowly. So for this week’s post I was […]

Americans In Bed: A Lesson In Love On HBO

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HBO has outdone themselves with the summer series Documentary called “Americans In Bed.” Americans In Bed chronicles ten couples and their stories of love and how they arrived at that place. The beauty of this documentary is not so much in the content covered, but in the variety of the couples. Just to name a […]

How Do You Define Dating versus Hanging Out?

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Over the last couple weeks a whole lot has been made about the subject of dating.  Last week Ms. Keita Wheats wrote a great discussion piece. It dealt with the blurred lines in respect to what a first date really was. It was evident that there has to be clearer discourse between men and women. […]

Why Do Women End Most Relationships Before Men?

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Last week, I wrote about the fact that black men and women take longer than every other race to get married. What I didn’t touch on in that post is according to a Census Report from 2011, blacks also have the highest divorce rate (see table below). There isn’t a census study on divorce initiations by […]

Is The Time He Takes To Reply An Indication Of His Level Of Interest?

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Over the years, i’ve penned a few pieces on Texting etiquette as it pertains to dating. I’ve always been of the school of thought that the person who pays the bill, makes the rules. I am not oblivious to the challenges that texting causes in relationships or dating. It can be the cause of serious […]

Like, Love, or Lust: How Does Body Language Communicate Your Feelings?

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I’ve always been infatuated with non-verbal communication. I love to people watch. I can analyze the interactions between two or more individuals, and get pretty close to deciphering the story being told with little to no words. In college, I took an entire course dedicated to this topic, and my interest level skyrocketed. You can […]