A Man’s Dream: Can You Get to the Damn Point?

Sigh...

Last Thursday, WIM presented us with his list of the 10 most critical #ManLaw Commandments. All of ‘em had me doing the Hallelujah dance in the Church of Latter Day SBM. But there was 1 in particular that caught my attention and led me to the post for today: 5. Come to us with a [...]

No Means Yes

THIS!

Let me paint a picture for you: You get a woman’s phone number/bbm and you start chatting. You hit her with all your classic lines, your charm, and she’s FEELING it! You have no doubt in your mind that you can and will score. You set up a rendezvous with this woman, and have a [...]

The Reappearing Man: Why Men Almost Always Come Back

Somehow, We Always Come Out Of the Woodwork

  We’ve all been there. We’ve all had relationships that felt great, that met our needs at the time, that made us feel fulfilled and happy, but also ended so horribly that the idea of post-breakup communication was out of the question. Then, months, or years later, something happens. It’s almost inevitable.  Because we men [...]

Don’t call me sweetheart!

no sweetheart

Summer in New York City is unlike any other place on Earth. The city that never sleeps gets better weather, more daylight hours, and double the events. Last weekend was no different. A plethora of events engulfed the 5 boroughs that would constitute a holiday weekend in other places. We had Hot 97 Summer Jam, [...]

You Can’t Always Save the Damsel

Save Her

  Joy: “I met someone else.” I read and re-read the words plastered across my mobile. We weren’t in the middle of a conversation. We hadn’t even talked in weeks, yet I wasn’t surprised by this message’s arrival. These were serious words. Not only because of their meaning but because of the “rules” we had [...]

How Being Tactful Helps and Hinders Life

Fine. I'll be that.

There’s more to being a Single Black Male than having a one night stand on Saturday and getting dropped off before the random shorty heads to church on Sunday morning. It’s a lifestyle (not to be confused with the eventually defunct condom). Like the rest of us, I work 5 days a week, run random [...]

Are Modern Men Too Lazy to Court

computerlove1

The digital age. What a great time to be alive. Everything has gotten faster, smaller, easier but in some aspects, have things gotten too easy? In this instance, I’m referring to dating, especially for men. I had an interesting revelation the other day but I’ll get to that in a minute. I don’t know about [...]

Hell of a [S*x] Life

Technically, it *is* Black History Month

Technically, it is Black History Month… **Admin Note – SingleBlackMale.org is all over today, if you are in the D.C. area, Dr. J will be at Park at 14th today for Happy Hour, the event is free before 10PM, details here: http://www.singleblackmale.org/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/TheBlogSpot_II.jpg.  For those of you in the NYC area, Slim Jackson is at Turtle [...]

Why Women Should Eat More Rejection Pie

Either you like me, or leave me alone.

It’s interesting hearing what people have to say when it comes to the topic of rejection. Depending on when it rears its ugly head, the definitions and reactions to it change. If we’re talking about a job, people typically make comments like “I didn’t want that gig anyway.” If we’re talking about getting into a [...]

Bedroom Beef: Will You F**kin’ Touch Me?!

The following transpired between one of my boys and his boo. Hopefully his boo doesn’t read this website. If she does, my bad homie. You told me that I could write about it. Larry lays in bed next to his boo, Estefania, while she reads an urban magazine. He looks at the calendar in his [...]