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Over the years, i’ve penned a few pieces on Texting etiquette as it pertains to dating. I’ve always been of the school of thought that the person who pays the bill, makes the rules. I am not oblivious to the challenges that texting causes in relationships or dating. It can be the cause of serious [...]
I’ve always been infatuated with non-verbal communication. I love to people watch. I can analyze the interactions between two or more individuals, and get pretty close to deciphering the story being told with little to no words. In college, I took an entire course dedicated to this topic, and my interest level skyrocketed. You can [...]
I’ve already covered modern men who are too dependent on technology to bother formally courting, but what happens when a woman is too dependent on texting to talk? I address this conundrum in my latest for BadOnlineDates.com: The Male POV: I’m Dating an Over-Texter Many of you may be asking, “Wait…a man can dislike texting? But, don’t [...]
From Pick the Brain Consider the following scenarios. You have a friend who is extremely needy. They complain that you don’t call them enough. They become upset when you make plans that don’t include them. Your significant other constantly seeks your approval. It seems as if they cannot make a decision without first consulting you. [...]
I was going through tweets and noticed someone had sent me one of those “showing love” graphics like people used to send during the bubonic myspace era. Didn’t even know that was possible on Twitter. But yep, it is. So I typed “just got the pic you sent me. thanks.” And it was then that [...]
Last Thursday, WIM presented us with his list of the 10 most critical #ManLaw Commandments. All of ‘em had me doing the Hallelujah dance in the Church of Latter Day SBM. But there was 1 in particular that caught my attention and led me to the post for today: 5. Come to us with a [...]
Let me paint a picture for you: You get a woman’s phone number/bbm and you start chatting. You hit her with all your classic lines, your charm, and she’s FEELING it! You have no doubt in your mind that you can and will score. You set up a rendezvous with this woman, and have a [...]
We’ve all been there. We’ve all had relationships that felt great, that met our needs at the time, that made us feel fulfilled and happy, but also ended so horribly that the idea of post-breakup communication was out of the question. Then, months, or years later, something happens. It’s almost inevitable. Because we men are [...]
Summer in New York City is unlike any other place on Earth. The city that never sleeps gets better weather, more daylight hours, and double the events. Last weekend was no different. A plethora of events engulfed the 5 boroughs that would constitute a holiday weekend in other places. We had Hot 97 Summer Jam, [...]
Joy: “I met someone else.” I read and re-read the words plastered across my mobile. We weren’t in the middle of a conversation. We hadn’t even talked in weeks, yet I wasn’t surprised by this message’s arrival. These were serious words. Not only because of their meaning but because of the “rules” we had [...]
