Here’s How Russel Wilson Keeps The Good Guy vs Bad Guy Conversation Going

“Will He Wait In 2015?” was a piece that I wrote back in July here on SBM. The piece used the new relationship between Russell Wilson and Ciara as proof that there are men that will abstain from sex with the right woman. I spent most of that post reassuring celibate or prospective celibate women […]

Is Celibate The New Single?

Have you ever had one of those intimate conversations that just could go on forever? You don’t even realize the hours that have flown by, but your cheeks hurt from smiling and you can’t stop blushing? You share parts of yourself in ways you hadn’t expected, or maybe even experienced. You feel truly known, and you truly know the person across from you: dreams, goals, loves, everything. You are known intimately – not known physically just yet – and even though you’re ready, you’re not in a rush. Imagine if this were the core of your relationship; this love you always express, and this lust you haven’t tapped into. Imagine being intimately and truly seduced, before having sex.

How to keep your sanity dealing with frustrating (but irresistible) men

Men can make us angry. From being inconsiderate to making us feel a bit unappreciated. He would be darn near perfect if he just did not get you into that state of frustration. And often. It seems like they don’t realize what they’re doing until you’re mad and then they’re looking at you like you […]

The Valentine’s Day Chronicles: No Beginner’s Luck

 We’ve all made it! We’re past  Valentine’s Day and I sure hope it was an enjoyable one for you. Whether it  was you staying home and watching a phenomenal dunk contest, or missing everything for the sake of dinner…I do hope it was well spent. All jokes aside though, my weekend left me in a […]

Black and Introverted: 5 Tips To Attract Women – Quietly

Let’s face it. We’re a minority. No, I’m not just talking about being black. I’m talking about being introverted AND black. We aren’t allowed to exist as we rightfully should these days because black men are supposed to be outgoing. Hell, brothers are supposed to be flat-out crazy as far as the general population is […]

Why Loving Yourself Is More Than Just A Cliche

There is no shortage of Instagram posts about relationships. They range from joking about exes to $200 dates etc. I want to talk about breakups today. I want to talk about breakups and why loving yourself is the biggest component in getting over things. I know someone who recently broke up with a woman after […]

Starting Over Is A Drag, Can You Avoid That Feeling?

We have all been single at one point or another. In the wake of a breakup there’s an interim. In that time you hopefully take some time to heal if you need to. Hopefully you grow a bit in areas where it was necessary. But once all of that low key maintenance takes place, you’re […]

Single Black Mail Episode 9: “The Claim Game”

Friends don’t let friends put claims on people they didn’t even date! Jeff drops the rules of engagement for this chronic hating phenomenon. If you want your questions answered, be sure to hit us on the following: Ask.FM | Twitter  | Email  Let us know if we can post your email with “OK to Print” in your […]

How Do Men Avoid The “What Are We?” Question?

The last time I wrote here I gave my thoughts on a video that was produced by Buzzfeed. The video chronicled a woman hurt by a man who simply wasn’t honest with her. He hurt her by his lies and she felt the need to let people know that we all should be aware of […]

Single Black Mail Episode 7: “First Date Etiquette”

Jeff gives some general dos and don’ts to make that first date go smoothly! If you want your questions answered, be sure to hit us on the following: Ask.FM | Twitter  | Email  Let us know if we can post your email with “OK to Print” in your questions. Be sure to use the hashtag #SBMail when […]