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A SBM reader asks the following (submit your own questions here): I’ve been friends with this man for 1 year and we have a friends with benefits relationship. We only saw each other like once a month in the beginning, but lately in the past 3 months we’ve been seeing each other every week and [...]
I consider myself still very new to the corporate world. In May, I will be out of college for two years so there is still much for me to see in the “real world.” In my short time in the office space, there was one experience that to this day cracks me up. Allow me [...]
In the past few months, i’ve been frequently asked to speak on how technology is affecting dating and relationships. I am no expert but I have thoughts. I’m actually a huge fan of online dating and believe that while new technology poses threats to traditional views, it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Tomorrow, (Wednesday, March [...]
Today, we have another edition of Single Black Mail, where we attempt to bestow a little bit of relationship advice (we’re not experts) from a group of guys who spend way too much time thinking about the subject. But, as always, the best advice comes from you, the family. This letter today is extra special. [...]
A couple of days ago, I came across a TIME piece titled, Millennials are Paying off Debt but That’s Not Necessarily Good News. Within the context of this piece “millennials” were broadly described as people who are younger than 35 years old. Not surprisingly, millennials have less debt than people from older generations; however, from [...]
“She Smashed The Homie” This issue has been a long standing cornerstone of the “G-Code” long before Ray J made this a contemporary phrase. There are many ways to look at this and since this is my first time connecting with you all, I’ll take my time to do so. Men have all sorts of [...]
We’re coming up on the that great bastion of love for some, heartache for others, and general indifference for the rest. That’s right, I’m talking about *cue ominous sound effects* St. Valentine’s Day. Before I go any further, let me say I am not inherently against Valentine’s Day. I’m all for love being celebrated between [...]
A woman recently asked me, “Why does it seem like men always choose the next woman to be serious with, usually after he says he doesn’t want to commit to the girl he’s dating, but then ends up being in a committed relationship/marrying the next woman he dates?” Even though I believe men are fairly [...]
By Muffie Bradshaw Men and women both make dating mistakes. Here are four that come up for the fairer sex from Muffie’s perspective: 4. Ms. Anti-Commitment You’re falling for him more quickly than you planned. The emotional connection that the two of you share goes far beyond the physical attraction. Although not anticipated, the two [...]
I appreciate and admire the SBM comments section. We have some of the most interesting, knowledgeable, and entertaining people in our community. You all impart your wisdom on readers and writers alike. Once in awhile, we will get a comment that’s so left field, that it will cause people to #REACT, and invoke a plethora [...]
