Does Your Ex Deserve A Second Chance?


  A couple of weeks we received a question from a new reader: Hi I’m not sure if this question has been asked before, I’m a new reader. But as a man getting back with his ex that he dated for 6 months and didn’t cheat. Only Problems we had were communication and distance, those […]

Would You Recommend Your Ex to His/Her New Boo?

Woman at Desk

I couldn’t have dreamed that this would be my reality. I’m sitting at my desk on a weekday afternoon browsing the Internet for relevant media stories like a normal PR professional, when my cell phone started buzzing. The voice on the other end spoke with hints of hesitation. It was a friend of mine. She […]

Are You Making These Mistakes When Looking for a Relationship?


Most single people are constantly on the searched to get boo’d up or at least find someone special, but they tend to make a few mistakes on the way. Here’s a few to watch out for: 1. Allowing your friends to set you up with people that you know you’re not at all interested in, […]

Is Dating A Friend's Ex Ever Okay?


If we’re blessed enough, life is pretty long. With that, we forge many relationships. In my own personal Groupme chat last week a question was posed about dating a friend’s ex. I am of the school that it’s never that serious. There was a following question that was asked which was “Is there a time […]

Give Your Ex a Second Chance


The phrase “An ex is an ex for a reason” is played out. Here are a Few Reasons to Give Your Ex a Second Chance:  It’s More Than Love Being head over heels is one thing, but it’s a completely different story if the two of you have more in common than a favorite song. “You […]

Moving with Memories…Except from Exes


It’s been just over a week since I moved from my small Harlem abode to my brolick Brooklyn apartment. And I couldn’t be happier. What I’m not happy about is the process of unpacking. It sucks. A lot. And as much as I hate to admit it, I’m prone to mini bouts of hoarding. I’ve […]

The Curious Case Of The Fragile Male Ego


While we were together an old bf of mine got me a flat screen tv for Christmas for my new apt….before he gave it to me I mentioned wanting him to help me pick one out for my living room. We celebrated at his house and I took the tv home….which I was truly appreciative […]

Single Black Mail: How Long Do I Wait For Her To Get Over Her Ex?

How Soon is Too Soon?

We get questions from you, our readers. A LOT of questions. “Single Black Mail” is where we respond and let the family put in some thoughts too in the comments section. If you have a burning question, hit the “Contact Us” link at the top of the page.  SBM cares. I have recently started dating […]

Aftermath: Post Relationship Rules Of Engagement


Breaking up is hard to do, as the song goes. Whether you and your ex were together for a few months or years, you shared a part of your life with someone who was important to you and now that you two have split, what’s next? What should be the nature of your relationship going […]

When Keeping It Real Goes Wrong: Slandering Your Exes Through Social Media

That sh*t CRAY!!!

They should’ve never gave some of you people twitter. Yea, I said you people. Some of the things I see you humanoids do amaze me. Nothing crazier than the other night. It seems we were witness to a domestic quarrel featuring two ex lovers. Apparently, a dudes ex girl said some unfavorable things to him […]