Can We Date Friends Successfully?

friends to lovers

 Share on Tumblr “When was the first time you fell in love with hip-hop?” The dynamics of a heterosexual friendship are almost endless. They are intriguing as they involve  this unspoken code of parameters to follow. Now if you’re a regular reader of my writing then you may know I love a good reality show. […]

Still Single? Blame Your Friends.


 Share on Tumblr Let’s think about it. We all have some friends and while we love them dearly we know that they’re kind of messed up. The secret is we’re not telling them. We don’t want to hurt their feelings because we love them. What happens next is that our friends keep going through life […]

How Do We Help The Friend That Won’t Listen?


 Share on Tumblr By now you’ve heard about this little pop tart moment Chris Brown had on Monday. If you’re not familiar, take a quick look a  post on Madame Noire here. In a nutshell the ladies of the talk show “The Real” on Fox were having a roundtable discussion about  what they called “inter-friend-tions.” […]

Problem Solved: Just Date Your Friends


 Share on Tumblr Take a look at your circle of friends. I’m sure you have people of the opposite sex mixed in there, which is expected. Now, when I say friend, I mean actual friend. Not someone who you mess with from time to time, but a genuine platonic friend. These are the people who […]

Could Your Friends Be Holding You Back?


 Share on Tumblr I heard this theory about how parents are inherently flawed in the fact that they never encourage you to truly chase your dreams. Yes, they may encourage you to chase a dream, but if it’s outside the realm of an attainable and realistic goal they are likely to tell you to try […]

Urban Male Chronicles: What Are We Supposed to Do? What Are We Supposed to Say?


 Share on Tumblr I was grabbing lunch with an acquaintance of mine that also happens to be a Black male HR professional. He’s the HR expert assigned to my organization by his massive and well-known company. Despite our frequent email exchanges, occasional meetings, and catch up calls, we’d never really gotten to know each other […]

Five Things About Men I’ll Teach My Son

Do as I say, not as I do.

 Share on TumblrA few months ago, I caught the baby fever. Yeah, it happens to men sometimes too. I found myself watching parents with their kids and couldn’t help but picture myself with my own miniature version of myself. I often think about what kind of parent I’ll be and what nuggets of wisdom I’ll […]

Friends vs. Associates: How Do You Know Who’s Who?


 Share on Tumblr Friend is a term that I see thrown around carelessly on a daily basis. I think that as children, we are ingrained with the notion that friend should be used in a broad sense. Anyone that you didn’t hate, but knew randomly, was a friend. As we grow older and experience these so-called […]

The Friend Zone: Where Good Men Are Punished for Being Good Men

The Friend Zone

 Share on Tumblr Let me open by stating that men and women can be friends. That issue, as far as I am concerned, is dead. However, you will find that women typically dictate the course of these “friendships.” Telling a man who likes you as more than a friend that you see him as “just a […]

I Need My Personal Space (Only Child Syndrome and More) feat. The Most Interesting Man in the World

A man asks for his space and now it's the silent treatment.

 Share on Tumblr  I had just finished dropping some groceries off at my grandmother’s house when I said in frustration, “I actually have to get going because I got a million errands to run today, I’m about to take my phone home and leave it there.”  The only part that was frustration was the fact […]