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Recently, someone asked me if “men enjoy being the sideman?” For those of you who are unfamiliar, the “sideman” refers to a man who plays the side-role to a woman he knows is in a committed relationship. His equal of the opposite sex is usually referred to as the “sidechick.” My answer: yes and no. [...]
Not a week goes by where I don’t read about a woman, usually multiple women, talking about heartbreak in the blogosphere – not that there’s anything wrong with that. As a writer/blogger, I am familiar with the cathartic process of sharing your inner most thoughts with complete strangers who even if they judge you have [...]
“I’m supposed to trust it, after he touched it?” — Beanie Sigel, “Bread and Butter” If you went outside and polled 100 men on what would happen if his woman cheated on him, it’s a safe bet roughly 99 of those men would say they’d kick her to the curb. For some men (I’m playing it [...]
It seems like we can’t go a month without hearing about some well-known man cheating on his slightly lesser-known wife. As I wrote about before, I don’t think all men cheat. I don’t even think most men cheat, but I can’t ignore the overwhelming evidence that shows that some men cheat. Often times, we focus [...]
Is it really work not to cheat? My coworker has a friend whose husband told his wife he will not go to dinner or for drinks when he’s on business trips if the crowd is mostly women because it’s too much temptation. Another guy friend has a similar rule. In the work plac,e he won’t [...]
Keeping with today’s theme, I came across an article on WomansDay.com (don’t ask) explaining what they claim are 12 “surprising facts” about cheaters. They primarily focus on unfaithful husbands. I’ve highlighted the list of these 12 facts below, with a few of the more interesting paragraphs as well. You can read the full article and a [...]
As some of you know, I occasionally pen posts for BadOnlineDates.com’s Male Point of View. This week, I was asked to provide the male perspective on sleeping with a married woman. I could of made this a moral debate, but is that really necessary? I assume we all know cheating is wrong; yet, 10 – 25% of [...]
If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between eight and 15 percent of children haven’t been fathered by the man who thinks he’s the biological parent. – Source. Editor’s Note: A few members of the SBM team have begun contributing their thoughts on dating and relationships to the popular [...]
The following is a true story. It had been a year since I moved to New York to pursue my Master’s and ultimately, a career in broadcast journalism. It was the loneliest year of my life. In a city with 13 million people, you’d think it was easy for a young, attractive, outgoing woman to [...]
A while back, I asked my Twitter followers a simple question: @WisdomIsMisery: if your significant other is a product of divorced parents, do you take this into consideration when dating them? Now before I get into the general theme of the responses, I’ll share my motivation for asking the question. I take into consideration whether my [...]
