urban | male | perspective
“How the hell do people do this?” I’d just walked in from a long day’s work — something I should be thankful for in a down economy. My hands felt like ice blocks and my face was numb from the jolting breeze. I couldn’t get my coat off soon enough so I could sink into [...]
I was grabbing lunch with an acquaintance of mine that also happens to be a Black male HR professional. He’s the HR expert assigned to my organization by his massive and well-known company. Despite our frequent email exchanges, occasional meetings, and catch up calls, we’d never really gotten to know each other outside of business. [...]
I felt this one. More than the passing of any other entertainer or celebrity, Whitney Houston’s death resonated with me in a way I never would have imagined possible. I started and stopped this post three different times, each time trying to figure out exactly what it was about Whitney that made her, for me, [...]
One of the first things I look at when I meet a woman that I may be interested in is her lips. No, I’m not looking at them to see if they have the potential to provide high speed internet—especially since lip size and fullness don’t automatically mean that someone has a high IQ. I [...]
My homegirl Miss Jenkins wrote a post yesterday on Thirsty Chicks…and I ain’t talkin’ lack of H2O consumption. As I laughed heartily at her description of thirsty broads, I thought about my time here in NYC so far and the interactions I’ve had with women in the real world. When I lived in Boston for [...]
**** Admin Note **** Don’t forget the new SBM.org shirt store! Help us out and support the site. Support us! http://singleblackmale.spreadshirt.com/ – SBM ***************** I was talking to one of my friends about daily life occurrences and he brought up the Pareto Principle, which is also known as the 80/20 rule. In it’s fundamental meaning, [...]
Tis the season for year end wrap ups, resolutions, and favorite ____ of 2009 and the decade on the internets. While we won’t have anything like that here which may be a possible #swindle because I don’t know what everyone else is writing about this week, lol I thought I would look back on 2009, [...]
I’ve been pressing all week to write this post. You see…this post falls on a special day for me. Scorpio season has returned, and it’s your favorite October Scorpios’ bornday! As I reflect on my time on this Earth, I see a maturity and overall evolution as a man. I also noticed a shift in [...]
***** Admin Note ***** As a few of you know, I am currently attempting to rent out a Condo in the Maryland Suburbs of DC (Largo/Upper Marlboro). It’s a 2 bed/ 2 bath and I need $1600. Walking distance to the metro, and gated community. If you are seriously interested, or know someone who is, [...]
I don’t trust very many people. Plain and simple, I expect the worst from folks initially and then let them accumulate points that will allow them to see or hear about different aspects of me. Knowledge is power and I don’t like people knowing too much. I used to be different. I would talk to [...]
