The Decision to Marry Is Not About You


Recently, I’ve been having a lot of conversations with women who are ready for marriage and family. As crazy as it is that people make the decision about marriage by themselves instead of as a couple is weird to me but I’ll set that aside for now. Later in the conversation I always ask these […]

“If Marriage Isn’t The Goal, Why Are You Dating Him/Her?”

Couple Cuddling in Bed

You may or may not have seen the above meme go viral. It’s really nothing new. Every time I see it my mind becomes conflicted. I’m conflicted because on paper, dating with the purpose of marriage is ideal. It’s exactly what many of us would like to do. At the same time, this meme isn’t […]

What Is With Female Marriage Proposals?


Blurred gender roles are a norm in today’s day and age. Most of us want equality for both sexes in all facets of life. Ideally, this would be the case. The truth is that for this to be, there will be some resistance in some instances. For instance we have today’s subject of marriage proposal. […]

What Is Marriage Material?


The love bug seems to have been striking like a “motha” and it’s definitely a good look. I can’t remember a time when the celebration of nuptials and the celebration of pregnancies were almost congruent. What people have been complaining about for years might be getting satisfied. For years now on social media we’ve seen […]

A Wife’s Love : What I Learned From “Legend’s House”


Like a few writers here at SBM, I’m a pro wrestling fan. As early as I can remember  I was watching it. It entertained me like other mediums didn’t. Now, at 25 I still watch. I might not watch as frequently, but it’s still a pastime. Over the last few weeks I was caught up […]

Can Cheating Make Your Relationship Stronger?


I’ve always thought that people should find ways to make their relationships work even if it might strike others as odd or unnatural. In the end there are only two people in your relationship, you and your significant other. I’ve sat on panels and had private conversations with so many people who tell me what […]

Have Blurred Gender Roles Pushed Men Away From Commitment?


About four years ago, I took a gender psychology course in undergrad. My term paper was based on how gender roles of women have changed between the 1950’s and present day. During this period of time women have made amazing strides. They’ve grabbed the bull by the horns and fought for equal opportunity. This fight […]

Are You Following These Relationship Rules in 2014?


I will not rush things… I will make exceptions, but no compromises… I will not make it about me… I will make a list of what a want to change about me…. I will make a list of what I want in a mate…. I will celebrate small wins in my relationships… I will ask questions […]

Does Empty Sex Lead Men To Commit?


  All men wonder one thing at some point in their lives. We all ask ourselves when will we know we are ready to commit? The photos I’ve provided here illustrate marriage as the ultimate form of commitment. Do not be swayed as I am not only speaking about marriage. When I say commitment, I’m […]

Why We Need to Change the Conversation About Engagement Rings


In the wake of Dwayne Wade proposing to Gabrielle Union, I am sure you all have taken a look at the engagement ring at some point. The rock is huge.  I am happy for Gabrielle and Dwayne. They have great chemistry, but I hope that gentlemen and ladies are not measuring their own commitment by […]