The Source For Black Male Perspective
I’ve had a number of female friends over the years ask, How can I tell he loves me? I’ve answered this question a lot of different ways but when it boils down to it, the best way to tell if a man loves you is to STRESS. HIM. OUT. I’m serious. You’re probably thinking to [...]
I’ll be honest, if I begin to genuinely like a woman and want more from her than to be some guy she is dating, I am going to ask myself: “Is this the best I can do?” It’s not a simple yes or no question. Like most people, when it comes to choosing one person [...]
It’s a week before the beginning of winter and the fall is ending. And while choosing the right coat can be perplexing when it’s 30 degrees in the morning, 65 at lunch and 45 during your commute home, it’s important that we begin to bundle up. Three months ago we spent some time looking at [...]
People have strange rules involving break-ups: You can’t break-up with someone within 72 hours of having sex, 7 days before or after their birthday, during the month of any major holiday, by text message, and never in the seasons of winter, spring, or summer. Given all these rules, you can technically only break-up with someone [...]
So a few weeks ago, I wrote an article on 5 things women need to do to keep men happy. We had some great participation, and some feelings were hurt. I received a few tweets, Facebook messages, and comments by some who were offended by the title or the notion that women NEED to do [...]
I was out with Shonna at one of her favorite spots. We’d been there for about an hour. She was laughing. I was smiling. We were having the best night we’d had together since we started dating. I put my drink on the bar, and let her know I had to make a pit stop [...]
I was watching VH1′s Tough Love Miami the other day and the contestants had to tell potential mates about their deal breakers. It made me realize that a number of single men and women are failing relationship tests they don’t even realize they’re taking. In other words, men and women are constantly evaluating one another [...]
Men always talk about what women can do to please them. We make it simple yet we have a laundry list of demands. Women say we are simple, and at times they are correct, but there’s a rhyme and reason to the things we demand. So I decided to list a few ways in which [...]
I recently wrote a post on my personal site asking a simple question, Do Black Men Not Value Marriage? Ideally, successful posts generate conversations that extend far beyond the limits of the comments section, Twitter, Facebook and/or wherever people chose to socialize on-line. A well written, thought provoking post will continue to haunt me generate debate [...]
This week we get a Single Black Mail message where a reader asks a poignant question about love and relationships: This is a subject I would like your opinions on: I watched Love Jones over the weekend and a scene that I never paid much attention to stood out to me for the first time, (and I’ve [...]
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