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Women far and wide hate having to approach men. Whether it’s a fear of rejection or some trite quotation stating how “women don’t find men, men find women,” most women are content with leaving the “hunting” to the men. Every once in a while though, a woman will find herself in a predicament where she [...]
Editor’s Note: The fellas and I were talking about old posts and I remembered this one from years ago that I thought our new readers would enjoy. You old mofos will be able to reminisce as well. Throwback Wednesday! -StreetZ So I find that in our macho ways, a lot of men dismiss the notion [...]
The popular theory is that women value sex more than men. This past weekend I was debating this topic with the misses. Eventually, I jokingly quoted from a Dave Chappelle routine, “if men could have sex in a box, they wouldn’t buy a house.” If you’re unfamiliar, this routine is shown in the YouTube video [...]
Not a week goes by where I don’t read about a woman, usually multiple women, talking about heartbreak in the blogosphere – not that there’s anything wrong with that. As a writer/blogger, I am familiar with the cathartic process of sharing your inner most thoughts with complete strangers who even if they judge you have [...]
Last week, Dr. J wrote a post on the New NYC Teen Pregnancy Prevention Ads. At some point during the day, a debate on the role of child support erupted in the comment section. In reading these comments, I realized very quickly that men and women have very different views on the role of child support, [...]
I was recently giving thought to past failures and things that go on in dating when I observed that a lot of men are put in positions where they’re constantly dealing with responding or reacting to a woman’s needs. I don’t think I ever looked at it this way until recently. Most men’s standards usually [...]
Awhile back a reader asked the following question of the SBM staff via email (By the way, contact us here if you want to send your own inquiries). I’ve read that for men long and lengthy, extended foreplay is not very important and necessary for most men. They like to “get right down to it.” [...]
“She Smashed The Homie” This issue has been a long standing cornerstone of the “G-Code” long before Ray J made this a contemporary phrase. There are many ways to look at this and since this is my first time connecting with you all, I’ll take my time to do so. Men have all sorts of [...]
A couple weeks ago, I got an email from a PR person pushing another relationship expert. I should’ve known when I looked at the janky subject line that I was in for some comedy: “Press Release: The [Rude Dude's] Guide To Dating (Please Post To Your Site)” First off, you don’t tell someone you have [...]
A woman recently asked me, “Why does it seem like men always choose the next woman to be serious with, usually after he says he doesn’t want to commit to the girl he’s dating, but then ends up being in a committed relationship/marrying the next woman he dates?” Even though I believe men are fairly [...]
