Why People Can’t Stand Relationship “Experts”


The man above is the well known Tony Gaskins. He recently sat down with Madame Noire for an interview. Madame Noire is a site that I frequent because of all the thought provoking content. This time around was no different as the subject matter got  the people buzzing. Feel free to watch the full interview […]

Debunking The Myth Of Doom For Single Black Women

Portrait Of Young Couple Sitting In Park

  Unmarried, accomplished black women are an anomaly to mainstream America. Not unmarried white women or asian women or light-skinned Latinas. Just the black ones. So self-help articles are written, listing the things that these sorts of women should do to catch a man, providing examples of relationships that “beat the odds” to encourage them […]

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NetFlix And Chilling Tells A Small Story In The Book Of Dating


We are in 2015 and the world is as trendy as it has ever been. Everything seems to trend. The creation of memes and starter packs trend. The increase of people wearing joggers trend. The amount of grown men wearing wigs to impersonate women trends!! That’s who we are right now. Another trendy activity that […]

Will He Wait In 2015?

Seattle Seahawks Quarterback Russell Wilson and entertainer Ciara Harris arrive for a state dinner for Japanese Prime Minister Shinzo Abe, Tuesday, April 28, 2015, at the White House in Washington. (AP Photo/Andrew Harnik)

Yes would be the simple answer here. There’s more behind that yes, which is probably why you’re reading this currently. I figured that this was the perfect time to rehash one of those really good conversations on celibacy. You see, America’s Golden Boy Russel Wilson currently dates the “cute an ting” Ciara. In a recent […]

Ask A Black Man: The Experience


  We are in full swing of the second season of Ask A Black Man on Madame Noire. I had the opportunity to participate and was glad to. I was a fan of the first season and appreciated what the series was striving for. There’s nothing like seeing guys come together and speak candidly on […]

Are You Worthy Of Being Committed To?


There’s a funny irony when you’re a writer who enjoys writing about relationships and dating. How could someone with all these wide perspectives still be a “single black male?” I’ve always thought that if you’re in the business of sharing perspective then it’s all good. Like Charles Barkley says, “There are no experts, only God […]

Another Dysfunctional Dating Story


I will be the first to say that dating is difficult. It’s stressful. As the woman, you have to make sure your hair is on point, nails done, and that what you wear is flattering. You have to worry about what to talk about, how much to disclose, and depending on what city you’re in, […]

Can We Date Friends Successfully?

friends to lovers

“When was the first time you fell in love with hip-hop?” The dynamics of a heterosexual friendship are almost endless. They are intriguing as they involve  this unspoken code of parameters to follow. Now if you’re a regular reader of my writing then you may know I love a good reality show. As of late […]

Who Decides What “Making Love” Is?


[embedyt]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1DsWazTC6_w[/embedyt] It’s Monday night, and we are in the midst of a big time snow day here in the northeast. That’s right, if you reside in a city in this vicinity then your city will be cuff city for a couple days. What better time to have a little fun with this topic. F****** vs […]

Views From The 6: A Retrospective On Women As My 26th Birthday Approaches


At this point I am less than a week from my 26th birthday. 25 was a fun year, a progress year. I expect 26 to be more of the same just with some bigger moves to be made. It was my own bright idea to share with my SBM family some thoughts I have and […]