Excuse Me Miss: Why Men Cat-Call Women Aggressively In Big Cities

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I need some advice.  I grew up in Oakland, California, which is technically a city but in most parts doesn’t feel like one. It’s just the hood. I recently moved to Philly for college, and while I love it here, I can’t deal with some of the men I encounter. Take note of the “some” […]

The Worst Thing a Man Can Do To a Woman

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I came across the following Salon article due to this introductory clause on their Twitter account, “This is the absolute worst thing a man can say to a woman.” “Smile, baby”: The words no woman wants to hear Yesterday, I missed a train and I was frustrated, hot and tired. A man standing in the […]

5 Lessons Learned from Failed Relationships that Made Me a Better Man

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The other day, I realized that I’ve learned some of my best relationship lessons from my worst relationships. Sometimes, good relationships end simply because you’re not meant to be, the timing isn’t right, or some other arbitrary factor completely out of your control triumphs. Other times, you become a better partner because of the relationships […]

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How Can Women Escape the Friend Zone?

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A SBM reader asks the following (submit your own questions here): I’ve been friends with this man for 1 year and we have a friends with benefits relationship. We only saw each other like once a month in the beginning, but lately in the past 3 months we’ve been seeing each other every week and […]

Do Women Really Value Sex More than Men?

What Women Want

The popular theory is that women value sex more than men. This past weekend I was debating this topic with the misses. Eventually, I jokingly quoted from a Dave Chappelle routine, “if men could have sex in a box, they wouldn’t buy a house.” If you’re unfamiliar, this routine is shown in the YouTube video […]

Is Foreplay Only for Women?

I'm not saying women are more complicated but...

Awhile back a reader asked the following question of the SBM staff via email (By the way, contact us here if you want to send your own inquiries). I’ve read that for men long and lengthy, extended foreplay is not very important and necessary for most men. They like to “get right down to it.” […]

A Man Complains: We Only Communicate Through Text

I said CALL me back, not TEXT me back!

I’ve already covered modern men who are too dependent on technology to bother formally courting, but what happens when a woman is too dependent on texting to talk? I address this conundrum in my latest for BadOnlineDates.com: The Male POV: I’m Dating an Over-Texter Many of you may be asking, “Wait…a man can dislike texting? But, don’t […]

10 Things Women Find Unattractive About Men but Won’t Tell Them

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A few years ago, I wrote a piece entitled, Ten Things Men Find Unattractive in Women But Probably Won’t Tell You. It’s been a pretty popular piece here on SBM, but it has always needed a reply from a woman’s perspective. Guest writer, Patia Braithwaite was gracious enough to leave us this post in reply. […]

Three Relationship Topics People Don’t Discuss Until It’s Too Late

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Last week, I debated no less than three different relationship topics with various people on and off-line. Taken individually, no single topic was particularly groundbreaking. But, when I began thinking about them in total I realized they’re topics that we think about but don’t like to discuss because the conversation is usually uncomfortable. Instead, we […]

The Perfect Woman: An Argument for Commitment

It varies.

Recently, but not for the first time, a frustrated friend-girl of mine asked if men are looking for “the perfect woman?” I answered simply: Yes. She seemed caught off guard by both the quickness of my response and the fact that I didn’t need to think about my answer. Of course men are looking for […]