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The popular theory is that women value sex more than men. This past weekend I was debating this topic with the misses. Eventually, I jokingly quoted from a Dave Chappelle routine, “if men could have sex in a box, they wouldn’t buy a house.” If you’re unfamiliar, this routine is shown in the YouTube video [...]
Awhile back a reader asked the following question of the SBM staff via email (By the way, contact us here if you want to send your own inquiries). I’ve read that for men long and lengthy, extended foreplay is not very important and necessary for most men. They like to “get right down to it.” [...]
“She Smashed The Homie” This issue has been a long standing cornerstone of the “G-Code” long before Ray J made this a contemporary phrase. There are many ways to look at this and since this is my first time connecting with you all, I’ll take my time to do so. Men have all sorts of [...]
Whether you’re aware or not, it is very likely that male birth control will be made available within our lifetimes. Actually, with clinical trials in the US scheduled to begin last year, it may be available as early as 2015 if approved by the FDA. When you consider the fact that it’s already been successfully [...]
A faithful, well-respected SBM reader forwarded me a story sharing the findings of iVillage’s 2013 Married Sex Survey. Now in the interest of full-disclosure, I’ll admit I had no idea what an iVillage was or that they, apparently, do an annual Married Sex Survey each year until I received this link. Will wonders never cease?! [...]
Preface: You will never ever get a straight answer out of me on how many people I’ve slept with. I was going around the Internet the other day and I came across an article that talked about the different ways people keep track of who they’ve slept with in their past. It took me back [...]
According to Nick Cannon, he waited until the marriage night to finally have sex with Mariah Carey. Now that’s not to say some things didn’t go down beforehand, but still… I’m not sure that many of us have that power in us to wait until marriage to get in those jeans. Nick Cannon recently opened [...]
We often talk about Love in a marriage in terms of “forever,” but we rarely talk about what that means. How do you get to forever? Many of us haven’t even been with the same car insurance company for over a decade, yet we automatically assume we all posses the loyalty necessary within us to truly Love [...]
I was asked to answer two questions pertaining to men’s view on women and sex this week on MadameNoire. Honestly ladies, I think if you have to ask if it’s too soon to have sex, then it’s probably too soon to have sex. It really shouldn’t be that complicated and last I checked, it’s your [...]
Excluding a pungent aroma, I don’t think women can be bad in bed. They just can’t. A number of men disagree but I don’t understand how when most people’s measurement for a pleasurable experience, an orgasm, is almost 125% guaranteed every time for a man; whereas for a woman, it’s 50/50 at best. This is like being [...]
