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I recently read an article on (the sarcastically titled) BlackGirlsAreEasy.com called How to Talk to Women – a post offering advice to men on how to approach and talk to women – that contained a one-liner that caught my attention. Any dude who says he doesn’t know what he wants from a girl he’s known [...]
Women far and wide hate having to approach men. Whether it’s a fear of rejection or some trite quotation stating how “women don’t find men, men find women,” most women are content with leaving the “hunting” to the men. Every once in a while though, a woman will find herself in a predicament where she [...]
Editor’s Note: The fellas and I were talking about old posts and I remembered this one from years ago that I thought our new readers would enjoy. You old mofos will be able to reminisce as well. Throwback Wednesday! -StreetZ So I find that in our macho ways, a lot of men dismiss the notion [...]
A SBM reader asks the following (submit your own questions here): I’ve been friends with this man for 1 year and we have a friends with benefits relationship. We only saw each other like once a month in the beginning, but lately in the past 3 months we’ve been seeing each other every week and [...]
The popular theory is that women value sex more than men. This past weekend I was debating this topic with the misses. Eventually, I jokingly quoted from a Dave Chappelle routine, “if men could have sex in a box, they wouldn’t buy a house.” If you’re unfamiliar, this routine is shown in the YouTube video [...]
With all the focus on bedroom skills, sometimes it seems like men forget the fact that the majority of the time they spend with a woman will occur outside of the bedroom. As the saying goes, “It’s not about who you want to spend your Friday night with but who you want to spend all day Saturday [...]
Last week, Dr. J wrote a post on the New NYC Teen Pregnancy Prevention Ads. At some point during the day, a debate on the role of child support erupted in the comment section. In reading these comments, I realized very quickly that men and women have very different views on the role of child [...]
“I’m supposed to trust it, after he touched it?” — Beanie Sigel, “Bread and Butter” If you went outside and polled 100 men on what would happen if his woman cheated on him, it’s a safe bet roughly 99 of those men would say they’d kick her to the curb. For some men (I’m playing it [...]
Awhile back a reader asked the following question of the SBM staff via email (By the way, contact us here if you want to send your own inquiries). I’ve read that for men long and lengthy, extended foreplay is not very important and necessary for most men. They like to “get right down to it.” [...]
“She Smashed The Homie” This issue has been a long standing cornerstone of the “G-Code” long before Ray J made this a contemporary phrase. There are many ways to look at this and since this is my first time connecting with you all, I’ll take my time to do so. Men have all sorts of [...]
