Why That THOT Belongs To All of Us and The Need to Get Rid of It

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Have you ever really sat and thought about society? I made an observation not too long ago that we’d reached a point where as a society we were in a good place but we were also in a really bad place. You see, at this point everybody should feel encouraged to express themselves, their beliefs […]

For Women: The DIY Dating Style

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After watching a dating segment on Bethenny (don’t judge), I became perplexed by the amount of dating rules discussed. There was one rule in particular that sent my eyebrows into a fury. The two female panelists suggested that after a man’s initial text, a woman should wait at least four hours before responding! Hmmm… I […]

What Do We Really Know About Relationships in 2014?

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I find it hard that in 2014, we are still rehashing many of the same issues we’ve been talking about for the last six years since blogging turned into the industry that it is now. As it pertains to relationships, every year there’s a whole new dose of the same issues and topics with fresh […]

Date That Man: 6 Reasons Girl Code Should Be the Exception, Not the Rule in Dating

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By Mo Black women are destined for a life of singledom. Haven’t you heard? It’s been estimated that 42 percent of us haven’t married. That’s twice that of white women. Eeeekkkk! And if we wanted to get married, 1 out of 12 of us wouldn’t, even if every black man in America married a black […]

Are Your Assets Depreciable?

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In terms of dating, is what you bring to the table valuable? To find out, make a list of 3-5 of your very best qualities. These are the attributes that set you, as a man, apart from other men (or in the case of women, set you apart from other women). For each quality that […]

Benefits of Counseling & Therapy For African-Americans

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Silence, stigma, discrimination and shame shroud many things in the Black community; particularly, mental health awareness. I know I like to handle things myself.  After all, who knows you better than yourself? However, there is nothing like having an unbiased, open ear to the story of your life. There is power in utilizing the services […]

We Want Women Who Enjoy Being Feminine

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Until I started having substantive conversations with a female friend who has a history of emotional trauma, I had no idea why so many women choose to act in masculine ways. I didn’t understand why the concept of the “fierce” woman was seen as a desirable model for behavior. I thought these women were difficult […]

How A Man Can Avoid The Friend-Zone

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Men get friend zoned for one reason and one reason only: they’re too available. When you’re friend-zoned by someone, they know that no matter what, they can always depend on you as a plan B if all of their other less available options don’t work out. Whether we like it or not, that’s just the […]

Can Enitan Bereola Be Entrusted With Teaching Women How To Be Ladies?

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I’ve noticed throughout my online writing career that writing about relationships was the gateway for most bloggers. I know Steve Harvey wasn’t the chief purveyor of relationship advice before he exploded onto the scene with Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man…but it appeared to spark an increase in relationship-driven content written by men and […]

5 Names You Should Never Call a Black Woman

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There’s a long list of names, words, or phrases that women don’t like being called or associated with at all. Much like other words, it doesn’t mean that women haven’t owned their fair share of them and started to use them as terms of endearment. What it does mean is that a man would be […]