How Do Men Avoid The “What Are We?” Question?

The last time I wrote here I gave my thoughts on a video that was produced by Buzzfeed. The video chronicled a woman hurt by a man who simply wasn’t honest with her. He hurt her by his lies and she felt the need to let people know that we all should be aware of […]

The Decision to Marry Is Not About You

Recently, I’ve been having a lot of conversations with women who are ready for marriage and family. As crazy as it is that people make the decision about marriage by themselves instead of as a couple is weird to me but I’ll set that aside for now. Later in the conversation I always ask these […]

Ask A Black Man: The Experience

  We are in full swing of the second season of Ask A Black Man on Madame Noire. I had the opportunity to participate and was glad to. I was a fan of the first season and appreciated what the series was striving for. There’s nothing like seeing guys come together and speak candidly on […]

14 Crucial Things Black Women Look For In A Husband

In response to the 10 things black men look for in a wife. A couple weeks ago, created a list of Ten Things Black Men Look for in a Wife. And then they followed it up with a part two, adding 10 more attributes and opening the challenge for women to chime in with their […]

Why Has He Given You the Crazy Chick Title?

Strolling the streets of the Internet and I ran across a short list of reasons that men like to title women… “crazy.” I’ve made a personal challenge and commitment to not use this terminology because I think it’s lazy and men should just articulate themselves better. Nonetheless, these eight  things are actually spot on for […]

How Do We Help The Friend That Won’t Listen?

By now you’ve heard about this little pop tart moment Chris Brown had on Monday. If you’re not familiar, take a quick look a  post on Madame Noire here. In a nutshell the ladies of the talk show “The Real” on Fox were having a roundtable discussion about  what they called “inter-friend-tions.” This is when […]

Can You Let A Man Down Easy?

We’ve all been there. We have all had to tell someone that we weren’t interested. Whether it be we weren’t interested in being in a relationship or being more than platonic friends. It’s a compromising position. To the majority of us who don’t want to intentionally hurt someone, we spend time trying to find the […]

Practicing The Art of Karrueche

Let’s talk about the cyclical relationships that women have in a man’s life. The main chick is annoyed at the side piece for trying to steal her man. The side piece is mad at the main chick for actually thinking that she can fully satisfy her man. The main chick and the side piece are […]

The Hot vs. Emotional Unavailability Matrix – Women’s Guide to Men

Not that there’s anything wrong with women taking a crack at the matrix. I’m sure most have seen the Hot vs. Crazy Matrix by the genius who posted in it late July. This is a version for women to evaluate men on a Hot and Emotional Unavailability Matrix. Thoughts?

Why Being In Love Shouldn’t Feel The Same Every Time

“I Think I fall in love a little bit with anyone who shows me their soul. This world is so guarded and fearful. I appreciate rawness so much.” The above quote was “screenshotted” by me from instagram. It speaks almost directly to what I’d like to get into today. I have become an avid listener […]