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Ass Grabbing: Disrespectful to you … Cute to your friend!


To start things off … I don’t go around grabbing random asses.  I’m not saying I never did, but that was back in high school (ok … may have done it in college too … but only when liquor was involved).  But this post isn’t just about ass grabbing … its so much more.

My female friends (Only have 2 true female friends) and some acquaintances have continually spoken out against the “agressiveness” of guys when going to a club, lounge, or other “social” scene.  There are several actions that are listed as “unwarranted” and “extreme”, including but not limited to:

  • Grabbing ass (booty)
  • Grabbing and arm firmly and not letting go
  • Yelling loudly at you referring to some physical characteristic (“Hey you … in the pink … with the titties”)
  • Yelling loudly refering to articles of clothing (“Hey Parsucos!”)
  • Coming up really close (withint 4 inches of the face), with no introduction, to talk
  • Pulling one’s Penis out while dancing (True Story!)

And the list goes on …

So I am often asked “Why do you guys do that?  Its such a turn off and I would never entertain a guy that did that!!!”.  Well, I always have the same response.

Someone is reponding well to it … otherwise he wouldn’t do it.

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Yes, its that simple.  Not every girl has these standards of respect and acceptable behavior. There are a lot of women (often bucket heads) who respond favorably to it.  If every single girl hated it … no guy would do it!  Its a basic principal of economics and free markets, but you don’t need to know that to figure it out.  Guys don’t do what doesn’t work … how else do you explain the death of Jerry Curls, white Gators, and them Old school perms.

Also, the numbers game comes into play.  If your in a crowded after hours enviroment, as a guy, you are presented with more women than you can realistically talk to in the time given.  What better way to thin the crowds and find “Mrs. Right Now” than by doing something abrasive, then ignoring all the girls that react badly, and put in work on whoever doesn’t slap you.  Whoever is willing to have her ass grabbed and still entertain conversation … probably is lacking scruples, or at least is willing to put them on hold for now.  She might be the one to get in your car after one more drink!

In the end, for those of you truly against this behavior (which does taper off as the years go on … and diminishes at certain types of venues) there is one simple solution to ending it for good … stop responding to it and blatantly carry anyone who tries it … and then go tell all your friends to do the same.  If a guy can’t get some “play” from it … he’ll stop doing it.

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Part of me feels like this is common knowledge and I’m not saying anything new … but part of me feels like I hear the complaint too often for that to be true.

Ladies: Does the ass grab do it for you?
Fellas: Is the ass grab working for you?


  1. I am a gentleman…I have honestly never done this in public…unless I knew the woman really, really well. Scratch that – it happens all the time in the skrip club – transactional love. Real women will whoop your ass for doing this…after the grab it would start with a "whatever she was drinking shower" followed by a knuckle sandwiche and washed down with a "you'd better buy that same drank I spilled on yo ignant ass!"


  2. IT has never worked, even when i was seeing double…you have no right to touch me! Especially the southern region of my body…no fun there…unless you are my man and have been crowned my king, an even then we would have negotiated the body parts you would be allowed to touch in public.

  3. Hello, Negro: Yeah, funny thing I have been told about more than one separate incident with different people. Made me think its more popular. Funniest thing, the girl kept dancing. She just told him "put that away" and continued to dance. Proving my point.

    MizRepresent: Honestly, not sure the actual random ass grab has actually worked for anyone I know, but I know people have had good results with the "Hey you … in the pink with the ass" and the old DC favorite "Hey Parasucos".

    I've always wanted to try these ignorant tactics just for a night to see how it is, but can never bring myself to it. Maybe some of that liquid courage (liquor) will help with my case experiment.

  4. Yeah I've never liked the grabbing, especially if you grab anything below my waste. But I disagree with doing the crucial carry because some guys just really kirk out over a carry at the club and will even get physical or irate about stuff. I think it should be the classy carry where you're firm and tell them don't touch you. Don't be loud and try to draw attention to the situation b/c with the wrong kind of dude, the a** grab can just really lead to the drama.

  5. I say if you dont want your ass grabbed then dont wear those dam short shorts with low rise and panties hangin out while your dancin like a slut…cause thats what turns guys on so obviousley dont show it if you dont want it touched easy as that…

  6. i have done all those except for the dick pulling out action .
    they never really work but girls still smile at you.
    and some dance with you n makeout, so i guess it does work but rarely

  7. Some girls like it and some don't. You just have to feel it out first like if she is hella grindin on you and drunk to then she usually wont mind. I just went to a fat party in Chico hella waisted and danced with alot of girls there. I was to drunk to help myself from rubbin a few chicks asses. Couple were down as fuck and started making out and would of got pussy but there was no room. Next girl however, tryed to slap this bitches ass and she grabbed my arm and was like "I don't know you" haha but fuck it she kept grinding on me.


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