I tried to write this in a general way, so that everyone could learn and grow from my words. I failed … I concluded I know me … so this is really “10 Questions I Must Ast Before I Propose”. Maybe you’ll still learn something though. I tried to put them in order of importance, but really, they are all equally important.
10. What’s your favorite book?
I love intelligent women. If you answer this question with a magazine … I made a mistake. If you don’t have an answer … I made a mistake. I’m not super picky, so it doesn’t have to be Shakespeare, or the works of Plato, but it better damn well be over 100 pages and not have pictures. It could be an inspirational book, or taught her a skill, but its gotta be something none “bucket headish”.
9. Did you vote for Bush (Georgre W.)?
I’m not a super politcal person. I wasn’t geeked about Kerry the second time around, but damnit I gotta make a stance somewhere. If you supported the worst president that has come around in my short time on this earth … then you GOTTA go.
8. Do you plan to gain 30 pounds or more once married?
I’m not the most physically fit, I’m not winning Mr. Universe … well ever. But I do watch what I eat, and I do go to the gym (not reguarly) and I don’t want to gain 30 pounds. I also don’t like surprises. Statements like “I can’t wait until I get married … I’m so tired of working out! I haven’t eaten a bon bon in years!” … means that we need to have a little talk.
7. How many people have you slept with?
I don’t care how many people say “It doesn’t matter” and I don’t care how many “Its in the past” that I’m told … damnit … I care! I don’t have a number that I need a girl to meet, and I am really OK with a relatively high number, but I don’t want any surprises. I don’t want to find out you slept with all of DC.
On a side note “Have you slept with any of my friends?” is a good follow up.
6. Are you still going to that “thing” I like, as well as find out a couple more?
I don’t want boring sex for the rest of my life. I have never cheated on anyone before (honest!) and I don’t want to be “tempted” because you got lazy. A ring doesn’t mean you get to stop trying!
5. What are your plans with your career/business/hustle?
Mrs. SBM is going to be working if there aren’t any little SBM’s running around the house. And not only do I want to find someone working, but she needs to have goals, aspirations, and a realistic plan on getting there. I need someone who can match, come close to, or exceed my earning potential. And if your not bringing in the dough … you need to be changing the world (I love teachers). Looking for a partner, not a dependent!
4. Have you been arrested, admitted to a mental hospital, or been in rehab?
Again, I don’t want any surprises. You would be surprised about what I would be OK with … but I need to know. I don’t want to hear “yeah … I had this little crack problem” two weeks into the marriage … because then all that money spent on the wedding was a waste since we are about to get an annulment.
3. Are you going to sign this prenuptial?
Kanye said it best … “We want Prenup!”. I don’t care if I’m marrying Oprah, I want a prenup. I don’t plan to hustle anyone with a divorce, and I don’t want anyone thinking they can get me. I don’t care what your mom told me, what your friends say, or what you were taught … if the answer is no … then I know not to waste my money on a ring. Period.
2. Whats your credit score? Where is your money invested?
We already talked about your plans to continue making money, but how do you handle it when you get it? I don’t need anyone spending my cash, spending my dough, and getting us in debt. If the answer to the second one is “nowhere” … then thats where this relationship might be heading.
1. Are you going to continue to break me off (give me “some) at least 5 times a week (7 for the first year)?
Uh … do I really need to explain or elaborate on this one?!?!?!
Do these make as much sense to you as they do to me???