The Throwback … not just a jersey from an old team … not just an old school song that reminds you of high school (or college) … but something you may have sitting on your couch right now.
Most relationships end in failure … but sometimes you thing back to an old one and wonder “why”? Sometimes when you think back about why you and that “special” person didn’t work out you realize something … maybe you weren’t mature enough … or maybe they weren’t mature enough … or maybe it was that crack problem and you being tired of your TV being stolen once a week. Whatever it was … sometimes you think … “Maybe things are different now”.
Lets take a quick second to define The Throwback …
Someone you had a previous relationship or temporary dating situation with, but it didn’t work out. This person is trying to make a comeback, is being considered for a comeback, or has is has already made a comeback.
Basically … someone you dated before who you are looking to date again.
The throwback is an interesting situation with two major schools of thought:
- This person didn’t work out the first time around … your a damn fool for thinking different now!
- People change, people grow, things happen … stop living in the past!
The truth of the matter is … people do change … life experiences can cause a “paradigm shift” and bring about new understanding, emotional adjustment and attitude towards life. Major life changing moments such as the death of a parent, a nasty break-up, getting someone pregnant, or losing a job can bring about the self reflection needed to change a person’s attitude for the better. Also, there was something you liked about this person before. Maybe it was the thing they did with their tounge, the way they held you at night, or what she did for you in the car!
On the other hand, change doesn’t come around easy and people lie. Real change is hard … faking change isn’t. Someone who knows you well and knows what about them you don’t like can “change” their behavior just long enough for them to get that $500 off you, get their rent paid, or get that good p*ssy they have been without.
The SBM has entertained a couple throwbacks in his time. Since my Relationship ADD has brought about an early end to many potential “future
baby’s mamas wives” … I have thought “maybe they deserve a second chance … maybe it was me”. Sadly, I almost always just remember all the reasons I stopped calling in the first place … and things end up bad … well … not always bad (sometimes I’m “compensated” for my time) … but she never regains the thrown.
So … throwbacks … I can’t say they’re bad … I can’t say they’re good … but just make sure they got off “that stuff” before you bring them back in your house!